Why do women come on here to constantly ask why they’re not getting into a relationship?

[Anonymous]

When a man does this I can understand. Men have to do the approaching and all that. But I will never understand why women do it. The gender that has the power to say yes or no to forming a relationship is some how having problems. So tell me why the gender with the most power has so many complaints on this issue.

[Subarugirl]

Because finding a man worth getting into a relationship with is very difficult. There are tons of guys out there, with no drive, no ambition, no desire to invest the time and effort it takes to build and maintain a healthy relationship then just want that instant gratification. A lot of guys out there are so emotionally suppressed that they can barely manage their own thoughts and feelings in a healthy way let alone throwing someone else's into the mix. The biggest issue is finding a man with integrity, ambition, who is respectful, honest, then who physically and emotional contributes to the relationship. Most women do not want to end up being their partner's caretaker, while he reaps the benefits of being in a romantic relationship without putting in the effort it takes to maintain it.

[Asker]

I mean most women wouldn’t be so sex hungry if there wasn’t so much effort needed to go after a women. If A man is pursuing constantly, he will eventually get used as an ego boost and all that. And that’s where men want to hook up instead. I personally support this. Pursuing leads to shit mental health. Having instant gratification whilst working on themselves and being free of commitment is the way to go.

[Subarugirl]

Then a blow up doll and some porn sounds like a good option for you.

[Asker]

It’s just facts. You even said it yourself that most men aren’t gonna be sitting down to invest emotionally into a women. Especially not with the amount of effort it takes. Whose dignity is on the line? Definitely not the women’s.

[Asker]

And also as a man I gotta put this in. There’s really nothing special to a relationship. Most men will only want sex. The minority of men who want an emotional connection will sit and invest. And most of them fail so…. 👏🤣. Why do you think more people are in fucked up relationships? It’s because those emotional guys never succeed. They place women on pedestal and chase. It’s just facts

[Anonymous]

Men don’t want a girlfriend. On apps all men I have talked to say they don’t want a girlfriend only sex. Literally my boyfriend is the only guy that pursues and likes me but I Never have found more men to like me back never. Even if I approach men I’m rejected. And mostly all men are taken locked down with baby now. So the single men leftover are just guys are bars that want sex only. That’s why they are single cuz they only want sex no girlfriend. That’s why I’d rather stay with my boyfriend and have baby than continue be rejected and have no future no family never.

[Dontaaaa]

Men have the power to saying yes or no too.

I'd you're convinced that it's always women that has the power in saying yes or not to a relationship then I guess you've never been approached before or something, I don't know.

Women get rejected by guys they like too, just like how men get rejected by girls they like.

Maybe it's less common, I guess, but it happens.

[Asker]

I’ve been approached and I’ve rejected as well. But that’s nothing compared to the power women have.

[Sugar100]

I’m rejected by men. On apps all men say they don’t want girlfriend only sex. My boyfriend ik him since I was 19 now I’m 25 and he’s the only guy that pursues me.

[Sugar100]

Men have the power not women. Men can choose to date who they like as they are the ones that can ask for date and propose.

[Sugar100]

All men I have liked reject me. And most men don’t want a relationship or girlfriend. So that makes it harder get a partner.

[Asker]

@Sugar100 men have the power? What…? Man has to approach all the time and get rejected over and over. And that too more than women. Men also lose their dignity in approaching. Women just have to say yes or no to the date. Men don’t have any power.

[jennifer_bloom]

The world is half men and half woman which means unless a guy is hitting on more than one person, the average woman will have only one man faithfully pursuing her and chasing her.

[MrSmithee]

all guys hit on more than one woman

[devilish-cutie]

because you have no idea how it is to be a woman. Most of us dont get who we want. Im an attractive girl, I've approached guys more times and I was rejected. I wa also approached by some guys and I rejected some as well. most men also dont really put an effort and are very immature.
If we had so much power as you claim, we wouldn't ask those question then.

