I need some help understanding women!

[Anonymous]

I think this girl I work with has a serious crush on me. She kind of has this look in her eye when we talk. I only worked in her area for a month. The boss was very close with her and would send the two of us out to pick up milk shakes. On these walks she would tell me a lot about herself and ask me lots of very personal questions. On my last day in the department her and another woman stayed late and decorated my desk, I mean she went all out. She was off that day so I didn't get to see her to thank her. I emailed her and the other woman thank you. She found out that I was working down the hall that next week and emailed me back acting like she was upset that I couldn't even stop by to say hi. She said it in a joking way, but she seriously seemed mad at me in real life. The next time I saw her she seemed mad at me and was short with me. Like bad this crazy pissed tone but was smiling at me at the same time. What's up with this girl? Did I do something to piss her off !

[MoltenRose]

I think it would be safe to say she likes you very much. The question now is your feelings about it and what you are going to DO about it. Actions speak louder than words. If you are interested in her ask her if she would like to go to lunch or coffee or a drink sometime. If you just want to stay friends, don't ignore her, but visit her and keep it casual. She should eventually get the picture.

If she is dense like me it might be worth the risk to talk to her about it. Stay calm and collected. Be gracious and pleasant regardless of your feelings towards her.

[Anonymous]

Nothing's up with her; she seems to just be flirtatious by nature. She pouts from the lack of attention but is not necessarily sincere about it. If she's single, you can send her an occasional email or something to just say "hi, how's it going on your end of the hall?" nothing outrageous or explicit.

Personally, office flirtations are a conflict of interest and not to be taken anywhere. They're a bad idea in general. Find someone else to occupy your interest.

[martyfellow]

She may have a crush, but at the same time, she doesn't want office gossip TOO much, so she sometimes tries to keep you at a distance. That's my guess.

She could also be angry that you haven't made special efforts to see her, and/or haven't asked to see her outside of work..She may think you aren't being eager enough since she's dropping hints and telling you so much about her personal life.

[lulubear]

She is probably being playfully mad, but is taking it a bit far.

[Asker]

Yea I don't get it, se mad a big effort to deck out my desk so I think shesa little upset

[Croutons]

She probably wants more of your attention