Generally speaking, is it bad when a man asks his girlfriend for money more than once?

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I learned the hard way. I'll never get my $1,300 back. He scammed me and used it for his dates and other things, cheating and lying the whole time. So much for being a giving person, thinking he needed it and would pay it back. He's my blocked ex boyfriend now.

I've never asked anyone for money. Generally speaking is it bad if a man ask his girlfriend for money? I'm not talking about $10 or $50 but $500 and above.

I don't give anyone my money anymore.

driven159 · Accepted Answer

Never give any boyfriend or girlfriend money it makes enemies out of them if they can't budget their money that should be a Red flag anyway

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

Congrats, you now understand why men hate gold diggers.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Yes it is bad. Definitely. I am sure there are some cases where it would be fine. But in general, yes, for sure it's bad.

Screenwriter · Answer

There are several factors that have to be in place: How long have you known this person? Do you know their family and friends? Is their borrowing from you a REGULAR thing.

"Hey, honey, you got a $20 on you, I need some gas? Why don't you pay for lunch this time? I'm a little short to pay my phone bill..."

An honest man has a job and pays his bills himself. If he needs to borrow BIG money, he gets a LOAN FROM THE CREDIT UNION, not from a girlfriend, and pays it back WITH INTEREST over time.

This guy sounds like a grifter who uses women. Glad you dumped him.

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Whatever2929292 · Answer

This really depends. But if someone is asking their girlfriend or boyfriend for that matter for money all the time that is not good. Especially if they aren't' paying you back.

If you offer him money that is one thing. But him asking all the time is another. Especially not paying it back. He is not entitled to your money.

Truthfully I think it is bad either way. I don't know why it would only be bad for a woman to give a man money but not bad if a man gives women money like this.

He could just be using you for money.

big_ben_007 · Answer

There's 2 types of people who ask for money. Person #1 can and will pay you back at the agreed day or time...

Person #2 can't pay you back, or won't, or has issues managing money. Those people u gotta avoid. If u need your money back from Person #2, you have a 90% chance of not getting it back.

Person #1 has a job or a source of income and they will pay you back on that date they said they would. Emergencies can happen. So if they don't pay up they'll communicate and let u know they need more time.

Lets say Peter wants a loan. Before i loan Peter anything i ask myself, how many of Peter's friends think he's good at managing money? Does he pay his friends back on time? Is he a businessman or does he make up a big ole story just to get what he wants and make it sound believeable?

A guy friend can be a scammer or in need of help. Ask questions.

shaysh87 · Answer

Its not ok for a boyfriend / girlfriend to ask for money. Because you are not husband and wife. Your boyfriend / girlfriend has no obligation to support you in any way shape or form. Sometimes its understandable to ask your boyfriend / girlfriend for a few dollars. But when it happens often, it means you aren't dating someone who has their life together. Its important to marry someone who has their lives together.

Not someone who expects you to cook breakfast for them every time he wakes up, or the type of guy who drives to work and has no idea his car is out of gas, or the type of guy who asks his girlfriend for gas money twice a month, or the guy who runs out of underwear because he forgot to laundry this week. Once you have kids with someone like that, they will struggle even more. How are you supposed to raise kids with someone who can't even take care of themselves?

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes. I warned my ex who was addicted to online gambling. I told him if you ask me for money I will dump you. Few months latter he asked and relationship that lasted over years was over.

EarthRealm · Answer

😂 you must of been pretty Traumatized from him Convincing you it’s a good idea to give him all your money 💴
I gave a friend 50 bucks the other day ago he said he would pay me back and Still hasn’t and even Asked for another 50 then threatened to Kill me when I didn’t give him more money 💴 he told me how gangster he is and shit.
I will NEVER GIVE ANYBODY MONEY EVER AGAIN.
Just glad he’s moving away at the end of the month.
He isn’t going to Kill me but He’s got a gun and everything it’s all tactical it’s got a laser on it and it is a military handgun it has large bullets

spartan55 · Answer

'Bad'? More like stupid. I see this frequently on here that women are giving money to their shithead boyfriends... I have never asked an SO for a dime, nor have I ever had any friends who have. Those guys are scumbags.

ErinEGoodKarma · Answer

Yess!!! Unless it for an absolute transparent & clearly legit cause/reason or (eg., like covering deductible for a must imperative surgery or something)…. & nearly or are married maybe…. But Repeated request with isn’t good thing esp. with detailed plan to repay!!! Lender Beware !!

BCRanger10 · Answer

The entire time we've been together, neither I nor my wife have had to ask the other for money, at least not significant amounts. Usually it's just for a tank of gas or something.

