What are the signs that you truly love someone?

Question

I know that love and attraction are very different things but how can we know that we really love someone and it's not just a temporary thing that will end someday?

mousybun · Accepted Answer

Do you get tired of them easily?
Do you miss them once they're gone?
Do you cry when they leave?
Does your heart race when you see them?
Do you want to do nothing but lay in their arms?
Can you imagine a future family with them?
These are things I asked myself whenever I had little crushes. And I never had the right answers. I have my first boyfriend now, and I worry it's temporary. But when I ask myself these questions (and many more), I feel the right answer. We live about 2 hours apart, and whenever he leaves after visiting, I always feel a pit in my chest. And I just lay in bed crying, holding his shirt and waiting for his text when he gets home. I find myself to be comfortably nervous whenever he knocks on my door. I never get tired of his jokes, weirdness, or presence.
Love isn't something where you look at someone and say "I like them". I feel like love is created over time of knowing someone. There's a youtuber, ZeFrank, who wrote a beautiful line that I think fits perfectly into this topic. "Have you ever marveled at how someone you thought was so ordinary could suddenly become so beautiful?" My boyfriend and I felt this same way towards each other for almost 2 years. Just friends who never saw anything really interesting in one another. But we slowly changed into something beautiful. It's not a change that can be fully put into words. You'll feel things you never thought you'd feel. Things you once thought were stupid and irrational.
Watching my friends go through relationships for years and hearing them cry because they spend 1 night without their love, I thought they were pathetic. But now doing that, having felt what it's like. I understand fully. It's an indescribably connection. Something you can only truly understand once you've felt it. And you can never know if it truly will be forever. But you should always give it your all like it is forever. :)

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

I have plenty of ways I show love to the people, pets I care about:

1. I always rub noses and snuggle next to them.
2. I would always smile and give hugs.
3. I give advice on things that matter to them.
4. I do things for them without asking, depending if I can or not. If not, I will do double of what I can't offer. Go above and behind, sadly at the expense of my own health.
5. I would never belittle them and argue fairly.
6. I try to be honest as much as possible for the sake of maintaining that closeness in the relationship.
7. I will always express my vulnerable side of my emotions. I hate hiding how I feel around people I love.
8. I always encourage them to do their best. And defend them from people who are either bullying them or harming them.
9. I put their needs before my own needs and attempt to not neglect my own.
10. I set healthy boundaries for their sake and mine.
11. Overall, I show it just by being around them. Not because I need to because I want to.
12. I would rather let go, then hold on and smoother somebody, even if it hurts me in return.

I probably have other things I do, but I'm not always aware of what I so to show love. I just do it out of my own heart. Sorry to say, I'm mostly oblivious to this.

Rox95 · Accepted Answer

For me I think that you have to look at it a little different. You can love someone without being inlove with them and you can be inlove with them without loving them.

When you love someone it's unconditional. They could kill your cat and run over your mother and you'd forgive them Cuz shit happens. Whatever they do you will always care for them and have their best interests at heart.

I feel that being inlove with someone comes and goes, depending on your mood.. how annoying they can be.. your hormones levels.. are you hangry? Being inlove is feeling butterflies in your stomach and noticing the twinkle in your partners eyes and that inlove feeling comes and goes but real love means that even when there are no sparks and the shit hits the fan they're still special.

Popeye00 · Accepted Answer

firstly, u feel what he feels... if he is sad, than we will definitely feel the pain with him... same thing when he is happy

then, your main goal is just to see him happy and u will do whatever it takes just to see him happy

most importantly, u will 'TALK' to GOD about him... we only mention people who r important to us (or the one we love) when it comes to prayers...

everything about him, is also about u... i mean, u wanna be involved in his life.. u wanna be a part of his life... u wanna feel his pain, his happiness, u r willing to share everything with him...

u will also accept his flaws and weaknesses...

