I'm truly sorry that this happened to you. I wish I was in your shoes though. Women have never seen me as anything at all and I have never had a girlfriend. If they show the "signs of interest" it always ends up that they are just using me to boost their egos and have someone else whether they be husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend is irrelevant.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I know it's not helpful to say everything will turn out for the best when your heart is breaking. But everything will be ok! And it's so brave and great of you to take some time for yourself right now.
Hey I remember you, I had you on my list and talked to you a couple of times. I thought you left gag since I didn't hear from you in months and I remember you were in a relationship. Well, so this happened, what can you do. Yea take some time off and try to improve your life but specially heal from all this.
I'm sorry to hear aboout what happened with your ex. All I'll say is that there are good people out there who will stick by their promises and be loyal.
I think you have the same problem I used to have. I almost gave up on relationships too, bu
... but I realised that in the past, even though they had nice qualities I also ignored many obvious red flags, just as you seem to do. When something feels off you should trust your gut instinct and use your head rather than allowing those strong initial feelings to cloud your judgment.
I've just been through the same thing... i tried to get back with her andmy dog passed away and she just wasn't there for me even though i was there for her through her tough times...
Smart move buttercup. I personally do not date right now because it is very difficult for other people in my age group to stay loyal and stalwart. I like to think both girls loved me, but I often found my self in a situation where it was a major red flag. In any case. Dealing with people like that is no longer my prerogative. Good take and i wish you good fortune.
You're ex is a d bag, if he every comes crawling back if things don't work out with the other woman just slam the door in face and don't leave know back
And trust me, if a guy can leave a relationship/woman for another woman, then he will most likely do it to her as well as soon as someone else comes into the picture.
25 is too young to be engaged anyway. I realize that women like to be somewhat engaged or married by their late 20's but honestly, I think early 30's is better. Don't give up though. Take your time, get over him, but, get back out there. Life is short!
I'm sorry you've had this experience and I think it's wise to take time to yourself. I find the older I get the harder it is to trust due to bad past experiences.
Another example of effort for what? For the benefit of who? Another nail in the coffin, literally, you carry on with these wonderful examples of whatever they are! I applaud everything you do, can you not hear it?
I feel you! I've been through similar struggles but from my experience I know I would probably never date someone who didn't have a job or was depressed when I met them.. of course there are reasons why you accepted that about him but those are red flags, especially if they're depressed... A guy needs to be completely happy with themselves before I even consider getting into a relationship with them... just my experience/opinion and hope things will get better for you!
Sounds like it might be a good time to concentrate on other aspects of your life for now and forget dating and relationships. You'll know when you're ready again.
Thanks for sharing with us and I'm sorry for your misfortune in life i wish you the best your a bright, kind , young lady who deserves the best. God Bless You -Hugs- ~!!!
Sorry to hear about your shitty experiences , you and I both , I don't want a relationship ever again after my failed marriage. Being a FT working single dad , means I'm too busy to even care !!
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I'm sorry you want through this but I rather be in your shoes as I never had a girlfriend and I always get rejected. What I'm going through is worse.
Hey bro. Don't pity on yourself. I've haven't have a real girlfriend and I'm not fat. I've been rejected by dozens of ladies and I never gave up. I'm still looking for someone and it seems I just found it. I'll try as hard as I can to get her heart. There's someone for you out there and you have to will to find it.
its good to take time off and self reflect a little about yourself and things to come
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In the moment when a breakup occurs, that's the last step in the emotional process for the person initiating it, and it's when the person being broken up with begins that process.
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I'm truly sorry that this happened to you. I wish I was in your shoes though. Women have never seen me as anything at all and I have never had a girlfriend. If they show the "signs of interest" it always ends up that they are just using me to boost their egos and have someone else whether they be husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend is irrelevant.
"I feel sorry for you, but let me make this about me and trivialize your pain because I think mine is worse..."
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I know it's not helpful to say everything will turn out for the best when your heart is breaking. But everything will be ok! And it's so brave and great of you to take some time for yourself right now.
Hey I remember you, I had you on my list and talked to you a couple of times. I thought you left gag since I didn't hear from you in months and I remember you were in a relationship.
Well, so this happened, what can you do. Yea take some time off and try to improve your life but specially heal from all this.
I'm sorry to hear aboout what happened with your ex. All I'll say is that there are good people out there who will stick by their promises and be loyal.
I think you have the same problem I used to have. I almost gave up on relationships too, bu
... but I realised that in the past, even though they had nice qualities I also ignored many obvious red flags, just as you seem to do. When something feels off you should trust your gut instinct and use your head rather than allowing those strong initial feelings to cloud your judgment.
I've just been through the same thing... i tried to get back with her andmy dog passed away and she just wasn't there for me even though i was there for her through her tough times...
im from maryland,27. you?
Smart move buttercup.
I personally do not date right now because it is very difficult for other people in my age group to stay loyal and stalwart. I like to think both girls loved me, but I often found my self in a situation where it was a major red flag. In any case. Dealing with people like that is no longer my prerogative.
Good take and i wish you good fortune.
You're ex is a d bag, if he every comes crawling back if things don't work out with the other woman just slam the door in face and don't leave know back
And trust me, if a guy can leave a relationship/woman for another woman, then he will most likely do it to her as well as soon as someone else comes into the picture.
25 is too young to be engaged anyway. I realize that women like to be somewhat engaged or married by their late 20's but honestly, I think early 30's is better. Don't give up though. Take your time, get over him, but, get back out there. Life is short!
I'm sorry you've had this experience and I think it's wise to take time to yourself. I find the older I get the harder it is to trust due to bad past experiences.
Another example of effort for what? For the benefit of who? Another nail in the coffin, literally, you carry on with these wonderful examples of whatever they are!
I applaud everything you do, can you not hear it?
I feel you! I've been through similar struggles but from my experience I know I would probably never date someone who didn't have a job or was depressed when I met them.. of course there are reasons why you accepted that about him but those are red flags, especially if they're depressed... A guy needs to be completely happy with themselves before I even consider getting into a relationship with them... just my experience/opinion and hope things will get better for you!
I'm so sorry for what you've had to go through. Guys do exist who are like what you want; I know because I'm one of them. Yes, we're rare.
Sounds like it might be a good time to concentrate on other aspects of your life for now and forget dating and relationships. You'll know when you're ready again.
Thanks for sharing with us and I'm sorry for your misfortune in life
i wish you the best your a bright, kind , young lady who deserves the best.
God Bless You -Hugs- ~!!!
I truly enjoyed reading this and on some levels I can relate. I too have given up on dating.
That's sad ☹
Sorry to hear about your shitty experiences , you and I both , I don't want a relationship ever again after my failed marriage. Being a FT working single dad , means I'm too busy to even care !!
I'm sorry you want through this but I rather be in your shoes as I never had a girlfriend and I always get rejected. What I'm going through is worse.
i hope you manage to get a girlfriend who makes you happy.
Thanks but I'm afraid it'll never happen as all women hate fat men like me.
Hey bro. Don't pity on yourself. I've haven't have a real girlfriend and I'm not fat. I've been rejected by dozens of ladies and I never gave up. I'm still looking for someone and it seems I just found it. I'll try as hard as I can to get her heart. There's someone for you out there and you have to will to find it.
its good to take time off and self reflect a little about yourself and things to come
In the moment when a breakup occurs, that's the last step in the emotional process for the person initiating it, and it's when the person being broken up with begins that process.
i know exactly how you feel.
the good news is you dodged a bullet and you have a lot to offer, get back out there