If someone is doing generally well financially but for a time has difficulty keeping up, I don't see a problem with a significant other helping them, so long as they pay them back. But if they're broke (as I saw in one of your other comments), that is a problem.

Kaamraj · Answer

You can do it if it's an emergency eg. your wallet gets stolen, or your card gets declines because of some technical issue. But as soon as you must return the money and then something more eg. if you took $17, return $20, round it off. Now before you call me a Simp or whatever, remember you must maintain leverage. The average woman has much more leverage than the average man, but one of the few things which you have is money (provisioning).

DivineZero · Answer

Don't allow people to make you change things about yourself be giving but figure out why you are attracted to Takers? It isn't a bad thing although society deems it bad because then a man isn't perfect lol. One day you will meet the love of your life and he will absolutely adore you for that side of you and who you are. There's nothing wrong with being good and doing good things even if it physically doesn't have a reward that doesn't mean there isn't anything that was recieved from it. 😋

Table4YTwo · Answer

it's dependent on how much and how frequent.

if its 30-60$ every once in a while thats fine, that could be just for food, a game, gas, just money he might of needed at the time.

If its a weekly thing then you have someone treating you like an ATM

DS_Madking · Answer

in my opinion it depends on the situation what means
1st what is he planning to use it for
2nd how serious is this relationship
3rd how much is it
for example if he wants 60 buck for a game and the relationship is even why not (by even i mean 1st how does he treat u 2nd how much does he gift u) or if its for food the same but if he asks for 150 bucks for no particular reason hell no never

Adam1978 · Answer

Never ever lend a money to your partner ever. If it's not something you are willing to gift, say no. So you paying for ice-cream one day isn't a deal breaker even if you are a woman.

Honesttguy · Answer

Put limit to not give out more than 50$ and ehen they ask say i dont lend more than 50 thats my limit.

abc3643 · Answer

If it's in short order, probably, yes. If he has a crisis and needs money, that's one thing. If this is a recurring thing, then he doesn't know how to handle money and thus should be dumped.

Sparkie460 · Answer

If maybe his car broke down and he was short to pay for it you could go with him to pay it off. If he just out of the blue asked for a few hundred then you can say no. It's one thing to be nice but you're not a bank and money doesn't grow on trees.

Freyke · Answer

I am okay with a 10 or 50 but I am sorry, 500? As long as we are not husband and wife, I won't give you an amount that crazy ever. And if we are married you probably won't ask for it either.

YvonneTIreland · Answer

I got caught badly in my past relationship so I am very slow to give anymore than €100 at a time. Once what is borrowed is given back, I don’t mind helping out in another few months but definitely wouldn’t make a habit of it.

OnlyOneMe34 · Answer

I was always taught never to lend more money than I can afford to lose. Didn’t matter if it was a boyfriend, sibling, co-worker, complete stranger, etc! It just hurts more when it’s someone “closer” to you!

serious_miss419 · Answer

Did he threaten your life when asking for the money or did you willingly give him the money?  Why would you give so much away? Donate it or save it.

WhitneySnow · Answer

That is a huge red flag

exitseven · Answer

I never asked a girl for money. It would show lack of character.

SlickRick24 · Answer

I don’t think a man should ever ask his lady for money no matter what not a good way to play. TLC said it best you don’t want no scrubs! Get a man that can put food on the table.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s always a red flag. The only situation I can think of is if you are his wife and he is sick or something.

jasco · Answer

1000 is way to much to begin with. A 100 is more than enough unless he/she provides valid reasons for why

Shamalien · Answer

I wouldn’t do it. If he’s putting that pressure on the relationship that means he’s probs exhausted his other lending hands, and that’s a big red flag

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yeah it's quite bad. Unless he gives you a specific moment when you're getting it back.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Women may not ask but they constantly expect men to pay for everything.

anylolone · Answer

Take away the man, is it bad to be asking for money from your partner? Yes, it's a bad sign. But it's just a sign, other things must be considered.

Anonymous · Answer

It's preferred not to ask for money. There is a danger of being classified a gold digger as it was the case with your ex.

Anonymous · Answer

Not always but follow the simple line If they don't pay would you be willing to forgive them or are you willing to break their legs to get paid

Anonymous · Answer

People who ask for money in a relationship are just using you as an ATM.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No matter what, you should have limits

zagor · Answer

How long had you dated him at the time?

888theGreat · Answer

Only a momma's boy would do that

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, because it can cause a lot of friction.

Emanon25 · Answer

To me is very bad.

Staximus · Answer

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