What kind of compliments mean more to you: Compliments about your looks, your personality or your job performance?

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Me: I've gotten compliments about all three lately.. But the two that meant the most to me were both on the job.. One from a 16 year old girl that was leaving to go back to school and asked if I'd miss her and when I asked if she'd miss me, she said of course, to which I jokingly said "liar" . She said really, she told her mom all about me and how she couldn't be more in aww of me... I must say that really touched me. (I don't think my own kids would say that 🙄 LOL) And the other was from a male Co worker that came up to me and said the speed and quality of my work was very impressive and I'm an awesome employee...

tatianamay · Accepted Answer

Personality and job performance. I get complimented on all 3 fairly often, to be honest. Most people tell me that I'm kind, sweet and empathetic. And my teachers and other family members, when they trust me with a work, they often say this: "I knew you were the right person for this job" or "I knew you'd be awesome at this. I did the right thing by choosing you to do this task." I get complimented on my looks by some weird, creepy people and my mom sometimes so I don't know if its true lol. But my mom often tells me that my eyes and my hair are my best features.

Looks fade, I'm just 16, so my face may change a little over time.
Job perf- I give my best at anything I do. So getting complimented on something I poured my heart and soul would be an amazing feeling
Personality- I believe that a person's personality may change a bit over time. Some people may change for the better and some for the worse. I like it when people compliment me on my personality because I know that I'm being friendly to them. I always try to be friendly to everyone, because you never know what the other person is going through

In short, 1- Job Performance
2- Personality
3- Looks

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Well I never get complimented on my looks so let's skip that option! Haha

Nowadays, and as I get older, I love getting compliments on my job performance; it makes me feel appreciated and wanted 😊
Most companies and managers DO NOT give praise and reward employees they like deserve... or worse, do so to the wrong people. As a result, it makes those of us that do our jobs feel demoralized, or seek employment elsewhere.

Personality is a close second: having people compliment me on my traits makes me happy that people see past superficial features and value me.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Hmmm... Interesting question.

I wouldn't appreciate either one. A woman complimenting my looks is both lying dead to my face AND insulting my intelligence! And someone complimenting my job performance means nothing to me because I'm very self-aware of how good or bad of a job I'm doing, so to me, it's like stating the obvious.

Of the two, I think complimenting my job performance would annoy me less, so I'll vote for that one. But guys in general don't tend to ever get compliments, anyway. It's like a once-a-year thing or less for men. And in my lifetime, I've gotten so few, I can't even remember the last one I've gotten. Outside of one GAG'ers friend (and possibly also her), the last compliment I've gotten was in 2018, I think. A 5'9", 19 year old girl called me "hot." Yes, I stated her age for a reason.

Xoirwinkan · Accepted Answer

I have gotten so few compliments in my life as a man that I can literally only remember a few about my looks. But I think I would prefer ones about my quirky self, rather than looks, which I am fine with and don't really need to hear about, or work, which is mostly whatever.
My most cherished memory of a compliment was from early 2018, when a girl I was working with and laughed around with told me I had a good sounding laugh. It really meant something since laughing loudly is a big part of my personality.

JClone55 · Answer

Job performance by a country mile. Good work ethic says a lot about a person. Moreover, people can lie to you about being handsome/beautiful or that you're a nice guy/girl because those are more subjective. But work performance is a lot harder to bullshit somebody about because it's based on things like numbers and schedules and output which everybody can see and record. It's more concrete. So when somebody tells you you're doing a good job at work, they're usually not bullshitting you. It's based on something they can see clearly.

IAMNathanael · Answer

Ah that's sweet about that girl and I'm glad your work is recognized : )

Right now I'd be especially grateful for any compliment about my job performance. I just became a baker and I've got frantic nerves that make me second guess myself. Thankfully my overseers say I'm doing excellent for just starting (even despite all the mistakes I make).

pjf1958 · Answer

The best kind of compliment, is one that is a spur of the moment. For example, when I'm talking to my fiance, and I see hear smile, and I hear her laugh. I'm suddenly inspired to tell her how I can't imagine my life without her. Then I tell her, "you have no idea how special you are to me. How precious." I believe that kind of spontaneity is more genuine, more real.

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ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Ones about how I am as a person, but sensible ones, not blowing smoke type, where the person is being genuine.

work wise, I able to work out myself if I’ve done a good job or if team has. I rarely want or expect praise for doing what I am paid for, hypocritically I will however praise, compliment individual team members or the entire team if they did a really good job.

linked to the latter I also based this years bonus’s heavily on where someone went that extra bit etc to get a task sorted or came up with a wow type of solution, yes it’s their job but it’s those extra bits that make it so more important.

looks, nah ain’t happening lol.

having typed this I sort of prefer it by proxy, being told I have a great group of teams or how they work well together, or how nice my daughter is.

NathanDavis · Answer

whatever it is... the genuine ones can mean more to me

and I know I prefer to hear something like "you've been of great help to me" rather than "you're are this great" or something like that... I do not dislike compliments but I do not prefer to hear praise or stuff like that

Lliam · Answer

I voted C but not because of employment performance. I was thinking of compliments for any job well done - vocals, musicianship or musical arrangement; appreciation for work as volunteer Board President of a nonprofit; starting up and chairing a committee; good grades in college courses or kudos from professors; opinion or essay on social media; newspaper op-ed; a well designed and executed garden project; ... stuff like that.

Tunasub · Answer

Personality, don't get those much in G@G land though. I don't know why. I am a ray of sunshine🌞

Job performance. Compliment me with money.

My raw handsome looks. I don't care what's said about that. Because those that know me know that it's not important and if anyone has something negative to say...

Well they can just fuck right on off... that's all I'm going to say about that.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I just started a new job, bow i am a team leader in a yruck factory (gear box) section so most compliments am getting us work related. Othere wise i always say: thank you, and say the same back but with dear close people to me compliments me i just get extra 🥰

ohshee · Answer

Job performance is what I like because that tells me something I mean I always get it she know your nice sweet guy you're so deep you're so wise you have a nice butt but I like when people say good job I basically just say thank you and all of them but still because I'm embarrassed on some of them LOL

ariadneR · Answer

I rarely get compliments on my job performance but it doesn't bother me because I know I do it well. That beingsaid I like to get compliments on my personality as looks fade but personality doesn't

DonkeyDan · Answer

Personality and job performance for me, it's always nice to get compliments on looks but I'm really not bothered about them.

karaspara · Answer

Personality I already know i'm average looking and awesome at my job 😂😂😂

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Compliments about my character and personality 😌 Your getting compliments at work eyyy sponge 😁 good for you! I'm sure that they don't know that your a bigfoot 👹

ToastyOats · Answer

People like my eyelashes... But thats it apparently.😞   The only other compliment I usually get is that I know a lot of cool things about science and history they've never heard before.

Cherry234 · Answer

Compliments about my job performance mean a lot to me

Wiredone · Answer

I'm a modest person who doesn't really like getting compliments but if do get them it's for my work

loves2learn · Answer

They all feel good but personality and job performance make me feel the best.

YollyM · Answer

I prefer compliments about personality because it makes me feel good to know that I'm pleasant to be around now as for looks and job performance (school performance since I'm in varsity) , I know I'm beautiful and smart , humbly.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Looks and job performance because I don't like my personality.

Massageman · Answer

Job perf - since I doubt I would get one for looking like some hunky star.

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