I want a boyfriend so badly but can't find my type. How do I get rid of this feeling?

[Rose_84]

I've always failed in my goals or academics whenever I was in a relationship.

But I always came 1st in goals and academics whenever I was single and had a clear mind.

Now it's about my career but I'm getting so desperate to find my other half.

I think about it all the time because I fear what if they're near and I'll miss them?

Well I used to think the same during my teens but still didn't got any right one.

So this feeling is useless. I just wanna get rid of it.

[MrOracle]

You need to make finding a partner the same high priority as you made your education and career. Don't expect it to be easy or to just happen - expect to have to put in the work.

Also, you must focus on LOCAL people and stay off of dating apps. You need to go OUTSIDE and into the world and meet people IN PERSON. Limit your pool to people who live within 15 minutes of you, so you can see them all the time. That's incredibly important but so many people have forgotten that because apps encourage you to open up your entire state or country so that you can try to attract the prettiest or richest or most popular people - but that doesn't create REAL relationships and women especially tend to get used that way.

Date LOCAL people that you can meet IN PERSON.

[Rose_84]

Thank you

[Jamie05rhs]

Two different things going on here:

1. You claim that you can't find your type.

2. You also claim that you're not even looking, and you're not even sure if you WANT a relationship right now.

Figure out #2 first, then tackle #1.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Paige_288]

Maybe try to relax and focus on yourself when you get distracted in yourself it will help s lot

[ImJustSomeGuyLol]

You're 23, a good time to get into a long term relationship.

I don't think you should get rid of the feeling because I think you should want a relationship, but maybe manage it in a healthy way, spend more time around people, so it's almost like the relationships with others is more fulfilling. Start a hobby or workout more, just so you put your mind at ease and forget the feeling for a while.

Also refrain from fantasizing what the relationship could be, you may set unrealistic standards that end up disappointing you when this potential man doesn't meet them.

[Emerson28]

You know when it comes to issue of once type in a relationship we tend to confuse ourselves wit this as most women and men do set very high standards and if one isn't able to reach such they now term it not my type. I would advice you really consider what it is you really want in a relationship and then from there you could start looking out for it but remember there is nothing as a perfect man or woman as each one has his or her short falls. Everything boils down to how you are able to handle such persons when you come to realise their weak points and then build up from there. Everything still depends on you cos only you can make it work if you really want it to.

[SiberFox]

Best I got is imagine the perfect guy and ask yourself where he would hang out then go see if he's stuck in a tree there

[DavidRaul]

Try to find something motivational and do what you love doing (hobbies). That would take your mind off from everything thats been on your mind.

[Anonymous]

2 choices. 1. Be alone. Or 2. learn to compromise a little.

[Anonymous]

Stop looking, being desperate, and amazing things will happen.

[MrOracle]

Looking is NOT the same as desperation. Finding a partner is a lot like finding a job - it usually requires a significant investment in time and effort, but that's not the same as being desperate. Desperation means ignoring standards and red flags and jumping into relationships carelessly. That's what should be avoided.