In a relationship have you ever been attentive to your girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

So people have different needs and requirements in a relationship, and when you first start dating you learn about what your partner expects from you.

Has your partner ever communicated to you that they need something and have you ever fulfilled it?

For example, I give the silent treatment when I am hurt... I ghost. I was told by my partner at the time that this frustrated him. After he communicated this to me, I made sure that I swapped my silent treatment with 'Hey, I just need some time for myself please because you have upset me by doing x'.

[ohshee]

I think we all have come in since we all know that we need to respect and in order to have a good relationship we have to give that respect and have common sense I think it's there's a problem you need to communicate about it you can't give the silent treatment because that's not communication that's just showing somebody that you're angry and you don't want to talk about it right now well instead of doing that talk about it get it done and over with so you can keep moving forward it takes a lot of hard work to be in a good relationship and if somebody stalls that moment and you can't grow anymore then that's when the start of a problem happens you got to always be communicating working towards a goal becoming one with each other if you divide things and one person act a certain way and another person acts another way then your divided that takes a toll on the relationship in the beginning when you think you're in love you are one you are committed when you get a little bit older and somebody stops growing somebody stops loving that's what a problem starts the very first lie that's when the problems start anytime you divide yourself from your partner that's when the problems going to start you might not like what they have done in that moment but you can't stop growing you have to keep going together with respect Trust you can watch it happening by reading the questions on here my boyfriend plays video games all day all I do is work I paid the bills blah blah blah blah blah blah that relationship is not going to work because he is stop growing and she keeps really she has goals she has dreams

[BarryLiverstone]

Of course. No one is a mind reader. Like when my ex mentioned she would feel hungry between plays I started to bring her dinner and she seemed happy that I listened to her

[Asker]

Wow men like u actually exist

[BarryLiverstone]

Ha ha what do you mean?

[Asker]

I mean in every relationship I’ve been in? I’d communicate how I feel and the guy would say he’d change and then he wouldn’t

[BarryLiverstone]

You must have felt disappointed if they said one thing and didn’t follow through.

[Asker]

Very disappointed

[BarryLiverstone]

Sorry to hear that. Hopefully the next guy will not disappoint

[Asker]

Thanks I hope so too

[BarryLiverstone]

Also I’m glad you have learned to tell your SO that you need time to process your emotions instead of ghosting. But would also suggest you don’t leave that open ended. Instead say ‘please give me a few days to cool off and I will reach out to you’

That gives them a time frame and let’s them know you will next talk to them. If you leave it open ended they can’t know when to check in

[Asker]

Thanks!! That sounds perfect. I’ll implement that going forward.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome

[Jamie05rhs]

Hell, I've even been attentive to people who aren't my girlfriend. It wears you out, because after a while you think, "Well, what's the point?"
If she was my girlfriend, at least I could take pride in it and get fulfillment out of taking care of her.

[anton_dee]

Yess. I'm a Leo. And Leos are famous for showering attention and praise on their partner

[Asker]

My ex was a Leo. He was very attentive and gentle. He put himself out to be a confident man but deep inside he was a baby. He also cheated on me because he was so self centred.

[anton_dee]

Ooops. Sorry to hear that. But yeah, Leos can be self centered.

[Asker]

Lol sorry I’m sure you’re a lovely guy

[anton_dee]

😁😁😁✌️✌️✌️

[Juxtapose]

As much as I can be having a literal disability that impedes me from reading into people beyond what they say to me directly.

[Tstrbrainer]

I have never been in a relationship, but I'm attentive person sometimes

[exitseven]

I think I have been pretty attentive.

[libsaretards]

Yes. Being attentive is key to a relationship.

[RuthlessAggression]

What do you mean?

[Asker]

Read my example

[RuthlessAggression]

Silent treatments, and "hey I just need time", usually spells the end of a relationship, especially if there are black birds around when you are yelling at each other. Black birds usually signal the death of something.. and in that case, it would be of a relationship

[Asker]

Sometimes I just need space because I’m very upset and I need time to understand my emotions

[RuthlessAggression]

I'm telling you, it usually signals a breakup

[KrakenAttackin]

@ruthlessaggression Agreed. No man should put up with this shit from a woman.

[Asker]

Never had the intention of breaking up with someone when I’ve felt that way. Sometimes I just need time because I don’t want the argument to become worse. It’s perfectly healthy to give your partner some space sometimes.

[RuthlessAggression]

No, it's not. The number one failure of relationships, is communication