Justinaveragedude · Accepted Answer

Love is a choice. It is a commitment. Attraction fades, but love if it is committed, will strengthen. Love is fought for, and it fights back. Love is worth giving up everything else for. Love is worth dying for, love is worth killing for. Love is the opposite of hate, but hate is not the opposite of love. Love is the who the what and the why all wrapped up together in a bow. Love if power fear pain and the ability to over come them. Love is something to hold on to and makes the problems easier to let go of. Love is change, not for you but for them. Love is leaving behind the world you know to keep them in your world. Love is the basted who stabs you through the heart and the lover who saves you from the wound. Love is the large bitch (of the canine variety) who knocks you to the earth, crushes your throat in her jaws, and the dream of being held in her arms. And when you understand all this, you will understand what love is. A feeling that can be made from chocolate, but chocolate never felt so sweet.

HGG3805 · Accepted Answer

At age 15 my answer would be different than for an older person. Be aware that your body is going through changes which will affect your emotions. But bless you for asking and enjoy where you are.

Love means what?

That your partner's well being is more important to you than your own well being is. Yes, that you would even die for that person.

When that person walks into the room you light up. He fulfills you or complements who you are. You would walk through fire for your lover.

The sad thing about being in love is it is more fun if both parties feel the same. Love hurts or sucks or something like that. It can make you blind and subject you to abuse and pain.

It is the most wonderful feeling in the world. I'd give anything to fall madly in love again. But I also know the pain it gives.

Love as if it will never end. The experience is worth any pain that comes from it.

Misunderstood07 · Answer

I personally will become very giving and protective. I'll go threw hell for you. For example I'm I love with my best friend. And when ever her car breaks down i drive an hr to go fix it. When she's at work not able to eat I bring her food to work. I go to the great lengths because I love her. Even thought were not together I still attempt to give her the world because her life is hard. I aim to ease her stress. It may sound dumb but that's how I am when I'm in love. Because if I'm not I'm the complete opposite towards you

hahahmm · Answer

1. You don't try to manipulate them into doing what you want. This does not mean you cannot state your wishes. But it is never done as part of a game to trick/force something.
2. You give without strings attached. This does not mean you have to give whatever they want. Just that at the time your gift does not have a price. And you never change the 'price' on stuff you already did for them.
3. You have empathy for them.
4. You appreciate what they do/try to do.

Problem is that different people have different degrees of this stuff. Some people may only be capable of giving 10% in one area but they give 100% in another. Same with needs. One may only need 10% and the other needs 100%.

Lavinnykins · Answer

If it's truly love for that one person, all you will ever want for them is for them to be happy. I always has this warped idea of what love was and it's only now that I've realised it's not about butterflies, or jitters or feeling comfortable around them.
Love is... having that one person you always go to for comfort and reassurance, having some you can turn to no matter what, kisses before work and going to sleep, planning your future together and most importantly, knowing that even if they aren't with you, all you want is for them to be happy... that is love.

bekah864 · Answer

If you wanna find the word that means caring for someone beyond rationality and wanting them to have everything they want no matter how much it destroys you it's love. And when u love someone u just u don't stop. Ever. Bc if you did stop then that wouldn't be love. Even when people roll their eyes and call you crazy, ESPECIALLY THEN, you just you dont give up because if you could just give up, and u know take the worlds advice and move on and find someone else that would be love! If you did then that would be some other disposable thing that's not worth fighting for. But that is not what love is. And when you love someone there is no doubt in your body that u love them

TallAnon · Answer

I think you can't know. Love to some extent isn't what fairytales make it out to be. It's a social construct combined with the primal instinct of mating. In the end it comes down to what extent either of you is willing to sacrifice their own priorities for the other's.

An easy example would be not buying a red table, because the other thinks it's hideous, but it can be much deeper and more important, such as risking yourself physically to protect the other or sacrificing a career oppurtunity to keep another from having to move.

