A ton of girls have been flirting with my boyfriend since he got buff. It's been driving me insane. How can I best handle a ton of women flirting with him? (Page 2)

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I've been with my now boyfriend for a long time. When we first got together he was pretty skinny and didn't have a lot of muscle. He started working out and has since gotten really buff. In a lot of ways I really love how buff he's gotten (obviously). His six pack abs, toned chest, and gorgeous butt just drive me wild!  However, he has been getting a lot more attention from girls since he got muscles. It's not hard for me to catch girls checking him out when we're in public. There are also a lot of girls who come up to him and hit on him (usually when I'm not there, but there are a few times it has happened when I'm right next to him holding his hand!). Whenever I see women flirt with my man I want to rip their heads off (metaphorically) and tell them to back off. Part of the reason why I hate it is I don't like other girls all over my man. However, I do think that is intensified by the fact that I've gotten somewhat insecure since he got buff. I generally consider myself to be a fairly attractive looking girl, but (if I'm being honest) some of the girls that flirt with him are way prettier than me (as in 9s and 10s on the looks scale). In all fairness I do believe he's told them he has a girlfriend and isn't interested (which doesn't stop all of them BTW), but I still sometimes worry he'll leave me for some prettier girl. Maybe that isn't fair, but it's true. It scares me because of how in love with him I am. He truly is the rock of my life. If he ever left me I think my whole world would fall apart. I would have no idea what to do.  How can I best handle so many (gorgeous) women flirting with him? How can I stop being so jealous/worried and become more secure?

Prettygurl12 · Answer

Do you trust your man? If the answer is yes then be flattered that they like him and he's with you.  If the answer is no then perhaps it's time to part ways.

Aislin9 · Answer

I think it just comes down to knowing your worth. Are you talented, intelligent, kind, funny or very loving? It's not all about looks. If he loves you then he loves you for you.

RickPen · Answer

You don't have to handle anything. Let him fight his battles, as he should. You're showing signs of jealousy, and should talk about it with him.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Get a pair of T-Shirts, one for you and one for him. His will say "I'm with my girlfriend" and yours will say "I'm with muscle head".

Avicenna · Answer

He's with you and seems happy with you. Just be sure to run off the ones that try to to it when you're with him.

Space_Radio · Answer

If his personality didn't change... You have nothing to worry about. If it did make sure he gets comfortable with his new skin, needs a bit of time, but he should always ask himslef where the hellwrre these chicks at when he was a normal guy

jayden888 · Answer

Tell him if he loves you he won't be taking the attention. Tell him it makes you feel bad. If he cares about how you feel, he'll understand.

uhmdontoknow · Answer

Be proud of him, give him hugs or kisses. Don't overdo it! And trust him. It's normal if it's a good looking guy people will flirt with him same happens with girls. Trust is the key

Unit1 · Answer

Uhm... Become gorgeous yourself? You know... Match up with being more attractive. Is there something stopping you?

cooldude64 · Answer

I don't believe this. Show me a picture before and after of him

hunt101 · Answer

The question is how is he handling it. That determines how u handle it

Worhtyawas · Answer

Well, I’m pretty certain he really loves you. I don’t think you have anything to worry about.. but that’s just me.

abdel636 · Answer

You can't. He can. If he cares about what you feel, he'll find a million ways to handle this.

Meatunnel69 · Answer

Just capitulate and have a gang bang with the new bitches every night

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Get ready to lose him, he's probably doing just what you already think he's doing :)

one1wild00 · Answer

He IS with you through thick n thin You have him, the rest are just drooling and green.

YesIsaidit · Answer

He has just as much freedom as you do. One of those freedoms is the choice to be loyal to you or move on because you're a control freak lol

Anonymous · Answer

You can also start doing exercise and makes your body more attractive to boost your confidence

Anonymous · Answer

The biggest problem is how dependent you are of a "thing" you can't control. You can't control others. The only human being you have controlled on is yourself.

ohhboiz · Answer

Trust him and make sure he trust you but also make sure that u out do the rest of the girls

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