[Asker]

If your approaching and your not getting who you want then that’s just bad luck. I’m here talking about the women who bitch about everything whilst not approaching at all. Because apparently the females job is to only drop hints

[devilish-cutie]

well again, you dont get how it is to be a woman. you guys bitch you have to approach. But the risks are higher for everything for us, there are so many creepy guys, we might get pregnant, murdered so yeah like you gotta put us at ease and feel secure. As the risks are higher for us we are more vary about men. The only risk you guys have is rejection or she being a golddiger, which is nothing compared to risk we have. I personally approach cause im brave, but most people aren't, be it men or women.

[Asker]

Pregnant? Murdered? What… 🤣. Well that is something you gotta figure out about the guy. Also pepper spray comes in handy so there really isn’t any risk. I don’t have to explain this to you. But you already know how hard it is to approach and get rejected. Constant rejection eventually turns into depressions and so on. That’s a mental pain you cannot avoid.

[devilish-cutie]

well there are things we both have to figure out about other person, im just telling you that the risks are higher for us and its funny to you cause you dont get how it is to be a woman and trust a man that is way stronger than you, like there is nothing more scaring than rape. And so many guys may seem normal for a while but turn to be creeps and stalkers.
When it comes to pain form rejection, the issues is also cause you guys think its a numbers game, while you should choose your battles.

[Asker]

I had a girl and we were interested in each other. One day she completely left work and I decided to check up on her and she unfriended and blocked me 🤣. Another time I told a girl happy Thanksgiving and got unfriended. I mean at the time it was hurtful seeing myself getting constantly rejected but honestly I could care less. I got close to being in a relationship and it was a living nightmare. And that was when I decided that relationships are not for me. Hookups are the way to go in my opinion. After seeing the horseshit and seeing the amount of unnecessary effort it takes just to get to a certain point with women, I decided that there was no other reason to getting a girl other than sex. Believe me when I say this. Seeing how most men are getting rejected and played left and right by ego boosting maniacal females, I won’t be surprised if more guys start to join the hookup culture in the future. The biggest reason for this is… (I’ll say it how it is) most men wanna fuck and nothing else. I get that a man is stronger. But no man can do shit if you got pepper spray on you 🤣.

[devilish-cutie]

well again, you dont get how it is to be a female :) Once you get that its hard for both sides, it will be easier for you and you won't be so bitter abut women when you understand them better. What you think any woman like a mother that gave birth to you, your sister or your grandmother or whatever woman you know closly isn't worth love of a man? If you indeed ar just looking for a sex than you wouldn't bother as much as you did to be in a relationship. Im sorry you had bad experience, i did as well, so many guys are immature, only want sex, lie to you like its nothing; I've been ghosted as well etc. And if pepper spray is enough women wouldn't be raped as much. But anywaysm again, point is choose your battles, people generally are so different and findin someone that actually fits your personality is more rare and only than you have a true chance to be liked back, fall in love and form a healthy relationship.

[Asker]

I mean most interactions happen in a public environment or at least I hope they do. So chances of rape and all that is a bit lowered. With that being said, I still think there’s a slight advantage to women. Assuming a women’s in a public environment she can just say she has a boyfriend and just get rid of the whole conversation. She won’t be attacked with people near her. Now in a different location. Fine I can understand that it’s hard for women. She’s not strong as a man bla bla understandable. My biggest pet peeve is with women who constantly talk about how the perfect guy doesn’t exist and how it’s too much work for them when they themselves don’t even attempt to approach. With you I can’t say anything because you actually approach and go after what you want which is respectable. You don’t believe in the whole “a man has to go after what he wants, and that’s the job of the women” nonsense that society puts up.