If I had to generally point at a sign, it would be to value the other over yourself.

samhradh_leannan · Answer

- You totally accept their quirks and flaws, and even find them endearing
- You genuinely care about them and want them to be happy
- Making sacrifices and compromises for the relationship feels worth it
- You can be yourself around them and enjoy spending time with them
- You trust them, respect them, and feel safe with them

AlphaGhost · Answer

You love them for Who they are?
You are okay with their rude behavior towards you, you seem to be blind to their bad deeds and you try to give explanation about their behavior to everyone and you were thousands% okay if they don't love you back.
You love who they are? not What they look like?
or What's under the pants and usually never thinks dirty about her.

Never underestimate the power "one sided love", unlike other's its not divided between two beings or hearth only YOU OWN IT

HOAAH · Answer

you hang out with him/her a lot and you both want to be there for one another, to support one another, start a family and build a life of love and kindness, and grow to learn to love each other more and more. You know him/he knows you and you both want what's best for each other. You are no longer selfish and only want him/her to make you happy but you sacrifice to make sure they are happy too.

Malaya · Answer

Basically I would
Die for them
Protect them
Think about them every min
Talk to them
And that he means a lot to me then any other guy no matter how much a guy will try to get to me I will say no and stick to my guy
Love him until my death and still beyond that

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

When you love someone you will know it cause you will have
uncontrollable thinking of that certain one that your in love with.
You won't be able to get enough of them and your heart will feel
that pitter patter each time that you think of that certain person.
You will want be with that certain some one all the time or spend
lot time with them that is what love stricken does to us.

Quintessence · Answer

I think the purest form of love is when you can't explain or justify why you love them, you just DO. You want them not for how they make YOU feel or for reflecting the valuesthat YOU want to see, but for who they really, truly are. I think the most obvious scenario to observe this kind of love is when you see two people who are totally different from and incompatible with each other and for whom the situation is less than ideal for them to be together, but they strive to make it work regardless.

bobbyr87 · Answer

When you love someone they are the only one you wanna be with and are willing to tell them every thing, to discuss the good the bad an find a way to always get through thing's together. You want to make them happy , to have unwavering support, trust for one another. If you were to lose that one you would feel empty an alone , always looking for that one in others but never finding someone like the one you lost. You to support them no matter what bad good an the in between always just by their side in each others endeavor.

DiegoO · Answer

When that person happiness become yours, even if you stop been part of it. Example: a relationship you had ended, a year later your ex has someone else, and everything seems to going very well for your ex, and instead of feeling down you feel the gratification of seen that person who was once your girlfriend/ boyfriend, very happy. That gratification to see someone happy even if it doesn't include you, is love.

JGodwin0425 · Answer

I think it's easiest to tell if after living together, you two both have the whole 80% to 20% thing going. If 80% of the things you see in each other are amazing and make you both happy and the other 20% is things that are maybe a little irritating but you both agree that you can live with them, then I believe that (if everything else is working just fine) that's one good way to tell. :D

dewatergirl · Answer

When they have a problem you will drop everything to help them. When you look at them or think about them and can see yourself together forever. When you realize that life without them isn't worth living. When you're so emotional about them you can just feel this happiness and love for them and it's the only thought in your mind. It's like this cloud around you two that you can feel but can't explain.

pakistaniguy · Answer

Affection is when you like someone based on your limited knowledge of them. Addiction is negative possession. Love is when you are happy when together and when not you try to be together again. Love is what you look forward to. Love is comfortable. Love is trust, respect and comoanionship. Love is stable. Love is the best feeling in the world. Love sets you free. There is no pretension in love.

thatguyfromtoronto · Answer

When you've had such a bad day, you lay on your bed and you receive a call from that person you care about, I think that's 1 of the signs of true love. When you don't care about looking at the opposite sex because the only person who you care about is the person you are with.

