My boyfriend gets mad when I leave without telling him?

[Anonymous]

He says “you leave and don’t let me know you’re going home and it gets on my nerves”

He says he always figures out I’m gone when my car is gone but he says i should tell him when I’m leaving. Sometimes while he’s in the shower i leave because it’s time for me to go to work

[peachybaby]

It’s upsetting when your partner just leaves without informing you and some people get panicked. I would be devastated if my boyfriend left without telling me. I’m a sensitive person but I just think it’s cold to not even say bye when leaving someone’s home, even if it’s family or a friend. It’s just disrespectful to just up and leave.

[Asker]

I don’t understand why it upsets him lol sometimes he’s in the shower and it’s time for me to head to work

[peachybaby]

It should upset him. It’s rude and disrespectful. You can knock on the door and crack it a bit and say you’re leaving. Like just leaving and not telling someone is a dick move and it will upset almost anyone. If it bothers him, talk to him about it. Work on it. It’s not a joke if you’re genuinely making him upset. Why don’t you ask him why it makes him upset so you can get a better understanding.

[Asker]

How is it rude I’m not understanding

[peachybaby]

It’s literally just respecting him. It’s rude because you upset him when you do it and you continue to do so. You are in his home, to just up and leave is disrespectful I matter where you are. Doesn’t matter what you’re leaving for or where you’re going, you tell someone you’re leaving. You say bye. Just because it wouldn’t bother you doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it for him.

[jennifer_bloom]

I know many people are jealous but there should be limits on how jealous you get. This is too much in my opinion. He might also be protecting you but I would monitor him before further commitment to him.

[Asker]

Why does he get mad when i leave and don’t let him know

[jennifer_bloom]

He might be worried you are meeting other guys or talking to people who are bad for him or spending time with those who will bad mouth him to you.

[Just_a_human]

Some people have an issue with that. You can just let him know when you leave

[Asker]

Why is it an issue

[Just_a_human]

I don't know but it only takes a second to do

[Just_a_human]

There are certain behaviors that are expected when you're in a relationship with someone. Not telling him is something single, independent people are accustomed to doing. When there's someone else in your life, you have to be considerate of them.

[PondyPand]

Well it takes two seconds to shout that you're going...

[Asker]

What’s the big deal about it

[PondyPand]

To let your partner know you're leaving... it's a common courtesy. It's what you do when you care about someone, the fact you have to ask 'what's the deal' shows your boyfriend deserves better, so I hope he realises SOON.

[GreenGold1992]

leave a note or shoot a text

[GoHomeMatt]

Coming from a really monogamous and kinda traditional dude, it means you making him feel like it ain't that big a deal for you to be coming and going. Really he prolly feeling like attention hungry in a way in my opinion. Omm if my girl don't say nothing to me when she leave or come over Imma think there's a problem fr.

[Asker]

Attention hungry? We talk the whole time I’m there but when i leave and he doesn’t know or he’s in the bathroom he gets mad

[GoHomeMatt]

I only say that cuz you make it sound like he brings this up a lot, yo man's just wanna know when you leaving because that's just being considerate, if you start doing it I bet you it'll make him think you care more about what he says. Especially since he literally told you it annoys him

[nerms123]

His house is hotel California

https://youtu.be/D092qPUzMNo

[TonyBologna25]

Yeah? That’s just proper etiquette when you live with someone. Especially in a relationship. It’s more of a protective and courtesy thing rather than controlling which you might be assuming.

[WalterBlack]

I've never been there. It's all lies. 😂😂😂

[boggboss]

It's just respectful lol meh

[GreenGold1992]

leave a note or text him

[GreenGold1992]

maybe he should know your schedule

[legalboxers]

Maybe you need a new man

[Nayrr]

I won't leave his house anymore

[Anonymous]

You could just text him, that you left