"men are so fucking weird" I broke my boyfriend's Xbox and he slapped me on the face because of it. What should I do now?

[Anonymous]

I did it because he was playing like 8 hours every day without even talking to me so I felt like I'm really invisible when I'm with him! We live together so i did it when he was out and when he comes back he finds out that I turn it into pieces and we had a huge fight because of something stupid that day and he slapped me on the face and went out. After a couple days he apologized to me and we had sex and after we slept together he was like "I'm still mad at you and that was a mistake" not going to talk to you till you buy me another one.

you owe him a new Xbox

you owe him a money

Updates

+1 y

I talked to him before many times and I asked him to change or at least I changed myself for him. I was playing with him sometimes or I sit next to him until fall asleep but he gives him Xbox more attention than me. I'm not selfish! Just because you are weird enough to defend anyone like you it doesn't mean you're right

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

Okay... You did wrong.
He's clearly not emotionally healthy (obsessing over a game console and ignoring your partner clearly isn't right). He was throwing himself into the console for whatever reason, be it escapism from depression, a way to vent frustration, or even regular old addiction... there are lots of reasons.
You broke an expensive item, which was massively important to him, was his primary source of entertainment, and he appears to have been substantially adicted to... and what reaction did you expect? You took away something which was a major part of his life, and isn't cassually replaceable. How would you feel if he burnt your cloths or smashed your phone (i dont know you, but most people have certain items they generally obsess over too much, even if not to his extent).

Yes I understand your frustration. I understand what it's like to be the one in a relationship making compromises while your partner ignores you. But you had no right to break it. Hiding the cables untill you could 'have a talk' would have made a statement. Breaking the thing was far beyond that. That doesn't justify the slap, but such a reaction was predictible.

To be honest lass it sounds like the relationship has run it's course. If I were you I would replace the console and leave. If you arnt up for that, it might just be best to leave.

[Mr_Pooter]

He made a bad move by ignoring you and focusing more on gaming. He sounds like a typical teenage boy, addicted to his games. He needs to realize that his girl has needs, and they're far more important than Call of Duty or whatever it is he plays. He should also realize that it would be healthy for him to give the games a rest from time to time.

However, what you did is very wrong. Destroying someone's property... Yes, you owe him money for that. Whether it was hurting your relationship or not, it was his. Believe it or not, the Xbox itself was not the problem, anyway. Breaking his Xbox won't change anything at all. He'll find something else to do, or just get a new one and use that.

Your boyfriend needs to change his ways. Your best option would have been to talk to him. The bottom line is that you haven't been getting the amount of attention that you need from your significant other. It's very normal for one person in a relationship to be a bit more needy than the other. Express your feelings to him. Try to reason with him, and request more time together. Make plans that involve getting out of the house and away from the electronics.

If you still never get the attention you need, it may then be time to reconsider being with him in the first place, but let's hope it doesn't come to that :)

[koibito]

I agree that he did wrong, but breaking the XBox probably wasn't the best way to tackle the problem... in fact now it had became 3 issues instead of one. 1) Too much gaming 2) Lack of communication 3) Reckless destruction of each other's property

[Mr_Pooter]

Yes, I agree that breaking his Xbox wasn't the best choice. I hope I made that clear?

[Asker]

Thanks

[YourFutureEx]

He didn't done anything wrong by playing games. Everybody is different with different preferences. If she doesn't like his habits, why didn't she move on?

[S0ph5t3R]

Well.. that was a stupid thing to do. Guys love you, but they love their car/playstation/sport as much. Especially if your guy worked his butt off to get that Xbox, it's totally understandable that he got mad. BUT! It's not justifiable to hit you. Tell him that you're very sorry about breaking and that you'll buy another one because let's be honest, what you did was the cause of all of this. But let him know that, even if you mess up big deal, it's not a reason for him to hit you.
Conclusion: clear things out, buy the new Xbox and everything will fall back into place.
Good luck!

[PinkT15]

Well maybe you shouldn't have completely broken it. Lol. But that in no way excuse him for slapping you. The fact that he ignores you for hours every day and lost control when you broke it lets you know that he's showing you his true colors. You may have to reevaluate your relationship. I'm sorry to say that. Good luck.

