How can you tell the difference between romantic and platonic attraction?

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Its hard for me to tell if I like some romantically or platonically, so how does one differentiate the two?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

For me they mean almost the dame thing but just at deeper levels... I mean a guy and a girl could be platonic friends and still be romantic it's just no sexual with
Platonic relationships are really really bad ass I like them I have a few friends that are girls and we did a report on it relationship and it's fresh it's fun there might even be a little flirt here and there but there's I respect between we both had it's a very close that good relationships to have

Romantic could be intense it could be mellow or it can be intense you can be deep it can be hot they can be sensual making me passionate for me getting romantic and just let it go all my energy just take over

And when you romantic you do things way deeper more intense like floating euphoria

HighlyVolatile · Accepted Answer

This is rather crude but I become interested in a lot more than hugs and deep conversations. One thing in my case that might be a little bit unusual for a guy is that I never had a sexual interest without the platonic one. If I was sexually/romantically attracted to a woman, it was always accompanied by the desire to do much more than sex. That was a constant. What wasn't a constant is that being platonically interested in a woman didn't necessarily translate to a sexual desire for her.

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

I don't get attracted to guys I just want to be friends with. If I'm attracted to someone I would want to have deep conversations with them. I get that warm fuzzy feeling in my stomach. It's like you're high on drugs, but you're not. It's an inexplicable feeling. It's the "roller coaster kinda rush and I never knew I could feel that much" feeling. I usually start making fake scenarios in my head, giggle a LOT when I'm texting them and they give you tons of butterflies... but friends don't.

As Aerissa_Jade rightly pointed out, think about this: do you WANT to do romantic stuff with this person, like holding hands, kissing them etc or do you feel grossed out by all this with them? You'll get your answer.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

If you think the idea of kissing them (or more) grosses you out, its platonic... even if you still love them. This of it like a family member too, you love them but the idea of making out or more with them is (hopefully) quite disgusting.

One can love someone dearly and not want to do that, in some cases it may be platonic but you would be okay with being more than that, in the right situation.

lrina · Answer

i wouldn't have been able to tell either tbh. i think that the language they use though can sometimes have some indication towards the specific relationship. i'm not sure how true this is, but from what i've heard if the other person calls you something like "bro" then that means that the other person just thinks of you as family, and not a romantic interest.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Simply put you'll know depending on what you want to do

If you're interested in them in a romantic way you're going to want to do a lot more than just hang out

If you're interested in a platonic way then you're never really going to feel like doing anything other than hanging out and I'm trying to avoid using more creative language but you'll understand it someday and relatively soon I'm assuming

AviatorTom · Answer

When you're attracted to her, if you feel like hugging her, it's platonic. If you get a tingling in your groin and want to do more than hug her, that's romantic.

Honesttguy · Answer

When someone says romantic relationship it means they both are gonna have sex with each other while platonic relationship means they are just friends and will not have sex with each other. That is the main difference.

Anonymous · Answer

Ask him out. And if you get anything other than an enthusiastic " yes". You know it's platonic attraction.

Joker_ · Answer

one's a crush and the other is someone you want to be friends with

Kaneki05 · Answer

Unless if there unattractive I wouldn't think of them fully platonically. Not saying we cannot just be friends because 100% can. Just I ain't really ruling anything out.

DownIndaDumpz2 · Answer

It's pretty obvious. If you want to be close to them, hug them, kiss them.. love them.. that's romanticIf you don't want any of that stuff and jus talk to them only,.. like a friend.. it's plantonic

Msputiton · Answer

Do you lose yourself in the person?

IveGotNoName · Answer

That's because you haven't experienced true romantic attraction.

Cringe · Answer

Ones Amber and the other one isn't

Iron_Man · Answer

I’ve never heard of that before if you’d like somebody you like somebody

spiralshape · Answer

There is no difference and whoever tells you otherwise is an autistic in denial

Anonymous · Answer

With platonic relationships, sex is never considered or talked about.

MrOracle · Answer

Men don't have platonic attraction.

Anonymous · Answer

If you don't crave sex with that person it's platonic

weysally · Answer

I think so, the eyes can give so much away

TyLeeAndPink · Answer

Crushes feel tingly, squishes don’t.

michael1469 · Answer

One gives you a boner the other one doesn't.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you think about kissing them?

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