Is it bad to want a partner to lose weight? (Page 2)

[Qdbrown]

If you date them while they are healthy looking and they change on you, by all means you should be able to talk.

If you start out with a chubby person, you get the chubby person. No fixer upper talk at that point.

[hahahmm]

Depends how long the relationship is too. If you started out young and they were chubby... okay but as you get older that becomes a serious life threatening situation. Just like being a daredevil motorcyclist who jumps over car is cute when you're 22 it's not when you're 40.

[Qdbrown]

@hahahmm not to mention more expensive medical bills

[Kha0tiic_xo]

Not at all, you should be able to sit down and talk to your person about anything even the uncomfortable things!

[Poppymarie]

I think I’d be a little hurt if my partner asked me to lose weight, but I’ve always been very health conscious and taken good care of my body. If I were obese I might feel differently.

[Roxi-2]

It’s not bad as long as you’re not like mean about it or treating them like crap because they aren’t 💯 perfect or you know they’re healthy is in bad conditions.

[DavidDong]

Yes, you do what you have to to appeal to your partner
Only do as much as your love for them though.
It's only dairy, I go to the gym etc, I don't want a wale, you wouldn't want me to huge would you

[slatyb]

If you can't love someone as they are, don't get involved. Don't every accept someone "on approval". And no one should accept a relationship under those conditions.

[etexbearkat]

No. If were married, and my wife was overweight, I would tell her that for her health, she needs to lose weight. I would also tell her I will be their in her journey of weight loss, and not leave.

[anon1903]

Yes,
- if you're overweight yourself
- you're shoving garden salad down their throat while ordering french fries plus burger & coke yourself

[Tiptoetamm]

No not when it comes to health. Health is important, I want my partner to care and say something if they nothing bad behavior I am doing.

[Anonymous]

Depends on your motivation. If you’re just wanting her to look thinner for your own satisfaction, then that’s a bit selfish. If she’s overweight to a point that you’re concerned for her health, then it’s absolutely ok to bring up.

[snackthatsmilesback]

No, but it is bad to get with a partner you're not attracted to under the assumption you'll be attracted to them after they change. Bad idea right there.

[Cathy7734]

I don't believe it is. People who are overweight are prone to diabetes.

[Blindguyplaying]

No, just don't be hypocritical. If you want her to be below 130 (average), you yourself can't be 250 yet 5'8. I want her to be healthy just i would hope she would want the same for me.

[Anonymous]

It depends. If he or she is obese and unhealthy, it's ok. Otherwise i doubt you have any right to ask a partner to lose weight if they haven't thought about it

[MyNameJames]

I don't think it would be, but it depends on how you express your want for that, and your reasoning behind those wants.

[Anonymous]

if you're respectful about it, it's ok. I think the idea people, let alone men, shouldn't ever say anything about something difficult (like weight problems) does more harm than good and only leads to destructive behaviors / miscommunication.

[EssenceOfLight]

No.
Personally I want the opposite, not much but 5kg more would be nice. I guess some people will consider this as a problem too.

[roy_ricky09]

It depends on why exactly you want it?
That'd tell you if it is bad.
Trust me it is not at all easy for people to lose weight.

[Marioz86]

Don't do it. That's a breakup about to happen right away. I did that once or twice after that broke up not shortly after. If it's a big issue for you then end it. Never talk about her weight.

[John_Doesnt]

You respond by saying "I'll lose weight when I feel like it bitch. Shut your bitch ass mouth ho!"