[Mesonfielde]

She showed her true colors by breaking $500

[PinkT15]

Yea. Like I said, she shouldn't have broken it but he also lost control the same way she did. Which is why they. BOTH need to reevaluate they're relationship. No just one or the other. @Mesonfielde

[Mesonfielde]

I think if we give the behaviors numbers, then breaking someone's expensive property is -25 and slapping them is -17

[PinkT15]

Yea. I guess. Lol. I mean I have an x-box and I would definitely be angry if someone broke mine... especially my boyfriend because... well... he's my boyfriend and it shouldn't be a problem. So yea. I kinda agree with that. But at the same time I think I would be kinda afraid because as soon as she did something he really didn't like... he slaps her. If that was me I would probably want to break up. Even though Ik I would definitely be in the wrong too.

[oldlady]

You owe him a new xbox and you should dump him for hitting you and then you both need to grow up a bit since he is more interested in xbox than real people and you are willing to break things to solve your problems. Sorry to be so harsh, but I think it's true.

[vishna]

You should have talked to him without resorting to destructive behavior, just like he should have talked it out with you before resorting to violence.

You two are both in the wrong. He owed you that apology, but yes, you do owe him a new Xbox.

[Asker]

I did talked to him before many times and I asked him to change or at least I changed myself for him. I was playing with him sometimes or I sit next to him until fall asleep but he gives him Xbox more attention than me. I'm not selfish as what the others think of me

[vishna]

Then you should have walked away to someone new who would put you before a piece of plastic and a virtual world.

[Asker]

This might sound stupid but I still love him

[vishna]

Nope, that's totally understandable. Feelings don't go away even when we're mad at people.

[Phoenix98]

No offense but you didn't handle this right, instead of acting crazy and smashing it and wasting over a hundred dollars worth of equipment. Instead you should have just hid it or better yet sat him down and talked about it, and he shouldn't have slapped you, but at the end of the day he owes you an apology and you owe him money or a new xbox for destroying his property.

You both in the wrong, both of you have issues and both of you need to work through them.

[meatballs21]

You owe him an Xbox and an apology. He apologises for the slap only, but this whole thing happened because of the idiotic way you handled this situation.

It's just an 'inanimate object' to you but it matters to HIM and that is why this was such an ill-advised action on your behalf. Suppose he spent all day in the garage tinker with his car or motorcycle, would you have smashed that up? It's just an inanimate object.

You thought you were proving a point. Well, you have proved a point but not the one you hoped. You did something intended to provoke and enrage him, and now are acting like the victim because it worked better than you expected. That you intended to replace it afterwards is neither here nor there - it is the sheer spite in your intentions that speaks volumes.

[JuicyBrain]

There is no good reason in this world to justify you breaking something that is working perfectly. The least you could have done is to give it to someone who wanted it and couldn't afford it. So right there, it's selfish.

There are also no reason in this world that can justify that you take his stuff and dispose of it as you please. That is theft.

You owe him an Xbox and an apology. And frankly, if you did that to me, you'd hit the road as soon as I had my Xbox. I would delete you from my life. Bye bye !

[JuicyBrain]

I do not condone violence on women, but you can't say you didn't look for that slap in the face !

[JuicyBrain]

You are right to be mad at him, but then you should have broken up.

[TwistedLogic]

You are unstable. He shouldn't have slapped you, but I think it was impulsive, still wrong though. Back to you now... You are the definition of a CRAZY girlfriend in my book. You need to leave him alone. And yeah, you definitely owe him a new one, since y'know YOU BROKE IT.

[Asker]

Crazy girlfriend!!

[TwistedLogic]

No, no.. CRAZY girlfriend.

[GoodGuyGreg]

OMG I might have Slapped you to lol. I'm serious to. My first reaction would be what the fuck and swing and yell.

when I cool down I would break up with u or u gonna bye me a new one. thats my baby. And 500 dollers down the drain.

Hitting girls is wrong but shit. I would only saw the red rings of death you omg. this the most scaryest post because if that happened I would go with my Xbox.

I'd Really really really have to like u. like wanna start a family with u like u

[Asker]

Are you serious

[Asker]

I was gonna pay him either way

[Mesonfielde]

I wouldn't want to start a family with someone who gleefully destroys $500 of MY property.

