Should I be worried that my girlfriend added a guy on Instagram who she danced with on a cruise at the club?

[tsd8124]

Girlfriend told me that her and this guy danced with each other on a cruise. she said that they did not grind or anything in sexual manner... so it was no big deal.. but now she told me that she wanted to add him on her instagram.. should i be worried?

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+1 y

i went to add him on instagram and he has me blocked... weird

[meowcow]

I don' think it's particularly appropriate. Given that the guy has blocked you, HIS intentions are perfectly clear, even if your girlfriend is trustworthy.

If the situation was that he started hanging out with both of you, that would be quite different. I have no doubt he'll be trying to flirt with her in the near future. Whether she goes for the bait or not, well, that depends on her.

[tsd8124]

okay thanks.. im going to talk to her about it tonight when we call

[p0rtis26]

I do not like the sound of this story. Why do you add a random stranger to instagram unless the guy is attracted to your lady. Personally, I would think your lady should have more awareness to understand that or the decency to care about how you feel about this situation. I hope it works out.

[tsd8124]

im not worried though. this guy is not even close to her type of person and she would not date this guy i dont believe.. he's a pot head. smokes cigars.. she hates the smell of smoke and thinks smoking is stupid.. dude is ignornat as well i checked out his instagram and boy can pictures say a thousand words about someone.

[springocelot]

From your comments, no. You should trust her more and worry should that time come.

[findingdreamland]

Don't let her add him. I don't like how this desire sounds.

[tsd8124]

lets me refraise what happened, i had a typo. He added her first and she wanted to know if it would be okay if she accepted it.. he got her instagram from her cousin who was with her in the club

[findingdreamland]

Ok good then. For your gf it is ok but for the other part you will never know since you don't know the guy. I am saying this because these little things can cause problems in relationships. It is nothing at all but also can be something too.

[tsd8124]

i mean we have been together for almost 2 years now.. and god i could not live without her.. and she told me that and looked straight into my eyes that they did not do anything.. they do not message eachother or text or anything.. and she is one of those people who can not lie.. so right now i think im okay but i will be keeping an eye on it..

[Insaan]

Do you agree with my statement?

[tsd8124]

i do.

[findingdreamland]

Of course that is really good thing that you believe in her, that is actually perfect. But it is good to be careful sometimes you know.

[tsd8124]

i mean i can't be controlling because that is just not who i am.. i will voice my opinion on the matter but its her choice..

[findingdreamland]

Yeah i agree on this. That can't be said better than this.

[tsd8124]

i went to try to add him on instagram and he blocked me

[findingdreamland]

Now, it got weird. What is this whole drama about? Normally he should have accepted, if he was friendly.
My only guess he is afraid of you, you can blame him or he has some photos that you should not see.
Now I feel like a defective LOL

[tsd8124]

I've seen his profile pics through my girlfriends instagram. i didn't see any pics of them or anything.. but i think its strange that he has me blocked.. i mean i can go on my gf instagram without her knowing she doesn't care soo..

[findingdreamland]

Then the guy is totally weird, ignore him seriously!

[Cryostatic]

My question to her would be "Why, exactly, do you want to add some random guy that you danced with on a cruise to ANY of your social media outlets?"

Because it's fucking stupid.

[islands7]

Worry won't help
but learning what she's getting out of it
can lead you to clues on what similar life spices to provide her
to scratch that itch and thus she'll let this curiosity go.

[I_Love_Russians]

If you're stressing over her, just find a new girl.

[tsd8124]

i do not want a new girl... we have been together for almost 2 years im not going to give that up just because of stupid instagram... if she cheats then we are done... but im not going to give up on her

[BeCreat1ve]

You should be worried by your self. It's your responsibility to keep your woman near you. Why she run to other guy if she has everything that she needs in you? Keep working on your self. And don't worry too much.

[tsd8124]

she's not running to this guy though. she has looked me in the eyes and has told me that she loves me, that im the only guy for her.. she flirts with me, we do sexual stuff still... so im not seeing the sighns of her running to him? one the guy lives in Baltimore.. We live in Florida.. so he can not take care of any needs she wants and he would be a complete waste of time.

[nickstaa]

Im not sure I wouldn't like that but im surebsome people wouldn't have a problem with it.

you should dance with some girl and add her on instagram.

[tsd8124]

I couldnt get myself to do it though.. she said that they don not message on Facebook or text or anything soo i mean unless i catch her than i believe her but i do think its weird but its harmless it just instagram... but will see how it goes

[nickstaa]

Yeah keep an eye on it but I think it should be ok.

[MissConfused93]

Uh no. You sound really insecure.

[tsd8124]

no? i believe her. its not like im calling her a liar?

