Do all men cheat? Do men still cheat even if they love their wives?

Question

I'm reading so much about how hard it is for men to stay loyal, that I don't think I want to get married. I'd much rather be happy on my own at 80 with a couple cats to keep me company. Why sacrifice my life by having kids, staying home and cooking dinner, making a home, for a man who doesn't want me anyway? If I were happy and my man loved me and only me, I'd love to be a homemaker. But I'd much rather be a single career girl and make myself a fortune without a man if it was just inbuilt in every man to cheat and lose interest in their wives.
So, do all men cheat?

BearsAnswers · Accepted Answer

No. Not all. 57%. And 43% of women.

It's hardwired into their brain. It has to do with the amount of testosterone they were exposed to in the womb.

Now, that being said, it's not that the 57% are hardwired to 'cheat', necessarily. They are just hardwired to need multiple partners. Some deal with this by cheating. Some deal with it by arranging alternative relationship structures. Some deal with it through serial monogamy - by sticking with one partner until the urge to stray is too high, at which point they leave and find another one.

The thing is, those that are hardwired for multiple partners can, and do, love multiple partners concurrently. For them, the love for one person doesn't affect the love of another person. They can love their wife and be crushing on a girl. They can love their wife and love their mistress. They can love their wife and have four other girls they are sleeping with on the side. One relationship doesn't affect the others. They are all growing or shrinking independently of each other. That's the thing that the monogamous people seem to struggle to understand. It seems that for them, loving one person more means having less love to give another person.

Different people have brains that are wired differently. What surprises me is how often that seems to surprise people.

Sandrino · Accepted Answer

Your scared about men not being loyal? I'm scared about women not being loyal, and all of them being cheaters. Just like you. Look, i've come to realize that everyone that cries about everyone being cheaters, whether its all women, or all men, its only because they've been hurt to a point where they have lost all faith.

I'm one of the men that couldnt cheat. I'm literally incapable of cheating. Its the most terrible fucking thing to do to someone, and the pain is unbearable. Because i know from experience.

You just have to keep dating and be very sure of the person that you are with. Dont ignore red flags because you love them. Thats what a lot of people fuck up on.

Anyways, don't lose faith because of research or whatever bullshit story you read about men cheating. Because you women cheat too. Not just us men.

BuchitaBuchys · Accepted Answer

I think there have been statistics that men on average cheat more than women. But even so, it wasn't that big a difference.

My mama never cheated but my dad was a horrible womanizer. I never cheated by both my ex bfs did. My sister never cheated but her bf did. My other sister never cheated but her husband did. My bff never cheated but her fiance did.
On the other hand, my other friend's bf is faithful but she cheated on him.
I work at a bar, and fuck. I don't ever wanna marry a guy based on the stories they say. Thankfully not all men are trash like that.

justbanANNAz · Accepted Answer

#generalisation31 is this for real? shouldn't you take into account the many examples of living proof that loyal marriages still exist? just because this is a new generation, doesn't mean everyone has lost the ability to b loyal dear =]

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Awww damn!!

Genie23 · Answer

No, not at all. Not all guys cheat.

Curiousman123 · Answer

I could write for an entire hour trying to answer your question but I'll try to sum everything up. I'm assuming you are referring to men in the Western hemisphere (North America and Europe). You need to understand that the Western nations are very individualistic countries and the highest of them all is the USA. Individualistic cultures mean that your personal needs are more important than the groups'. Collectivist cultures like Asia, South America, and so on place much more importance towards the group's needs over their personal needs. In other words, in America many of us our taught to go after our goals aggressively and without remorse for some. Imagine this mentality towards a relationship... Additionally, if your spouse does cheat on you, you should put some of the blame on him/her, but mostly on yourself. You should ask yourself what am I doing wrong that led to this behavior? I got cheated on once and it hurt, but ultimately most of it was my fault for attempting a long distance relationship... Lastly, the media and information age has helped the human race in many ways, but also made it more prone to narcissism and paranoia in my opinion. On the news and internet we constantly see negative or bad stories (fear sells...) and eventually we get so concerned it can get blinding. Overall, I would say half of the men I have met have cheated in some form or fashion. With girls, I've seen it happen more actually, but understand this is with only a personal observational bias, not an emotional bias...

Scrambled · Answer

I would say not all men, but its out of choice and resisting urges. Biologically, men are not monogamous. Its why some Catholics do little boys, men explode and rape, married men cheat, Islam extremists die for 70 virgins etc. This does change though as men get a lot older, I would say 50's give or take, I see men start to settle down fully. Here is the thing... a man can love a girl with everything he has, and still cheat. I think human men are like lions. A lion is happy to be with the many lionesses and does all of them. But don't let another lion or any other danger touch a lioness, cause that lion will get pissed. It boils down then to what a guy is willing to SACRIFICE. Can he resist his urges for the one he loves because of the consequence she may leave him? Or not...

