That anger is a red flag and he didn't bother to apologize. This is why you don't shack up before marriage and having premarital sex if there is in this relationship. What you did was dangerous and he has the right to be upset. But not to that degree that you're describing. I think it's clear that you two not see each other anymore. If he cannot forgive you and the microwave is broken, see if you can try to help replace it, and please find another place to live if this is not your home. That is abusive. To the point of tears? No way. That is again, abusive. Time to move on. Start making calls, see if you can get a place to go by tomorrow morning or afternoon, and start getting out. It's over.
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I seem to be in the minority here but... I don't think he was being too aggressive. You should have known not to put the spoon in the microwave. I understand it was an honest mistake, but I also understand that this man was asleep before he was awakened by his microwave likely being destroyed.
I think his reaction was partly the adrenaline from being startled awake and partly annoyance at now having to repair the microwave.
If this was an isolated incident I wouldn't worry too much about it.
Sounds like either this isn't the first time he's been mad at you or something is happening in his life to stress him. Assuming your not the problem you should try to talk to him and see what the real issue is because a bowl of soup is obviously not a real problem 😂
He over reacted, not you. Are you sure you want to be in a relationship with someone who acts that way over such a relatively minor matter?
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Fucking glare at him back! You ladies are going to have to toughen up around ragey little assholes like him. Show him he’s NOT going to intimidate you.
People argue. That's normal.
People over-react - you both seem to have. Again completely normal.
Him removing himself from a volatile situation is a good thing. Allow yourselves both time to calm down and tomorrow I imagine you'll both be ready to apologise and move on.YOU COULD HAVE STARTED A FIRE!!! NEXT TIME CHECK! IDC HOW TIRED YOU ARE CHECK! I WORK SOMETIMES UNTIL 4 AM 8-12 HOUR SHIFTS COME HOME VERY TIRES AND IF SOMEONE LEAVES SOMETHING IN THE MICROWAVE FOR ME, I STILL ALWAYS CHECK, IT ONLY TAKE A FEW SECONDS. I AM ON HIS SIDE YOU COULD HAVE STARTED A FIRE!
Odd for sure on his part.
Stand tall and proud girl.
Go to him and say "what's your deal with flipping out the way you did about my soup spoon?"
Also, what was he doing at the time before he cw flying out to flip on you? Analyze it all or however you chose to handle it. But being afraid of your spouse isn't ok., Any good man would have taken awareness to your well being, if a spoon was sparking instead of being mad. He should have made sure you're ok.Depends how he handles it now, but, yeah, that was very messed up on his part
Your boyfriend is a dumbass for leaving a spoon in it given that he apparently left it out with the intent of having you microwave it
No, Get super mad at him back.
I think he was a wee too angry.
Big red flag.
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