Could I prevented being cheated on?

[nameispain]

I found out my partner cheated on me with someone for 3 whole months. He told me he has a problem, maybe with own insecurities that needs to be boosted. That he ended up liking 2 people at once. I honestly did the best I could and gave my partner all that I could. He would always tell me how much he loves me and cherished me for all that I am and did for him, so it’s confusing why he cheated.

Could I have done anything different to prevent someone from cheating on me?

IF I had been MORE affectionate, then would he not have cheated? If I told him I loved him the same time he did then maybe he wouldn’t have cheated?

[SteveSmith1985]

No. There is nothing at all that you could have done to prevent it. Nothing at all. You are looking at this the wrong way. The problem is entirely HIS. He is a selfish asshole. You sound like you were a loving girlfriend. He made a commitment to you, freely and in good faith. You kept your commitment, and sound like you went to great lengths to treat him well, and to make him happy. For him to turn around and cheat on you is inexcusable on his part. This isn't your fault in any way.

A cheater is a cheater. They will cheat if they can; when they can... on anyone. It's got nothing to do with anything you lack. Please direct the blame where it should justly be directed--at him for an unforgivable breach of a freely made (and freely broken) commitment. That's about the most cowardly, selfish betrayal any person could be guilty of.

It's adding insult to injury for you to be blaming yourself and wondering what you've done wrong. You've done nothing wrong.

Even if you were actually a terrible girlfriend who treated him like shit: the worst you rightly deserve is to be dumped.

You clearly were a loving caring girlfriend. And this asshole does the worst thing you can do to any girlfriend. Your blame is misplaced. You need to be fair to yourself. Step back for a second. Think for a second. You shouldn't be blaming yourself. I hope you see that. :)

[rockrewls]

I doubt you could have done much, he sounds like a dirt bag.

[Cynicaldreamer]

No, in this instance, it sounds like he was just an insecure little boy that couldn't commit.

Some people have issues that make them cheaters. That's still NO excuse for his behavior!
But if you are a loving, supportive partner that did everything you could to make him happy and he still cheated?

That's a problem with him, not you! And don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

[Anonymous]

NO. It’s not your fault it’s completely him. It’s his responsibility to be loyal. It’s a basic need in every relationship. It seems like your the only one who’s doing the right thing in the relationship.

[PondyPand]

No trash will always act like trash

[PondyPand]

And girl, if he cheated, he didn't care for you. Why would you want to be with someone like THAT.

[Anonymous]

You gave him love..
that insecure bit is b. s