Am I in an abusive relationship?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has anger problems.. He says things he doesn't mean and does things that he feels bad about later. When he gets mad hell call me ugly, a slut, whore, and worse. he's screamed at me, kicked me out of his house (at night when I was visiting im from out of state so i was on the streets for an hour, oh and it was our one year aniversary) he's pushed me and punched his hand near my face before. he's gotten better about the pushing and punching near me/to me he feels really bad about it. he also tells me im crazy, and im starting to believe it. I have BPD and it can make me have an attitude sometimes when I shouldn't.. He was playing games (he's trying to win money in fortnite) and i got an attitude cause I wanted to spend time with him rather than sit there and watch him play with other people on our anniversary, i made a snarky remark and we started fighting. he kicked me out twice. he called me crazy because i was the one who started us fighting. that him kicking me out was my fault. he has moments of clarity sometimes and he says I dont deserve the way he treats me but a part of me thinks that I do. I dont know what to believe or think anymore. am I really a terrible girlfriend or am I just being manipulated?

[pajamasam]

Didn't even read the whole thing the first few lines are enough for me.

he's using his "anger problem" as a get out of jail free card. When I care about someone I don't call then ugly or kick them out of the house no matter how mad I am.

Leave him this dude is manipulating your emotions.

[IShotCupidx]

Firstly I'm here to say sorry, you don't deserve this at all! It may get better but he doesn't appreciate you, he shouldn't think about laying a hand on you.

You deserve someone patient and kind, someone you can grow with. Someone you can both bring out the best in each other. You two are toxic, you need to leave.

[JuliaStyles]

If you have to ask a bunch of unknown people on a site like G@G then you already know the answer to that. Time to pack up and leave.

[Avicenna]

His behavior is unacceptable, but you are also going to have a very hard time dating anyone since you have BPD.

I think you should dump him.

[slatyb]

Yes, and it's not safe for you to be alone with hem. End this, get the hell out.

[dudeinohio]

Yes. You are in an abusive relationship. You need to. get out. Abusers always escalate. One day that fist will land on you.

[Danny_dan92]

You’re risking your life and health by being with this guy. That’s all I gotta tell you

[Stevefiveo]

He's abusing you. If you are on here asking, you already know the answer.

[slackbabbath]

He’s awful and yes that is an abusive relationship

[Iron_Man]

Give him a good talking to and one last chance

[Asker]

I left him a week ago, I came back because it was close to his birthday and he said he can't live with out me. he said he would change, and so far he hasn't been physical with me. besides his threats to physically throw me out of his house, but it was just a threat. How do I even talk to him about it when he thinks im crazy? he says im the one causing the problems. I dont know what to say at that point

[Iron_Man]

Can you move back into your parents house or something