Why are we so afraid to point out when people are eating too much or poorly?

[Anonymous]

When I was visiting my family in Peru my grandma and family always watched out for each other. If someone was eating too many of the unhealthy things or eating too much someone would lovingly mention it and/or give them some of the healthy food. My uncle calls his wife "gordita" which is like a cute way of saying "fatty." and she laughs calls him bandito. She is fat but she isn't concerned with it. I had gained a bit of weight and so when I went over there my grandma was like, "oh no you're fat! I'll make you some good healthy food." She'd mention it every now and then if my cousins or uncles/aunt called to ask how I was. I ended up losing a ton of weight and went back to my pre-finals weight and my confidence soared up! Even when she was calling me fat, it didn't effect me at all because she was doing it because she cared and not in a mean way. Also she stuffed me with healthy food and she was more mad that I wouldn't eat more lol.

My boyfriend and I will watch out for each other too. Like if he's on his 3rd bowl of ice cream I'll point it out and if I'm on my 3rd pizza slice he'd point it out. We exercise together and if I gain weight and ask him if it looks like I have he answers honestly.

I don't understand why we should lie to each other and beat around the bush. If you're around close friends/family/ SO shouldn't we watch out for each others' health and esp. if someone is becoming unhealthy? What do you guys think?

We should be more honest with the ones we love

We should let them be

We should say something if it gets really bad

[Ameya]

I believe eating is as sensitive an issue as religion for some people :D Just the way you wouldn't like somebody staring or looking at you while you are eating, telling someone not to eat so much is considered ill manners I guess. Besides, the appetite ranges for many. Teenagers or early 20's eat a lot since it is the growing age. Others might eat a lot out of habit, while for most in today's world, they eat a lot out of stress more than hunger...tension too could be the reason, people eat a lot when they are under some pressure...they can only be told in a subtle way if not directly because it could sound harsh at times.

In the end it's important for your body to digest all that you eat, a high metabolism like mine works. :) :) :D

[martyfellow]

In the S being fat is part of the subculture for some people, and any criticism of their eating will get nothing but anger.

The legislature in Mississippi, for example, made it illegal to require fast food jonts to post the nutrtional analysis of their menu items.

Just like, if you answer questions on gag about people's obesity, you'll usually get reported as being 'offensive.

[Stacyzee]

Because of the images we are expected to live up to in America.

Look at celebrities looking like pure perfection with their

tight fit bodies, plastic surgeries, (flawless) face because of make up.

They are altered so much even with photo shop to give off this image of what a man

or a woman is expected to look like.

People need to understand there is no such thing has perfection

then they will stop getting so offended.

The culture is completely different.

This can explain the reactions of why people get so offended easily.

[Prettygurl12]

I don't know but I have the same problem. My friend is overweight and is trying to lose weight and she doesn't get why it's not working. She goes to the gym and eats healthy...I just don't have the heart to tell her that she's eating way too much. Too much good food = poor eating.

[Nana_4]

I really don't see a point in doing so. It's not your health, I'm sure they know what is good and bad for them. I am really in tune with my own health and I don't point stuff like that out to people. I mention how things are bad for the body, but I never tell someone that they're eating too much, etc. That can lead to ED's.

[ZenQueen]

lol, I get called gorda too! I don't say anything to my family because it starts too much drama. It is hard to stay healthy maybe they are going through a tough time and don't need the extra criticism. But I like the idea of handing them healthy food I do that sometimes.

[sluggofacepoojohnson]

Human nature says that when you address an issue of food or even addiction then it worsens with people. People change when they hit a bottom or when they are sick of it and then make a change. I let people be and let them make their own choices. You tell someone no they will do the opposite 90% of the time or more.

[sluggofacepoojohnson]

And just a thought about your poll. People that are fat know they are fat. Saying something will not make them aware of the "new" situation. Just saying hun

[COCOCHANEL]

my weight doesn't fluctuate so no one says this to me but they chuckle because I always order steak. I usually don't eat that much but if I do people say "wow you can eat a lot"

[beastman88]

iam not the kind of person to tell someone how to live their life nor would I want someone to tell me how to live mine

[TangerineFire1]

It is none of my business what a person consumes. Now if they make it my business I will give my two cents.

[JamielovesKU]

Maybe theyre guilty of it themselves and don't want to say anything...

[bh6676r942]

I wouldn't unless it was my kid or someone I know who is really gluttonous

[tiredofwaiting]

I think it is a matter of a lot of people feel it is not their job to tell people what to eat and that they are unhealthy.

[UlsterScot]

Not our business.