Single and lonely at 37, can I still find love and have a normal life? (Page 2)
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You still have lots of time, but you need to get busy and start letting yourself live.
I am living. I'm alive.
what does that even mean?
live?
I do not like to go to parties or bars. I don't drink or smoke.
I do not like to be social and chitchat with everyone.
I feel when people say you have to live, they mean you have to be a party animal that drinks and or smokes.
I do not do any of that because I do not enjoy that at all. :/
It means get laid.
if I did that I'd be more sad than what I am at the moment. I rather be lonely than to just go and have sex with random people. feels unhappy. unsatisfying.
If you can find love within your self for your self from your self. Someone definetly would want piece of that.
maybe that is part of the problem. I feel I used to love myself and once he left me I felt unloved and I don't love myself anymore I even lost respect for myself I believe. maybe this has a lot to do with not attracting anyone anymore as well
Sorry to hear that please work on self
People we care and love a lot leaves bigger deeper longer lasting scars 💔
Let me know if I can help
You are kind. I do need to work on myself first you are right. But by the time I’m done I’ll be 80 😣.. it’s all looking bad. I don’t know what I need..
Thank you.
Trust me it doesn't take that long. Take two new smallest things every month to work on.
Says you're 45+ but either way as a female you always have a chance at love you just have to choose it.
That would be really hard, if you are at least an 8.
if I'm an 8 it will be really hard? so if I'm anything lower it's impossible? is that what you mean?
Almost impossible. Don't give up though
if you are an 8 it won't be hard
I don't like to give myself a number but according to those who do... I do not think I am an 8.
I don't see me as ugly because I do find myself attractive but I don't consider myself a beauty compared to nice looking blue eyed blondes with hot bodies.
I'm just average, if I get ready I can be a bit above average
I have given up. that's why I ask. I feel most men do not take any woman over 32 seriously.
I don't know but from what I see and read I get the impression that men just want to fuck women in their 30's as a pastime and never serious. I could be wrong, I hope I'm wrong but I can't see anyone taking me seriously now. I don't even feel I have time to see if anyone can fall in love with me.
I'm so sad. I feel my life is over. in reference to having a normal happy one.
Don't lose your hopes. Why don't you try to find a guy who is around 45? Because guys in his 30s most likely to look for a girl in her 20s
right because people walk around with their age attached to their head. 🤦♀️ I do not look at ages, I don't even know how to look for a boyfriend. I don't know how people do it. in my current sad situation I don't really care what age they are as long as they don't look like they are my dad. I just want someone to love me. I feel nobody would take me seriously
"right because people walk around with their age attached to their head."
If you keep looking for guys in street I would be face palming too. No wonder why you are single
the only boyfriend I ever had, I met him online when I was 19 playing tanks online.
I never wanted to be with anyone because I was so in love with this online guy
I made him my everything. I lost interest in anyone else. I was in love with him. We met and I fell even more in love with him but he lives far far from me and we stayed together for all this time, . I thought we would be together forever he dropped me 2 years ago. I was depressed and sad, he was really mean to me. it broke me. now I'm over it but I am sad to see my whole life passed me by and I do not want to find someone online again. it feels stupid now. plus all people have filtered photos and people lie in real life, online even worse. I do not want to go through that again. it's all fake online. if I had not been online I would have probably met someone in real life and had a normal life instead of living a fake love life. that's what I feel.
I have been through the same. My first love was someone online... not from dating app. I loved her and it almost killed me (I wish it was 100%). I lost many years of my life over it.
Why don't you try a dating app?
I wish mine was 100% also. I used to think nobody had real love except me haha how ridiculous was I.
as I said before i do not want to go through the whole online relationship thing again. Most people have fake profiles, and those who are real tend to be modified /photoshopped and or filtered.
I also watch a lot of documentaries and many of them have been about people meeting others on dating apps and then getting murdered. All that scares me to top it all off.
I feel I'm a lost cause.
I asked this question already knowing the answer. My chances are close to slim to none.
