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Men, how do you know your girlfriend or wife isn't in it for the financial benefits of yours?
Anonymous
(25-29) 
2.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. When she doesn’t respect you and doesn’t make you a priority , when your sex life dies down with her when you only go to her begging for intimacy and affection and she doesn’t come to you and her priorities are everyone else but you , she is using you , she easily excludes you from things , and shows signs of being selfish , you are just being used , if she truly loved and valued you she would be a team partner and work with you and planning your future together , affection and intimacy would just be natural between you both , , without that you are being used , she is stringing you along until she can find her replacement or already has her replacement testing the waters before she makes her final move , best thing for you to do is talk with her and tell her
Your feelings and how you are feeling. and if things don’t change after that then you need to focus on yourself and prepare yourself for heart break , start being selfish like she is , Go hang out with friends and play the same game she is playing with you , when she notices you are having a good time without her she will either have a wake up call and come crawling back to you or she will end up with the new guy , pretty much doing you a favor cuz she truly didn’t love and respect you if she is screwing someone else , she used you , so find someone that loves you for you not someone that just likes the convenience of you , Love and relationships are a team commitment, they are not one sided , if it becomes one sided then realize you deserve better than that , don’t settle for someone that just likes the convenience of you , it hurts like hell when we give our heart to someone that shits on it but it’s a learning experience , it prepares you for not falling for that shit again , We can’t force someone to love us and to be faithful to us but we can fight for them to stand by us by treating them the same way you want to be treated , if they choose to walk away, let them go and value your self worth and realize you deserve better than that
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Well, because she works and makes her own money...
Simple as that.
You know by what she is asking you for. Also, as a grown person you know when it feels like your being taken advantage of. One way my ex could tell that I wasn’t in it for money unlike his other exes was, I only asked that he gave me his time and effort. I always made sure to be there for him when he was feeling stressed or sad. He said all his other exes didn’t really care about that, they just wanted to receive gifts or get money for their nails and hair but it wasn’t reciprocated.
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Easy date someone that has their shit together. I I’ve always told men I can afford my lifestyle and I buy myself nice things, travel etc. …. That doesn’t mean I wouldn’t want to receive nice things. But I don’t need your money to get what I want, I’ll always have my own.
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You will immediately know by what her behavior is like.
If she exhibits behavior that seems to be materialistic, always wanting to do something that requires lots of money (lots of vacations, expensive dinners, etc), or always wanting expensive gifts… Then you’ve got yourself someone who is in it for the money.
If you find someone who actually wants to spend quality time with you, doesn’t want you to spend lots of money on them, always offers to pay for things, and doesn’t care if you don’t wear Gucci or drive a Mercedes lol, then they aren’t in it for the money. -
I have a pretty good vetting process. Usually I come up with creative date ideas that are also somewhat challenging. Like an early morning hike, or a late night kayak on the ocean. Not only does it keep money out of the equation, it finds women who have an adventurous and bold spirit who are excited about the adventure of life similar to the way I am.
Another thing is I don't really enjoy restaurant dates. I'm fine with grab a smoothie or cafe or something, but the whole rigamarole of dining out I only do once a month or so, and not with someone I just met.
A museum is another good date, or an amusement park. If there is a fee, I will just see if they want to go/can pay for themselves. I usually don't ask someone to do something that I'm not already doing. That is, I wouldn't create an amusement park date, I would already be going, and I would invite the girl I am interested in to come along. It would be as part of our group, and it would be clear if she's coming, she's paying for her own portion. I might even say something like "you can meet us there if you want, or you could ride with my friend, he's asking for $5 for gas from each of us.".
I know this is a turn off or dealbreaker for some women, and that's perfect. Because if her focus is on my finances, and seeing me as a source of her financial stability, then her focus is in a different place than mine. I care more about our interactions, who she is, and her values. I do care about finances and proper money management, but I don't see my loved ones as sources for income or resources, I prefer to be independent, and the people I am intimate with are similar to me in this regard. 717 opinions shared on Relationships topic. She offers to sign a prenuptial agreement where you keep everything you have earned. If she won't do that, she is using you for financial gain and will mess over you when it is to her advantage.
Don't rely on her having a decent job. That doesn't mean she isn't after your stuff. A friend of mine had a girlfriend that had a well paying job. Once they were married and had their first kid she quit work, moved in her relatives, and ran his finances into the ground with plenty of debt. Don't trust the scam of "I work and make more money than you." They can quit and leave you responsible for all of the bills.-
I fell for that trap once. The woman destroyed me financially, emotionally, and sometimes physically.
Once I was broke, she left me. I thought it was love, but it was greed.
After me over the next 24 years she did the same thing to 3 other guys.
The only reason I know this, Because our son lives with me and he stays in contact with her.
She is a very greedy, disturbing, selfishly person. Once she don't have a use for you, she is done with you.
Kinda sounds like the government right -
Only if she is richer than you. Otherwise your financial statements would be one of partner selecting factors as well as your outlook and personality. Just a pretty girl would never know the man true love the person she is or just her face, without her beauty will he still love her? It's human nature for women choose rich, strong ability and kind men, and men choose sexy smart and kind lady. Since youve been chosen, what are you scared of? If she leaves you one day because U turn poor, then be a man, just free her, let her find her happiness , don't count on a woman to help you out or stuck with U to suffer life. If she stays great she is your true love, if not at least U guys enjoyed happy life before, everyone is selfish, U can't count on Ur partner too much. One day if U rich again, get another sexy woman to keep enjoying ur life.
