What is your definition of a "serious relationship"?

[Jlegacy]

Many times people say they want a serious relationship but what they mean differ. Some mean a sexual exclusive lover. Others mean someone who is thinking of marriage and white picket fence. What's your take?

[Cynicaldreamer]

To me, a serious relationship is to be exclusively committed to one person. Basically, we've agreed to date each other and no one else.

You focus all your time, energy, and love on that one particular person, and ideally, it leads to more down the road.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Great answer! Agree💯

[Jlegacy]

Do you think sex with said person alters the your definition in any way?

[Cynicaldreamer]

@Jlegacy Well sir, for me, sex doesn't typically occur with a guy until I'm in a serious, monogamous relationship with him (we're committed and I'm ONLY dating him and no one else). Because to me, that says I truly care and want him in my life, as sex is an emotional connection that requires me caring about him on a deep level.

[Azaelia]

Serious relationship is when the two of you focus on one thing which is marriage. When you're in a serious relationship you don't have time to cheat with your partner. Your only focus is the one who always with you through thick and thin and both of you can accept each other flaws and more open about your feeling or everything. So, bcs you confident that he's or she's the one where you can build your future together as a family you will trust everything they do. If you already in a serious relationship you will know how to handle a problem together like both of you know how to discuss your problem and solve it together.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Very similar to my definition of marriage - just like marriage, a serious relationship is both a mission and an adventure that takes serious work behind it, solid foundations, and a willingness to make an effort that will last for decades. That's the kind of view people should take for all their endeavors in life. Build up things to last - not one, not five, not ten years, but for life.

[Jlegacy]

I agree with you boss

[rjroy3]

This is what I feel about hooking up. I thought it was universally understood to mean sex. But some people call making out hooking up.

Serious relationship has pretty universally meant boyfriend/girlfriend, meet the family, possibly marriage some day relationship.

[Jlegacy]

I agree Chief 💗💗

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lazy answer=what @Cynicaldreamer said💯

[Jlegacy]

Her answer sounds like relationship can exist without a defined destination where the relationship should go? Is that something you would want as a lady?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I think she meant wether it results in marriage or a long term relationship.. I know people that have been together/ lived together for over 20 years but never got "legally" married... What's a "marriage license" but a piece of paper if the person doesn't honor the vows they make?

[Jlegacy]

People call it a piece of paper but this thing was started by God and I think marriage is still very much relevant. It doesn't have to be an elaborate thing but something that signifies that God joined the both of you together

[Cynicaldreamer]

Haha, so lazy! Thank you though~

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Cynicaldreamer I'm older now, do less energy🤣

[ughherewegoagain]

Marriage, gender roles, building a family unit and making an amazing lifetime of memories for us and our babies.

[Jlegacy]

My definition too💗💗

[TacosRAwesome]

Exclusive sexual relationship unless otherwise agreed.
Possibly leading to marriage.
Being a "we" socially rather than just an "I".

[Jlegacy]

Would it be serious without the sexual?

[TacosRAwesome]

If both agree to that then yes of course

[Pandupillu]

A serious relationship for me is when two people think of having a future together and are committed and loyal to each other. The relationship is secure, there is a lot of communication, love trust and respect. Sex is not the defining factor of the seriousness of a relationship.

[Coulis]

To me, the only legitimate relationship is a marriage. Everything else is just nonsense.

[Jlegacy]

Lol. I agree💗💗💗

[Coulis]

🥰😍😘

[Hanrej]

When you make plans and constantly adjust those plans to fit your ability and The reality of your relationship.

Being serious is not about how you like your sex, weather or not you marry etc. It's about you and your SO working togeather and for eachother trying to make things work for the long run.

[HOAAH]

Married and committed forever together.

We become one.

[Jlegacy]

I agree with this 100 percent

[HOAAH]

Cool.

[Celtero]

When people are dating with the intent of finding someone to be with for the rest of their lives.

[Jlegacy]

But can one be serious with a person you are not certain would be your spouse?

[Celtero]

I don't believe in marriage, but I think if you plan on the relationship ending on some point, it's not all that serious.

[Jlegacy]

I agree Chief

[the_kisses_of_sun]

One in which two people really like/love each other and are in an exlusive relationship and care for each other and they want to update their relationship to a higher level like marriage or engagement. Also, no cheating, no lies.

[Jlegacy]

I agree with this.. I have one question though, could a relationship which has premarital sex at its core, we termed a serious relationship? In your own opinion I mean? Sorry if I am blind siding you.

[DaveToo]

To me a serious relationship means exclusivity. She is your soulmate exclusively, and you are hers.

[Jlegacy]

I agree but does marriage factor in?

[DaveToo]

When you have an exclusive relationship, that means no one else gets to fuck your S/O, no one else gets to live with her. It does NOT mean she can't have her own male and female friends, because if she's truly in love with you, no one else will do. Of course, that can lead to vowing your love for each other, either in a justice of the peace or in a church of your choice.

[anon1903]

It generally signifies marriage. Never heard of sexual exclusivity before... like sure if you're in a relationship, you can't sleep around but still, no exclusive fuck buddying.

[Jamie05rhs]

One that is potentially leading to marriage.

If it doesn't work out, fine. That happens. But marriage has to at least be an option on the table. I won't date someone who NEVER wants to get married.

[Relux47]

Spending the rest of your life with someone you love unconditionally

[Jlegacy]

Does this mean marriage?

[Relux47]

Yeah

[Jlegacy]

Awesome💗

[Smashingdoozy]

Exclusively seeing eachother, not just for fun, long term plans with eachother.

[MCheetah]

When you decide to move in together or get engaged.

[jshm2]

No relationship is every totally serious, hence it's subjective.

[pleasestopthis]

An exclusive long term relationship with potential for becoming something more AKA lifetime partner, spouse, etcetera

[EssenceOfLight]

When you don't treat your partner just as temporary adventure.

[HaveNoName]

A very short term plan to get married (if not already engaged).

[anylolone]

A relationship where hypergamy ain't a thing.
Basically, there's loyalty there.

[Jlegacy]

Hypergamy, I dig!💗. Yea loyalty. Where would you place marriage in all of it?

[anylolone]

Marriage is for when you want a polyamorous relationship with the state.
Lol!