How do guys generally feel about women who are real victims of abusers or users?

[Anonymous]

I know there are rotten women too, that lie about getting abused, cheat or are crazy for monetary incentives. I hate them.

What about women that never did any of that? Generally how do men today actually feel about REAL victims (they did nothing to deserve it, they were young, naive and trusting... had no malice in their minds) of abusers or users?

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Those type of men purposely charm a naive woman and then either abuse her or use her. Then there are the ones that fake a whole relationship, they fake love, fake a future, lied about wanting kids, waste her time, etc.

If the woman was really an innocent person and the guy is a real bad person without an compassion... how do men today generally feel?

[MrOracle]

I have empathy for them, but I also know that in most cases, they chose their abusers.

Sometimes they did so because the abuser was very good-looking and popular and was good at hiding their abusive nature - any woman could make that mistake. But often they choose them because they grew up seeing their mother in abusive relationships and abusive relationships are what she knows and what she is comfortable with, even if she hates the actual abuse. This kind of woman will feel uncomfortable around non-abusers and will sabotage healthy relationships and find a new abuser, until she is finally ready to get help. Much like an alcoholic, you cannot help them until they are ready to change.

I'm going to have sympathy either way, but I'm also going to be realistic about the situation. I've seen it before and I've seen some of those women get out of an abusive relationship and find another one just as bad. The sad truth is that some people don't want to change, and will stick with what they know and will refuse help, even if it costs them everything, including their own life.

[RuthlessAggression]

Well, you should ask republicans about that.
Seeing as how one North Carolina BLACK REPUBLICAN leader thinks women shouldn't be in politics at all.

He used "christianity only protects men", as the reason

[FictionalCharacter]

Guys don’t actually care about girls getting abused. If anything, guys don’t like concerning themselves with anyone involved in drama/abuse.

[Vesuvius87]

I would imagine the same way I feel for any abused victim:
Basic compassion and empathy

[BarryLiverstone]

I try to listen to better understand their story so I can sympathize with what happened to them. It helps me not to judge when sometimes they feel triggered or react in a certain way.


Do you know anyone that has been abused?

[FilmGuy93]

I think most people would generally agree that real victims are blameless and need to be accepted and supported by the community.

[TrillXHippy]

Non explicit way: I really don’t like that and I feel sorry for women who are real victims. I won’t say the other way and I’m going to just keep it to myself

[Phoenix98]

In regards to genuine victims I find it sad. No one man or woman should have to go through abuse.

[call_me_scar]

I just feel sorry for them and hope that they are ok mentally

[RobEurope]

My moms a victim of abuse. I have respect for the victims. However they must look for help instead of keeping their abuser around.

[boggboss]

Feel bad for them I guess

[Anonymous]

If I like you now, your past doesn't matter.

[Sparkie460]

I feel bad for them