[devilish-cutie]

well this is how things in society are but its not all for no reason. as women are weaker we seek in a man protection and safety which is measured by his capability and bravery, which is reflection of his money/job and approaching and making us feel secure and at ease. One day we are expected to give birth and usually not once, we seek a partner we can relay on in such vulnerable position.
as of me approaching, a lot of guys would feel emasculated cause of it and would think im easy which couldnt be further from the truth. Men also often like the chase and their ego can't take it that a woman is "better" than them. I approach cause i figured if imma wait for him it may take forever and i dont have that time. Yet, it has proven in my experience better when the guy does it.

[Kianaranjbar]

I feel like the responsibility of approaching someone you like is reversed in the younger generation (30 and younger). Especially with dating apps like Bumble that encourage women to make the first move. Guys these days, respond extremely dry and act uninterested because now they have the power to say yes or no.

[Asker]

What…. Yes or no? That’s mostly the womens job….

[Anonymous]

Because entitled children act like victims when they don’t get everything their way.
They don’t want to approach a guy they like, and they don’t like the guys who approach them.

[Subarugirl]

Actually she will approach him if she want's to... but that's the thing, she has to want to.

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl Most women do not approach guys even if they like him they want the guy to read her mind and approach her out she assumes he isn’t interested

[Subarugirl]

If she will approach him or initiate if she wants to... sounds like you're just upset that you don't get approached... which isn't all that surprising based on how you are acting.

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl Nope. Your shaming tactics is noted but false. Knowing the basic standard of female actions does not in any way reflect my personal experience with females.

[Subarugirl]

I wasn't shaming... it was just an observation... so you are saying you are happy with how much are approached by women?

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl As I said... women do not approach men. That is not just me. That is men in general. Women only approach approx 1% of males. This is a basic fact.

[Subarugirl]

I had no problem approaching the men I wanted to approach…

[Asker]

@Subarugirl he is right. Women want to be desired biologically. Only a small percentage of women actually go after what they want. The rest play mind games, look for ego boost, try to drop stupid hints, make unrealistic standards, do nothing to make themselves worthy of that standard. Oh and they come on this site and wonder why they never get the guy they want. Rinse and repeat. Men on the other hand only want sex. The majority of them. What’s caused this? It’s because of those women who were too busy using men for ego boost and dropping stupid hints. Men are tired of putting in effort. And as a result they have turned to hookup culture. Both genders are extremely easy to read.

[Subarugirl]

Men want to be desired biologically too… that trait isn’t exclusive to women…. That’s a human trait. There will always be people who have unrealistic standards. Just like you said how men only want sex… wanting the perks of being in a committed relationship with out being in a committed relationship is an unrealistic standard for most. Some people are easy to read, some aren’t. However if someone wants something they will peruse it, that applies to both men and women in the dating sevens. However if you are unable to comprehend how different people peruse things differently then that’s just your inability to understand that different people think and interact differently

[Asker]

@Subarugirl absolutely not. There’s plenty of women who refuse to approach even the men they like because they BELEIVE that’s it’s a mans job. It is no different than a man being expected to pay for the entire date. It is believed to be a mans duty not a women’s. There are some rare occurrence where it is flipped. But it is VERY RARE as most women BELIEVE this idea. Women want to be desired biologicallly MORE than men do. Hence the reason why men are the ones expected to pursue NOT WOMEN.

[Subarugirl]

Well sounds like that’s the kind of man she wants… so why are you so upset by it. There are plenty of women who do go after what they want… just sounds like you’re not what they want

[Subarugirl]

They have apps for then.. you want women to initiate contact then join bumble

[Asker]

@Subarugirl you misunderstand. I could care less about women initiating contact with me lol. Also I seriously don’t need to sit on some app like so brain damaged people do. They lack purpose in their lives and are desperate for a relationship. What I have an issue with is women always talking shit about how men don’t pick up on signs or when they come here to ask what the hell is going on in their situation. When all it takes it for them to approach the guy and make it clear and direct. Women are more emotional beings. You really think most women would have the confidence to approach a guy especially with the dignity factor on the line? The people who barely approach others have this feeling that they will lose their dignity if they get rejected. And for a women that shit feeling is way more exacerbated. Sure both genders want to be desired but you cannot deny women want to be desired more. That is how most women are biologically built.

