Should I let my boyfriend go out with his buddies last minute and leaving me at home on a Friday? When he’s trying to make things up with me?

[Anonymous]

This is our anniversary weekend. The night we are actually celebrating is tomorrow. So technically we don’t have any specific plans tonight. However, this morning, we were discussing what to do after work. To be fair, I did dress up and put on make up thinking we would be going somewhere.

One of his buddy is in town for the weekend. Since we were celebrating our anniversary tomorrow, his friend said maybe to hangout on Friday. He heard nothing from his friend for days so no confirmation. Then in the late after today, his friend confirmed he can hang out tonight.

While I asked him if he thought of what we’re doing after work…he then told me he’s going out with his buddy. However, he said he was pretty annoyed at his friend for being last minute. It gave me no chance to plan something with my own friends. If it bothers me, he said he can just do something with me tonight. He feels bad for leaving me at home with nothing to do last minute. Also, none of my friends are available. At the same time, his friends are always busy so they barely meet up. This one particular friend actually moved to a different state so they barely see. I would feel bad for not letting him go.

Also, my boyfriend and I are currently going through a rough patch. Last month, his actions and words disappointed me (not cheating) a whole lot and made heart sank. Right now, he’s trying to fix things and making things up.

Should I let him go?

Yes

No

[JBlade]

I don't understand the need to be around other people, like what's wrong with being by yourself for a evening/night. Regardless, you've already made plans to spend the weekend together. You both need to stop worrying about something so minute, big deal out of nothing.

[Anonymous]

"Let" him go? I don't see how this is your decision to make. He's an adult.

You don't want him to go out because you don't have your own plans? Are you not capable of staying home alone?

You're too controlling. Men LOVE that in women. Your behavior is the polar up opposite of trying to work things out. It won't last.

[slatyb]

Let him? He’s an adult. All you can do is tell him how you feel about it. How often does he see them?

[LegendaryIcon]

It could be worse. he could have told you he wants to move to florida, 1500 miles away

[Wise4myage]

Yes, but do the same thing to him next Friday.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Let him choose for better result I think