My boyfriend rejected my call on a Saturday night is he possibly cheating? Please help?

[AshleyBenedith]

Before you say, he’s probably tired of you and you’re being clingy. I do not initiate the calls in the relationship. We’ve been together for only two months and my boyfriend is the one who usually calls me for a quick chat or conversation. So yesterday night I was out with a few girl friends for dinner. Me and my boyfriend were supposed to go out that night but he claimed he was tired and I understood the situation since we had clubbed the night before. I was a little upset since we only see each other during the weekends (he lives a few hours away and works everyday), but did not express it. He had preferred to go gaming (even though he games every single weekday), and then said he was going to his guy friend’s house who lives nearby. Around midnight he texted me that he was on his way home and completely went off the radar. It gave a me a horrible gut feeling even though I never had trust issues with him before. He didn’t even ask if I was back home, or bother to say good night. In the two months of being together and texting everyday, he had never done this before. He is usually so attentive and protective and makes sure Im home before he goes to sleep. Today he seemed off. At around 1:30 AM I was already home in bed and my guy feeling grew worse and worse by the second. I decided to call him. A few rings later he rejects my call. Honestly I felt crushed. I would never reject a call from someone I care about. He texts me almost immediately after rejecting my call, that he had dozed off by mistake and asked me if everything was okay. I was extremely angry and disappointed and felt like he was lying. This time I expressed my anger and texted him back. “I was just letting you know I’m back home but you obviously do not seem to care.” Ten minutes later he texts back, “Relax I was just sleeping and don’t like to talk over the phone immediately after I wake up, goodnight love.” I did not reply after that, cheating or not, he knew I got upset and he did not give a shit

[Diodoro]

Read through all of it

Big picture. You over reacted. You started by being upset that he wanted to play video games instead of hanging out with you, then upgraded that upset in your mind with a "feeling" and because you had a feeling you told yourself a story and acted as if that story was true.

Coming from that place of distrust and suspicion you called. He potentially very reasonably rejected it and got back to you, but because of your upset and suspicion you bumped your mood up to anger.

Then from a place of anger lashed out, telling yourself and him that he doesn't care.

If I were your boyfriend, I would be angry with you right now because of your behavior. Completely out of line.

Could he be cheating? Maybe maybe not. But that's the case regardless of this event. This event doesn't mean anything or increase the potential chance of that.

It raised your suspicion of him. But it doesn't mean he's cheating. So now I have to ask you

1. Have you ever been cheated on before, and or have you ever cheated on a boyfriend?

2. In the past has your current boyfriend ever given you reason not to trust him?

3. If not, consider the fact you might be over reacting and that you owe your boyfriend an apology for your behavior

Because again, if I was dating a girl and this happened, I would be upset with her. Trying to justify your anger by saying he's supposed to always pick up the phone no matter what is controlling.

I could understand if you're feeling some type of way and you want to talk to him to feel better. I could even understand feeling sad they didn't pickup. But I do not understand jumping to anger.

PICKUP THE PHONE! YOU OWE ME! DONT YOU CARE ABOUT ME? WOOOOW I WOULD NEVER

... that's exactly how this comes across

[Diodoro]

Your his woman not his mother. It's not your job or right to keep tabs on him. If you love your man, act like it and come at him differently. Don't use your emotions as an excuse for bad behavior.

Time to make it up to him

[Diodoro]

But maybe I'm weird. I like relationships where we treat eachother with love, rather than just getting mad and lashing out, showing clear disrespect for my partner and telling myself I'm right because of how I felt in the moment

[B4852]

Sounds strange that he changed his routine, but don't know if it means he's cheating. But I can't say that he's not cheating either.

Give yourself the opportunity to confirm what you think happened or to prove that it didn't.

[AshleyBenedith]

Also the fact that he knew I got upset and resumed to brush it off and sleep.

[AshleyBenedith]

I don’t know how :/

[B4852]

I can't tell you how to prove it one way or the other. But I don't want you to throw away two months of work.

So I'll tell you this instead. If he's not able to give you an answer that you feel that you can trust him then dump him.

[B4852]

Just don't throw a relationship away if you don't have to without at least giving it an opportunity.

[B4852]

Thanks for the mho.

[TangBang69]

I cannot claim it is fact you are right , but what is mostly true.
All things are surrounded by an aura, the field of energy that is the subject's energy as it emits the vibe. The vibe you get is recieved and processed by your gut , instinct, and your initial first thought is what it says.
You ever had that gut feeling about anything or anywhere before? If knowing the answer, likely you found yourself to be right in that first intinctive reaction. It is a natural guidance mechanism that rarely is wrong. It is also that inner tug that everyone has saying the direction they know they should go but most ignore it as it is not what we want. I'm guilty of it , but this direction really should be followed more. At the heart of that system is the soul that commandeers the vessel that is you, first mate is the heart, the destination of that direction is your destiny , hence follow your heart and soul, in actuality , they already know where y'all's going.

[loveslongnails]

Try giving him the benefit of the doubt this time and see how he behaves in the immediately future. Besides, how much can you really "trust your gut" when your emotions are flying about?

[Cnlngler]

Your boyfriend? How long have you been dating this guy? Why do you think he is cheating, rather than maybe his phone dieing of something like that?

[FireFox001]

Been there. If there is a sudden vhange in behaviour, there can be cheating behind it.

I am dealing with a sudden behavioural change right now and it is hard not to be suspicious.

[Natashababygirl]

Cheating isn’t necessarily always the reason. My boyfriend is suspicious atm because of my behaviour change, but he doesn’t get that sometimes people have some mood changes and it’s not cheating

[FireFox001]

Never said alwqys. Just a good chance.

[Anonymous]

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt this time but watch for other signs he could be cheating.

[Anonymous]

Hmmmm. . . maybe. How often do you have sex with him?

[Anonymous]

You’ve been together for 2 months, which is not much and connections are not properly secured until 6ish months or so. It’s possible that he isn’t being sincere. You should end things.

[QuietRunner]

possibly but who knows

he could have been tired

[Slayerrrrrrr]

Oh hell nah. dump his cheating ass!

[AshleyBenedith]

You think he is?

[Slayerrrrrrr]

Either that or doing drugs. Thing is he's definitely hiding something. Us guys like to play it off nonchalantly tbh...

[livingnightmare]

yes he is. he's banging a ho right now

[AshleyBenedith]

I hope not but his excuse seemed so irrelevant:/

[Caliguy88]

Yeah. If I was him I’d probably be cheating,

[Hulk30]

it's not addin up im thinkin he's cheatin