I don't go out, I don't party, I don't even have friends. and I'm scared to date online haha yeah I feel I'm gonna be alone. I feel stupid, lonely and sad. yet in real life I pretend I I'm happy.
I feel you are not into hookups and other dirty stuff. It is men's fault they are looking for easy girls. Girls like you never be in their sight.
I strongly suggest you to have a dating app. You have to be careful doing so. And you should stop feeling paranoid over it.
You can text me if you like to talk.
Shitty woman. Dislike ones who gave time and attention for your pathetic life.
You deserve to be loved and accepted but life is strange... there is a saying that God may deprive you from something to give you something else... pm me if you need counselling
sorry.. but, No one buys a car without test-driving it...
You're older than me so sorry but not inclined to it. I'm also a virgin, trying to find a girlfriend myself.
Oh is this Jenniferbloom? Girl you really need to get your life in order. Stop writing religious books and get a real job and work out, eat lean protein, find a husband already you're so behind in life!
How long was your longest relationship? And how long have you been single now?
was with the same guy from 19 till 2 years ago when he dropped me.
that's the only relationship I've ever had. I was happy with that. I never understood how people could get boyfriend's break up and get another and break up and get another. that's why I felt nobody knew what love was only me. I thought I had real love not like all others and even looked down on people who did that. I've been singe 2 years which were very depressing trying to understand why but I am over it now. I'm just sad now to realize my whole life passed me by and I'm alone.
How come you and him never slept with each other?
I second these questions... that's a long time for no sex. Like how could that even happen? Asexual, guy was secretly gay and trying to look straight, etc are the usual things I see to things like that.
I met him playing a game online not a dating app. I had no idea this could happen, I suddenly became emotionally involved while playing and the relationship grew, we met and I fell in love more. He lives on the other side of the earth completely. yet we made it work but always had to wait some time to be together and the times we were together, we were intimate. I don't know where the real problem is if it's with him or me but I am too ticklish and he mostly always had to use force to touch me because when he gets near my intimate parts push him off unintentionally, an automatic movement from feeling tickles and he repeatedly said he didn't want to rape me and I repeatedly told him it wasn't rape because I wanted him to do it but I didn't understand why my body pushes off and so ticklish. I had never been with anyone before. nobody had ever touched me in these places perhaps that's the reason? I felt we had sex because we were intimate very intimate but he just never went inside me at all
He had to have been gay trying to be straight. Just saying.
@D_Bone_Steak he's not gay. he got hard with me every time. and he stripped me every time, but just as soon as he got to the point where it would happen I unintentionally would push him off. I clearly remember one of the times I turned around and he was angry trying to hold me down because it was like he was wrestling with him just to have sex xD and he turned me around hard and I liked that it was actually so hot and attractive to me but yet I said no no no and then he stopped, maybe I was just too inexperienced and I ruined it all every time. it's not like I wanted to do ruin it it just happened that way.
Maybe you're right. I mean if you made it too rapey... dudes are scared of being falsely accused of rape... that would be 20+ years in prison.
He should've taken my strategy. Lay back and let you do all the work and climb on top and do the deed yourself. Can't call that rape right lol
@D_Bone_Steak yeah I think I ruined it but it was not intentional at all. I really wanted it. just my body reacts differently than what I want because it reacts to tickles and tries to push off it's strange maybe I just need experience but that's another issue I feel I would be extra sad to just go around having sex with random people that I don't plan to stay with. I'm really so weird :( ugh
You say you are not sad or depressed over not having had sex yet at your current age?
No, im sad and feel lonely to not have anybody to love me or to love back
Reminds me of an article I was very mentally and emotionally moved by
All is possible as long as you are breathing Dear do not give up.
I am open to opening a chatting channel with you.
I definitely think it’s still possible
how do I find someone?
Pretty much anywhere
yeah but how?
Yeah it can happen to anyone
I wouldn't mind dating a 37 year old.
you lied about your age
Of course plenty of men would take you serously
nope past your prime
its over
people suck!
yeah