[Subarugirl]

Humans are emotional beings and it sounds like you are blaming women for you inability to pick up on social cues that others are. There are plenty of women who are clear and direct, it would just appear that they have no desire to be in a relationship with you. Of course I do, women take risks all the time, so do men. I can and I will deny that women want to be desired more than men, I believe than men and women both feel the need to be desired in different ways as well as the same way... so are you talking about women or children... because if I read your original comment you are speaking about children... there is big difference between women and children. Based off of everything you have been talking about that you feel like you are entitled to be approached or at the very least are frustrated that your expectations are not being met.

[Asker]

@Subarugirl you seem to twist my words and bring it back to my experience. This has nothing to do with my personal experience. MOST women do NOT take risks even when liking the guy. Most don’t even know how to drop social cues. Men approach women more in society. It is NOT equal. Go around and ask men and women too. Most women on this site have literally said the man has the make the first move. Because that is universally what is expected of men in our society. Humans are emotional beings. However society tells men to not show emotion. Because once again, it is what is universally understood. So women are the more emotional beings in our society. While some women do take risks, it is ABSOLUTELY NO WHERE near the amount of risk a man takes. Men have been conditioned to not be emotional and therefore they will approach much more with confidence. Most women shy away from approaching. Biologically most women tend to not be direct. That is masculine. They tend to beat around the bush with “signals” which most men can’t even read. Most men are single for a reason. If women are so direct then why do I see more gay men in happier relationships than women? It’s because men are direct and express what their needs are. You went from saying they approach to saying they drop social cues. Contradiction. You can go around this site and ask multiple women of the same question. Women see it as more masculine when a man approaches and pays for everything. That’s just how society is has made MOST women and a small number of women who approach won’t change that simple fact. And just so you’re aware before you spew the same nonsense again, I have been approached 🤣.

[Opinion Owner]

She is notorious for that. It’s a bad debating tactic.

[Subarugirl]

Do you have any studies or research that support that claim?

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl Basic observation of Society is his source. There does’t need to be a “study”

[Subarugirl]

That’s not a study, that’s a limited experience biassed off his social bubble

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl Nope... you can see how society as a whole acts on specific things outside your personal bubble.
For example... society treats women with kid gloves compared to men. This is a global standard, not a personal experience.

[Asker]

@Subarugirl I’ve literally known a user on this site from like 3 years ago who is a female. She went around asking a bunch women on GAG. Yes I said women not child. And MOST of them answered that it is the mans duty to approach. So yes it is not biased whatsoever. If it were a man asking those questions, they would have been a different answer. Women tend to be more honest with women than men. Therefore it is best that I let the female I knew ask the ladies that question. She even tried her best to encourage them to start approaching men and they just didn’t budge.

[Subarugirl]

so what if they don't want to approach men? The one who do will and the ones who don't will wait for someone to approach her. Are you upset that most woman women what the man to initiate a relationship or that you aren't being approached by women?

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl The original question was “Why do women come on here to constantly ask why they’re not getting into a relationship?”

My response was simply that women prefer to whine and moan about men not approaching them, then to go and do the approaching themselves.

But you in your typical aggressive way had to go and run a basic statement into the ground.

[Subarugirl]

Aggressive? lol No hon, just being straight with you.

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl Nah nah nah... you are known for taking words twisting them into some bullshit concept and then attack that fabricated standpoint and the person who you then blame for your skewed stance.
If you didn’t have personal attacks, you wouldn’t have anything to say.

[Subarugirl]

Which instance specifically are you referring to?

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl Literally ANY of your conversations with guys on here that you disagree with.

[Subarugirl]

Pick one... if there are so many it shouldn't be that difficult to find on as an example..