Tractorbeam · Answer

Most men don't cheat on their wives.
Most who do cheat are doing it because their wives turned off the sex and affection, maybe 5 years earlier.
50% of women will be turning off sex and affection with their husband (but not necessarily with others) at about the 4 year mark. Others will take a little longer , and only about 20% will still want regular sex (with hubby) at the 20 year mark.
It doesn't matter how much she loved him in the beginning, or if he's a better man than ever, this still happens. It's just an instinctive thing that women do, and it's a result of evolution. Body chemicals can run a woman's mind, just like some other chemicals can control the attitude of a drug addict.

DeltaDanner · Answer

Not all men cheat just like not all women cheat.
I hear a lot about women going into marriages just to end them. When marriages end the guy often loses everything to the girl. His house, his money, his kids, his belongings. That's a lot to put out on the line, and there are a LOT of stories like that. But I still plan on marrying the girl I love, despite hearing all these things. Because not all women are like that.
Just like for you. You may hear a lot of stories about guys not being loyal, but not all guys are the same. Chances are if you invest your time in a good guy then you'll have a good relationship.

I_am_repulsive · Answer

Do you really want to be like me? I don't believe in marriage nor do I want to have any kids. I pretty much have almost every thing I want in life; money, secured job, condos/houses, a loving family and 2 real friends, the only thing I am missing is someone to share all these blessings with. Someone who also does not want to get married, and someone who also does not want to have kids. Or at least someone that will be good enough for me to change my views towards marriage and family. So far, that hasn't happened yet. I love being single; I can do whatever I want, I can date whomever I like, and I can sleep with whomever will let me. To many people, that is the dream.

gray_sailor · Answer

My first wife cheated on me. She abandonded me and our 3 yr old son. She had affairs and even hired herself out as a prostitute. I divorced her and obtained custody of my young son.

I have never cheated. So firm am I in that conviction that I waited until our divorce became finalized before I got an eHarmony membership. Having been cheated on did not sour me on marriage. My second wife has been loyal to me (and me to her) for what will be 9 years this June.

Alex_lovesmusic · Answer

I have been cheated on but I have never cheated, if I found someone else I would tell the person that I am with that I no longer want to be with them and that I fell in love with someone else but that only happened once when I was about 15 so I was a bit more naive. If I ever find someone who loves me whole heartedly, I wouldn't leave them. I would love them till the end of days... I probably won't find that person though.

vjreejr · Answer

No we all do not because deep real love overrides the desire to cheat. Yes, we always look and will always want to fuck but, when we are in true real love, we naturally prevent ourselves from getting involved sexually with another woman.

Diego9O · Answer

Don´t generalize, everyone is a potential cheater by the way. People cheat for many reasons. Some do it because they end up loosing hope for their relationship, they feel that somehow something is missing and that their SO should notice it as well and that lead them to frustration. Others are cheaters because they don´t believe in commitment. Some one cheats when there is a bad communication in the relation, so they use that as an excuse to cheat. Is an issue that born from fair.

Anonymous · Answer

No.  even with this stat many guys are still willing to take the risk for the women they fall for.

Betwyn · Answer

there is no absolute All men cheat. But, I have known guys, who I believe genuinely care for their significant other.. who have cheated.

PT1911 · Answer

Of course not But women fall for the men that cheat because thy are damn ood at playing feelings and emotions. A real man stays with his woman literally until death do them apart

Confusednalone · Answer

No, I have only ever dated but I would never cheat, even if we just have a thing, I wouldn't mess around with other girls at any level, trust and loyalty is key in relationships

Ryosanada · Answer

No not all men cheat. My father never did on my mother, and most of the guys in my family are loyal. But some might cheat, and that's a risk we all take.

Jackblue · Answer

No, men who cheat use the excuse that it is hard to stay loyal. Those men were not trustworthy to their wives so why should you believe them?

Anonymous · Answer

Sigh. Another bitter, damaged person coming to GaG to vilify the opposite sex. No, not all men cheat. Not all women cheat. Some people set standards and live by them, others don't.

SomeoneImportant · Answer

Like I say in any question regarding man's loyalty and desire for other women even when in love. All men innately want multiple women, but not all men will actually cheat.

singlebee · Answer

No not all men cheat.. cause i am not the cheating type... and by the way real love will never make anyone cheat...

Anonymous · Answer

No of course not all men cheat. But some do. Just like some women do, pretty sure my mother cheated with our driver few years back.

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