Girls, have you had a boyfriend who fights with his mom a lot?

My boyfriend is really nasty to his mom and it makes me very uncomfortable, of course i've told him about it and he says he will try to avoid arguing with her in front of me but it still happens at times and i don't know how to deal with those situations. It's started to cause problems between us. How do you guys handle it?


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  • I would have a serious talk with him. Because if you plan on marrying him, there could be some major issues. If it's the situation where the mom is horrible and she is doing things that cause him to be that way, then I think it wouldn't be as much of a problem. But if he's just like that for no reason or for silly things, I don't think it would be a good idea to be with him. Because one day it could be you who he is rude to like that. So try to analyze the situation between them and try to make the right call.

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    • Thanks for your comment, i thought the same.

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  • That's not a good sign, especially if she doesn't do anything serious to deserve being treated like that. Like I get that some moms are terrible, not all moms are completely innocent and they're capable of treating everyone like shit. But if he has mommy issues, he might eventually start taking them out on you. Especially if you plan on being together for a long time and he starts seeing you as the mom of his children (especially if you actually have children together at some point). He might have a problem with mother figures in general, and that's why he might start taking it out on you. Figure out if that's a possibility by looking at the reasons as to why he lashes out on his mom. Are they reasonable, does she treat him horribly? Or are they completely trivial and just plain weird? If it's the latter, you might definitely be in the danger zone yourself.

    How a guy treats his mother is generally a decent indicator of how he will treat women, unless his mom starts shit for no reason obviously. Then he might not have any other option to behave like that, and would never treat any other woman like that unless she started treating him just as badly as his mom treats him.

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    • Agreed! A mom is the very first relationship a boy has with a woman and if he shows her no respect, the woman who gave him life and cared for him for all of his childhood then that is a terrible sign of how he might treat *lesser* women in his life that haven't given him half as much. As a girlfriend or future wife it is very upsetting to hear a guy fighting and screaming at his mother. It's a tell-tale sign of things to come in the marriage.

  • One of the first guys I dated was like that. Turns out he had a lot of pent up aggression towards his mother because he blamed her for his father's absence in his life. :/ It was like he was blaming her for procreating with that type of guy. That's not right. smh That wasn't her fault ya know it's not like he made it clear that he would not be supportive in his child's life.

    I handled it by eventually moving on and not dating him anymore. I get that he had issues but constantly disrespecting his mom and tearing her down was a MAJOR turn-off. There were times where he would try to take the same tone with me and I wasn't having that! He had to go

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  • my boyfriends mom is a super tweaker and she's fucked us over a few times so my boyfriend and her don't get along.
    they have been in psychical fights and shit like that and i just sand there like
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    if it makes you uncomfortable when they argue then just walk away and get some air. its hard but /:

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    • Thanks for your comment, i shall try that next time.

  • Oky.. so i have boyfriend who fight with his mother everytime.. ..
    But i think he fight with his mother for me.. cz his mother i think dont want me.. but i dont care cz her son loves me..
    by the way what a fight problem with you'r boyfriend and his mother? .. for you or for what?

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  • The way a guy treats and respects his mother is how he's going to treat and respect his woman.

    Tbh, if i saw that happening on a regular basis, i would've been dumb that jerk.

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