Anonymous · Answer

Feeling safe/secure about them and when I'm with them. Trusting them, feeling accepted. If I really love someone I sacrifice a lot and give a lot. Ill truly put their needs before mine and their happiness before mine. Seeing them happy would make me happy

didigo182 · Answer

Ahhhh the Love... it's been so long I do not feel it... the impression is that I'm dead in life... actually to me it's a mix who involves more sex lol

It's a very good feeling but it can let you bad (depressive) too.

Well... speeding heart, cold stomach, you only think of the person, you go out on the street thinking about the person, we fantasized a lot, you arrange reasons to be in the same places of the person, you stalk her in social media... can not think of no one else no matter who they are.

Remembering this would be something like Passion. Love is something very peculiar from mother to her son, or something rare between friends. What usually happens is Passion.

And how we know, Passion = Disease.

helphelpimdying · Answer

Love is in your own heart. Love is not the horny feelings. Love is not for yourself, but for others. You aren't first. When she is hurt, you are hurt with her. You dont give up on her. You suffer for her sake, and it brings you joy. those are a few signs... that you truley love her. (shh obviously im a guy so i put it in a guys perspective.)

somedudeyaknow · Answer

For me, the difference is my willingness to do anything for them. I hate hate hate watching plays and musicals, but I would gladly watch them for the girl I loved.

30sectops · Answer

You can't help but look deep into their eyes everytime you are together. You feel your heart flutter everytime they smile. You you feel full of energy being near them. You genuinely lookout for them. Do anything and everything to make them see them happy. You talk a lot more to this person than any other person and love to hear them out. You see them for what they really are no guards.

melodicstacey · Answer

When think about them a lot. You worry and wonder what they are doing when you're away from them. You want to please and take care of them. You want them to be happy, healthy and actualize their potential by supporting their goals and dreams in life.

QueenofCups · Answer

It takes time, at least six months. It does NOT take sex. You can love someone and still want to wait till you get married to sleep with them.

SHAHRUKH889 · Answer

When i was in love, I use to think about her every min whenever she says I wanna kiss you butterfly's starts flying inside my body I proposed her will you be ma girlfriend till my last breath and she said omg yes

kaylaS91 · Answer

You get a feeling of security and confidence in what you guys share that's not necessarily founded on them having done anything to 'prove' it. It's almost like a sixth sense, like a gut instinct.

saharaaa · Answer

Just imagine them gone, if you felt like you cannot live anymore, then you're in love!

Pinay_ako · Answer

Attraction fades but love doesn't. Attraction is lost when you lose appeal to the other person. Love gets stronger when you are able to show the other person your flaws and all and they still see your true beauty.

xolovenina · Answer

When I was around your age I was so sensitive to my feelings and finding "true love". The trick is to not think about it. This is reality, not a fairytale. If you're interested in someone, just go for it without thinking there's going to be someone better. It's the experiences that matter. You don't have to be in a rush to find your future husband or wife.

Frosteh · Answer

Love is a subjective feeling, you know it when you feel it. You don't know for certain that it will last forever, you just have to take a leap of faith and enjoy the ride while you can.

hunterzoloman655 · Answer

It'll be the way they look at you the way she/he goes out of there way just to linger by you longer the way they bump into you by accident just to grab your shoulder and sorry just for that extra secs of physical contact

TripleAce · Answer

When you have real love - It can sometimes feel like nothing can ever be that bad, you wake up feeling you can overcome anything because you'll always have her
Anywhere feels like home when she's there

HonestBobby · Answer

For me, love is about losing myself, or my selfishness.

In most relationships, people try to assume an advantage over the other person. Love is feeling like you'd rather keep things equal, and making sure your partner is getting their needs met too. Is their happiness as important to you as your own?

Vmm90 · Answer

For me it's because I love everything about them, the good, the bad and the ugly. Basically you accept them for who they are not for what you want them to be.

MasterSirMaster · Answer

Your brain isn't physically developed enough to know... everything you feel right now is infatuation and hormones. You couldn't understand, just like a prepubescent child couldn't understand what it's like to feel how you feel now.

