Things have gotten complicated, and I don't really want to be in a relationship right now. (Page 2)
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I don't know about it but I feel that when a guy says that he doesn't want a relationship of that he is not in for a commitment, it means that the gal he is with is not really what he wants.
So if you are stating that you are not really interested in the relationship, then put on the breaks now. Be honest with her. Don't let her wait and in the end, end up hurting what seem like a very nice girl.
If she is not for your then she is not. That's life.
I'm not sure why you don't want to be in a relationship right now. It sure sounds like you do or at least initially did, and you've been in one, so acknowledge it, but say you don't want it to go any further... and then DON'T go any further (sexually.. not even kissing), or you will remove all doubt as to whether or not you've been a douche.
I think your an idiot, obviously you don't like her enough to be in a relationship or you would.
That, "i don't want a relationship right now" is a lousy cop out, you just don't want a relationship with HER.
She sounds like a good girl, and you are going to lose her, but that's what you wanted in the first place.
Well, I think you're great for not wanting to seem like a bad guy.
However, unfortuanately a lot of stuff you did could give her the wrong idea. I would call her up/write her an email and write this:
You like her a lot but for your own reasons you don't want to be in a relationsip and it has NOTHING to do with her. You really enjoy her company and hope you can still hang out as friends.
You have to be prepared that she may say no or not want to.
Hope this helps.
That is quite the rut. On the bright side, you can land a relationship without trying.
If I were you: I would entertain the idea to keep your "girl-friend", not p*ssed. However, play it distant try not to go any farther than you already have, no humping and no boobs. I even recommend cutting back on the mac-ing, don' mack if: the environment is the least bit romantic, she's talking about you as a bf/lover, the situation is CASUAL(nothing special). Do mack if: she initiates or sobriety is in question. She might try to turn things up (e.g. boobs and humping) at some point to shake you out of this distant behavior. Don't fall for it! If and when she finally confronts you, and if you feel the same way you felt when you posted the question, spill the beans about where you want your relationship to stand. Craft your sentences carefully, very carefully. She'll feel hurt, no avoiding this part, but try to blame as much of it on yourself as you can, regardless of validity.
Good luck!
I think you may have received a lot of responses since this post... but I get you not wanting a 'relationship' - I'm the same way. If you haven't already -just be totally honest with her. Always remember this in 'all' of your relationships - it's what guys don't get. If you are just completely honest, it makes it so much easier on both sides. Then you can still keep good friendships or walk away. It's easy to fall into that relationship cycle. If we could only keep those first few weeks in a bottle , right? :) Good luck.
Dude you better tell her how you feel NOW ASAP cause once you get attached you're not going to be happy and waste time. Either decide if you want to be 'single' or 'not' Just tell her you need some time to think about things. Date other chicks if you're not clicking with anyone and if this one is cool then give it a try. If it doesn't work out then oh well nothing lasts forever.
Sounds like a good situation that you're too much of a p**** to embrace. Seriously, stop giving a sh*t about what your friends think or say. Do what you want and what you think is best. Don't play the girl by any means, but man up and take responsibility for what you do and say. If she wasn't good enough, you'd have avoided her. Give it a shot. Fuck everyone else.
well everyone says the best the thing to do would be to talk with her
and that's obviously the BEST THING to do
the damage is already done and she will be mad and ur friends will probably think your a douche but telling her right away is the right thing to do no matter what
"No one ever said the right thing to do was the easy thing to do, they just said it was worth it"
Just sit down with her and tell her exactly how you feel. ASAP. The longer you let this drag on without telling her, the more hurt she will be. And your friends will think you are an a**hole for treating her badly. Even though you didn't/don't want to hurt her, she will feel hurt but it would be much worse if you don't tell her and play along with the whole relationship thing.
i think you need to tell her what you're feeling, apologize for leading her on, and not call or go over and make out any more. cut off contact.
The best way is to just drift off.. that way you never have to brake it off really. And quit making out with her. Seriously, it sends the wrong message.
When she calls, only answer occasionally, and when you guys hang out don't make out or do anything suggestive. In other words slowly let her know you just wanna be friends.
I really disagree with this. I would be insulted (and have been!) by any guy who handles it this way. You are very early in the relationship (yes, it sure is that!) and just getting to know each other. No rle says that if you start ot make out, you are bound to each other forever and have to fall in love and be in a long-term relationship. Just be honest and open and tell her you don't want that, but you do enjoy her company. But making out after that is off-limits. Friends don't f*ck friends.
I think that you should tell her what is on your mind, don't let this get any further or she could get really hurt.
Cut her out before you hurt her feelings even more. And try to not repeat the same mistakes.
Did you just get out of a relationship or what's the reason you don't want one?
asshole
.. you should have told her at the beginning...