[MissConfused93]

"Should I be worried?" That's not insecure? They danced and added each other on Instagram. They're not planning a wedding. Chill.

[Insaan]

Lol don't listen to this girl asker.

[p0rtis26]

I agree with Insaan, you got a loose girl there.

[Insaan]

No not a loose girl portis bro..please don't judge that girl in a hurry. Read my comments if you want.

[p0rtis26]

not judging bro, stating it how I see it based on experience. I could be wrong. But would you want your gf dancing with some dude and then staying in touch. I wouldn't

[tsd8124]

they did not grind or do anything that would be considered sexual..

[Insaan]

You are right...but in your society i always thought that this is common and acceptable...
I agree that it is worrisome.

[tsd8124]

will just have to see what happens i mean i believe her right now but ill keep in eye out

[p0rtis26]

This is my opinion, you should not have to keep an eye out. this girl sounds like my ex gf who left me for another guy..and you sound like me some guy who has fallen flat on their face for the girl. At this age girls emotions flip flop a lot. It seems innocent enough, but I feel if you are in a relationship you should be able to TRUST each other. So they just randomly danced, was she drunk?

[tsd8124]

she was sitting on the couch at the club and her cousin felt bad so she grabed somebody to dance with her. and she said that they did not grind or do anything sexual... she did not just grab some random guy, her stupid cousin did started this crap.. and no she was not drunk.. she told me after the club that she started crying because she felt bad about dancing with this guy.. so i mean she seemed really sorry and we do trust each other i just do not trust him.

[MissConfused93]

I dance with other guys at the club. My boyfriend doesn't care. If you two care that much something seems fishy. Why so many insecurities and trust issues?

[tsd8124]

i guess we just do not like the thought of the opposite sex touching us. we both are the jealous type. if your accusing me of cheating or anything i am not. i could never do that anyone, im not like that.

[MissConfused93]

I said trust issues. Not cheating. Well I hope you two move past being so jealous and such. It's not healthy!

[tsd8124]

im not accusing her of anything. i trust her just do not trust him but she trusts me too.

[MissConfused93]

Doesn't matter whether or not you trust him. You have to trust her to not let him try anything or have any contact. Your logic doesn't work.

[Insaan]

You should be worried when time comes.

[tsd8124]

what do you mean?

[findingdreamland]

Lmao!

[Insaan]

Dude...have you ever heard of saying " expect the unexpected"
Look making friends with guys even after relationship is not a bad thing. You cannot control her life.
But you must be cautious. Girls are moody and they could change their mind anytime they want.
But if you both are having good amount of trust with each other than you should have no problem with their friendship.
But those girls who always love making new friends cannot be 100% trusted. What if she finds that he is better than you and he is more compatible with her?
Life can take turns that's what i am saying.
This is the age where attraction for opposite sexes is at highest peak.
But don't show your insecurity and never doubt her until there is any truth behind it. Be cool stay cool.
If you share deep relation with each other then she will never leave you. If you trust her than let her be his friend.

[tsd8124]

thanks man. we have been together for almost 2 years now and i do trust her and i love her to death.. i could not live without her she's my world. we have gone through hell and back together.

[Insaan]

I understand that she is your world. But she must think the same :)

[findingdreamland]

Well i don't like getting conclusion directly. It would be very unfair. But i got what you meant, totally. It is good to be careful that is what i can say.

[Insaan]

And never be possessive. This has been responsible for killing healthy relationships. But never trust 100% on any one.

[tsd8124]

she told me that she loves me and that im the only guy for her and everything an looked straight into my eyes with a big smile when she said it so right now i believe her

[Insaan]

Yeah...

[tsd8124]

well you know people who lie can not even look at you.. and i know all the sighns of when someone is lying its all in the eyes

[Insaan]

Hmmm..bro you are a citizen of united states where casual sex is common.
I am not saying she will leave you. No i don't think she will afford to lose you. But sex is all secret and thirst for having casual sex with another guy or girl for a change tends to exist.
It would be much better if you never come to know about it. But this is too early to think like that.
May he nothing will happen between both of them.
But i just listed possibilities for your knowledge.

[tsd8124]

well i told her if she did cheat that we were done.. and she said that nothing happened like that.. we have been fooling around a lot this week so i am not worried about that.. i can take care of her needs really well.

[apropos]

SHE wants to add HIM?

Yeah, probably.

[tsd8124]

well i guess what happend was.. she was with her cousin and her cousin got their instagrams and gave it to him.. he added her first but she was asking me if it would be okay if she accepted his request... and i said idc because i dont want to be controlling but did tell her that i dont like it.

[apropos]

That's totally different.

[tsd8124]

yeah. that's what im thinking.

[Anonymous]

No, I think you sound insecure