Give it a few more years and you'll figure it out. In the mean time... just enjoy the experience of experiencing your life. Just NO MAJOR LIFE DECISIONS until then :)

means NO BABIES!!!

guycrush · Answer

Natalie,

Love and affection go hand in hand! If you love him you would never have asked this question. just keep this in mind you are very young and I know he is going through a lot right now! Ask yourself How many boyfriend have I had? Remember every guy is different. in some way or another! Love never dies! Love always prevails! Love is giving yourself up for them! Love never quits! Love is a cure to madness!

1996katrina · Answer

that youd do anything for them. you feel there pain when theyre hurt. you want to see them and talk to them and never get bored of being with them. you never cheat or want to be with another partner.

xmonster2001 · Answer

The pupils when you both stare at each other in the eyes like for example both your pupils change then you both truley love each other but only if one of your guys pupils changed then only one of you loves the other and if your both dont change then you both don't truly love each other

Nik1hil · Answer

We are all fool in love and love is a fools game and only a fool sees happily ever after so if you are able to see happily ever after with someone then you are a fool who is in love

Anonymous · Answer

I wanna say I felt that feeling before (love, that is) but does it count if the guy was deceitful? As in he was making about 3 other girls feel the same way? I don't think so because the person I thought I was in love with does not exist. It was just a fascade. So I've never experienced real love before but I will someday.

Anonymous · Answer

If you really enjoy seeing them and want to be with them every moment of your life. You want them to feel loved and you want them to know how you are doing. You never let each other down even when time gets hard. Maybe sometimes but you end up apologizing to him or her

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

If i am willing to make self-sacrifices for someone then i know it's love , because i find it impossible to make sacrifices for people i don't love

Nerdking · Answer

Someone im always thinking of all the time and making time to spend with them
Someone i dont have watch what i say to them i can be me
I can tell someone how i feel and not being labled as complaining

Just4Fun2017 · Answer

Care and support them even when you're upset with them is the biggest sign.

WildBill6976 · Answer

when that love becomes unconditional... and that can be a curse or a blessing, but you still consider it worth the risk...

ATuairiscean · Answer

Sounds naff but it is like what the expression says "You complete me" and the truer the love, the less doubt in your soul

He-man · Answer

When you don't sacrifice their souls to our dark lord Cthulhu

clampfan101 · Answer

Desiring an intimate relationship AFTER getting to know each other a ton. (Nothing like friends with benefits or wanting sex on day one. 🙄)

girther · Answer

Yes love and attraction are very different things you know you're in love because you just know there's no question in your mind it's a thing that just happens it's totally enveloping your whole being you just know that's all I can say

Psychlopic · Answer

When their happiness is more important than your own

Phoenix98 · Answer

There's really no black and white answer for that the answer will vary per person.

harry191919 · Answer

The only way to find you're truly loving someone is when they go away from your life. you feel like heart broken and reminds that person every second.

Anonymous · Answer

When you care more about their happiness than your own to the point if they were happier with someone else than yourself you would accept it.

cinderelli · Answer

Yeah I think when you love someone you think of them more than you think of yourself

Vishnu5121 · Answer

It's when you think of the person everytime when you try to do something... and the behaviour changes

veronicasky · Answer

I think for me at least it's the feeling of pain when you're not with them and caring about them more than yourself. If the little things other people say they find annoying about your partner is just one more thing that makes you love them. It's hard to know if something will last because no matter how much you love someone they can always leave you but if the thought of your relationship being over is true ly heartbreaking then you probably love them.

Anonymous · Answer

when every day you wake up you think of how to make their day and life better.

pooper89 · Answer

You feel compelled to tell them that you love them.

sushiluver · Answer

I won't stop smiling at him. And i could not keep my hands off of him.

seraphs · Answer

Love is when you think anymore, when you can not breath without the loved one, and finally when u stop thinking as one but starting thinking for two

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