I've had the misfortune of encountering a few gold diggers when I began dating, the one was direct and wanted to know how much I made, the other wanted to know how much I filed for my prior year's taxes. With that said, gold diggers are generally obvious in the beginning and they aren't slick enough to hide their motivations. Another sign that I've noticed is that when women perk up or come alive when you talk about money or expensive items, it's a good sign she's a gold digger. And lastly, if every time you thrust into her and her pussy makes a cash register sound, there's a 99% probability you're fucking a gold digger.
351 opinions shared on Relationships topic. I accept that part of my desirability is that I can provide for a wife and family. It’s part of my attractiveness as a mate and gives my offspring a better chance to survive and women intuitively/instinctively know this. Some women still want strong men for this purpose but it will be intelligence that takes the day in the future as they move beyond that due to Darwinism. This doesn’t mean that I want a strict gold digger as that doesn’t help me raise quality offspring. I got what I wanted… big tits, blonde hair, blue eyes and good motherly instincts. She got what she wanted as well which was to be a stay home mom and focus on the kids.
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How does she know you aren't in it for her body? Trust both ways, I assume.
Maybe she will leave if you lose money, maybe he will leave if you gain weight, but hopefully (at least assuming you care about your financial/physical health and aren't just being lazy about it) they wouldn't leave just because of a change or a drop in that area. - Anonymous(25-29)
How should i know that men won't leave her when she becomes 35 or how should she know she does not get used for her body?
How many of you would date not young women? At least you can get women with money at any age but old women can't get any hot man with money. Leaving your husband for stupid reasons when you are 40 years old does not make sense to me. Young women can afford this since majority of men still want them due their youth/beauty. A much older woman can't do that.
I was told that you are worthless for men and his family when you do not expect any cent from him but when you use some of his money, he can't easily leave you for stupid reasons since he and his family already spend much money on his wife. This is why families in my culture expect from the potential husband to buy a lot of gold in order to marry her daughter. But i am from a middleeastern a culture in which everyone waits till marriage. 645 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Thoroughly asses your standards of reciprocity. Detail what makes you feel most appreciated and rejuvenated. I’d your lady measures to that criteria without you asking then that is how you know.
However… men are meant to be used for their resources. It’s not your ONLY purpose but it’s an inevitable piece of your masculine journey.But guys, really? You ain't that stupid if you have money. Get yiurself a woman who has her life together and won't need your money. You all hang around with women who live life by getting a rich man and make that a lifestyle. If she get's money from you, if she asks for it, if she doesn't make any efforts for you and expects everything from you only, then it's a red flag. Rich people living a tough life.
- Anonymous(25-29)
"One of the most robust findings in evolutionary psychology is the observation that men and women differ in the characteristics they prefer in potential mates. In study after study, in country after country, psychologists consistently find that men strongly prefer looks over resources, whereas women value resources over looks."
Every woman is "in it" for your financial resources. It is female human nature. We know that... it has been very well studied and documented and it should come as no surprise to anyone.
But that's not a bad thing unless it's taken to the extreme. It's no different than men being "in it" for looks, sexual appeal, the nurturing female nature, etc. Men and women want different things from each other, and that's okay. -
You know when she helps you build your wealth. If she just shows up at the finish line after you're ballin dont marry her officially. Just call her your wife that way you don't have to risk everything on her. Most women behave like children, so emotional
Where does she spend her money?
A woman that really likes you will have no problem putting up her own money FOR YOU, without expecting anything in return.
Most ladies out here want the man to fund their lifestyles, but won't spend their own money on you. If you are taking her out all the time, and she never does anything for you, cut her loose.- 2.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
I've refused work because anytime I come up on money she starts acting greedy... almost 20 years married at this point. Maybe it's because I've dealt with her for so long but I'm starting to get the opinion that women just think differently about money. For them extra money seems to mean stupid things like pointless trips or vacations.
You don't. You just roll the dice, do the best you can, and hope for the best. If you're wary about it, that will poison things; and if you're not, the damage will be worse if it goes south. Or you can simply choose not to gamble on high stakes, and never take a relationship beyond the casual dating zone.
Basically, you don't. Short of a Vulcan mind-meld, you can't know every intimate thought. Actions and demeanor can go so far, but in the end, you can't really tell. Understand I am talking about both sexes. Men can be some of the worse golddiggers there are.
you know when you date women who aren't broke and are on a similar financial status as you. Dumb men only like to date poor women and then complain when they find gold diggers. what do you expect?
4.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic. You never really know for sure. All you can do is take a LONG TIME vetting her. Women like to hide undesirable things about them. The longer you take vetting her the longer she has to keep up the charade if she's hiding something and she might slip up and reveal something that's a deal breaker.
My last girlfriend had saw me as a potential meal ticket and that's why I had to bail. Her whole thing was, she basically wanted to stay home, collect her little check (and mean little) and have us live together and ME pay the rent and who knows what else. When I found out what she wanted, I QUICKLY SHUT IT DOWN and left the relationship.
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