[TruePower]

I don't get why you're with a guy who physically and emotionally abuses you. If he values his Xbox over you, then you're clearly with the wrong guy. I can't believe you both had sex, too. LOL. When I read crap like this, I get angry because if getting a girl to like me means physically and mentally abusing her, then I guess I'll never get a girl. Whenever I meet girls, they put their pussies on a pedestal. Then, I read garbage like the stuff you wrote. You're practically throwing your pussy around your boyfriend like it belongs to him. LOL. I guess I'm going to die a virgin. Don't worry, though. I hate your boyfriend more than I hate you. If I was physically near you both, I would kill your boyfriend. I've always hated guys more than girls. I've come to Planet Earth to purge it of useless men like your boyfriend. Your boyfriend is a bully. Bullies will be exterminated by my hands.

[Mesonfielde]

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You broke $500 dollars.

You owe him a new XBOX because you apparently have no respect for monetary value.

He should just break up with you after you buy him the new XBOX.

[Asker]

Read the update please

[Mesonfielde]

People who break $500 on purpose are inherently selfish, horrible people

[Asker]

You can simply say that you care for a piece of plastic more than humans

[Mesonfielde]

If they break something of mine that is worth more than half of my monthly earnings, then they honestly don't deserve to be cared about in any way. People like that deserve no respect, because they are horrible people from the core. Don't break other people's stuff. It is not that difficult of a concept.

[Asker]

You're s*ck

[YourFutureEx]

He's not s*ck or anything. If your boyfriend doesn't give you that much attention, why didn't you break up? But no.

[Johnyk]

It's not "just a piece of plastic" as you mentioned in comments. He probably worked many hours to buy it, so you showed no value to his efforts by breaking it. Another really bad thing is that you didn't tell him straight that you're getting bored with his games, instead, rather sneakily broke his thing. He also just behaved like a high school kid obsessed with games without any reason to hook up with you. Anyway, you both made my day. LOL :D

[cinderelli]

you both are wrong here.. but slapping is just a big NO NO.. never.. he could have just yelled or told you to pay for it... and he won't talk to you until you pay for it.. but slapping.. i m amazed you are still with that guy.. and you slept with him too.. i would throw 500 $ at his face and dump him right there and then.. he can spend his life with his xbox..

[mumborico]

Do not give him a new Xbox it will repeat itself.
Confront him give him the money, but tell him he should do something more usefull with it OR controll his gaming habits, if it repeats i would break up.
Then he's just not showing any interest in you...

[fenixx0083]

Neither of you are ready to adult... go stand in the corner or something...

[Asker]

Seriously?

[Johnyk]

@ fenixx0083 LOL. But agree with you

[fenixx0083]

Seriously

[TheGrumpyCat]

I want to gift your boyfriend this!

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[Anonymous]

Get him a new Xbox. That was an immature way to handle the situation. You could've talked to him about it instead of breaking his game like that. He was wrong to slap you though, and that was unnecessary. Just get him a new Xbox and try to work things out. Good luck.

[ccp16]

This can't be a real story... no way two people would act like this... just like @BellePepper said.

If so, you two deserve each other... please don't ever break up and date other people...

[Touglyforfemales]

I would vote A and B. Don't you know neevr to get between a man and his Video Games? That's like taking a piece of meat away from a wild animal. And of course you got what you wanted but he didn't. How the fuck is that fair?

[Asker]

What did I got?

[Touglyforfemales]

You broke his X box and got sex out of him. Maybe he didn't want it?

[Asker]

Seriously!! He started it and after the sex he was like I'm not talking to you again before you buy me a new one! So I didn't break it to have sex with him as you think.

[Touglyforfemales]

What did he start? You do know he doesn't have or need to spend every minute with you.
Why not sit him down and set up a time during the day to spend time together.

[PhoenixRisingDK]

You both crossed the line - you owe him an xbox.
He's a fucking lowlife for slapping you though.

[Mesonfielde]

She broke $500 I am not surprised he got pissed

[Kirah]

Totally uncalled for. You don't break his XBox. If you're really upset with him, leave him. Don't stoop to such childish behavior.

You owe him either a new XBox, or an equivalent amount of money.

[Kirah]

Also, the slap was justified in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure you're not under 18? This sounds like one of those stupid 3 week relationships from early high school. He doesn't care about you and you're immature as fuck, just break up already.

[Asker]

I'm 23 and my boyfriend's 28 so don't worry we're not teenagers like what you think

[Opinion Owner]

Well then that's even worse, because you act like a teenager.

[Pat8707]

You NEVER mess with a man's video games EVER! Therefore you owe him a new one.

[KBob93]

You destroyed his property. If it were worth over $500, you're lucky if he doesn't press charges. I'd take a slap over that.