Should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

About a year ago, I found out that my fiance was still in contact with his ex everyday via whats app videos calls. Also, she was sending him selfies of herself. He apologized and asked for another chance which I gave him. We are suppose to be getting married next month but I hate how secretive he is with his phone. Am I wrong for wanting to know his password? I don't want to search through his phone but I will feel a lot better if I knew it after what happened. If I ask him to make a call from his phone, he unlocks it and goes on the phone app to dial the number. After the whole thing with his ex I asked him to see his phone randomly and he got angry. Also, it had a time he started putting his phone on silent whenever he was around me, he doesn't do it anymore but these are the reasons that I will feel a lot better if he was more open with his phone. If I address this issue, he is just going to change the topic or say, I'm just bringing up the past and I should focus on the future. What should I do? Am I being unreasonable?

[Albino010]

So, normally i would tell you that it's unreasonable to demand access to your significant other cellphone, but in this case it's a waste of time in my opinion, he is clearly cheating or planning to cheat you, least thing you should do is getting married with him and waste a huge amount of money and time just to be cheated on (which ir probably already happened).

But in case you still want to stay with him, demand to see his cellphone now, without giving him time to change or delete anything on it.

[OlderAndWiser]

WHY are you marrying someone who you don't trust? Do you really think that being married will turn a bad boy into a good boy? Marry him and you can blame yourself when you are getting divorced 8 months from now. Is that what you want?

[mark000h]

You cannot have a successful marriage without trust. The marriage is doomed to fail unless you get everything out in the open. Passwords, no passwords will solve this. You have to voice your concerns or else have a divorce lawyer on standby.

[Mango-man]

If I was getting married or was some time into a serious relationship, I would have no problems with borrowing her my phone since I would have nothing to hide.

[jahaims]

Duh.

[Pterodon]

dump him