If you don't even have the good qualities you're searching for in a partner, why are you complaining that you're not finding it in someone else?

[Mahito]

And if you do have it, it actually becomes really easy when you find these things important. you find those philosophical qualities very interesting. Observing them reading about them, you start to kind of calibrate yourself towards good values and insist that you structure yourself and abide by these things because you know they're good, honest rules and ways of being that are gonna sort of orient you in the best way in life. You're gonna get the best results by trying as best you can to orient yourself by really good stoic virtuous qualities. When you talk to people, you notice when that language isn't reciprocated. you notice the incompatibility of language, so you shouldn't go blindly on a date with not knowing anything and just relying on your feelings. Which is an awful thing to do especially today with the quality of dating. I like something consistent that stays with me. i look for the long term the long chess game i want to develop skills and i want it to go somewhere. I don't want to just throw my investment away and that's what a lot of people are doing by approaching dating so kind of blasé. know who you are so you know where not to waste your time.

Don't try to impress them. You need to (for your own self-confidence) impress yourself. Gain some self-confidence. Know what you believe in and how to speak about it and so the person in front of you gets a clear picture of you. The right person will have something to think about and will be able to connect with you being so clear and honest. the right kind of person for you will understand and feel safe with you expressing exactly who you are. But if you're just kind of free floating in emotion it's like "Yeah I like you, let's hook up and whatever whatever whatever" you're just going to swapping partners like everyone else is doing.

[Diodoro]

Because girls don't want a guy with fat titties