Do you believe that there is true and lasting love and in forever?
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Nope. There are essentially three factors that contribute to what we experience as “love”. The first is the endorphins that permeate our system when we find an attractive and interesting person who actually likes us similarly to the way we like them. The second is the compatibility of ideas, interests and behaviors that keep us together as the butterflies fade away. The third is the commitment that we exchange after realizing we have enough in common even if it’s not everything. If you don’t have all three, you don’t have love. You can have any one or two and be perfectly content, but it’s not really love. Since it’s actually pretty easy to get one or another, lots of people say they’re in love. Since it’s also very easy to lose one or another over time or after one or more bad choices, few people remain in love. Actually, marriage is a result of this simple fact. If it were not just possible, but likely to achieve deep, meaningful and everlasting love, we never would have developed a social and eventually legal contract to compel people to remain together. People would just stay together because the love never wanes, but they don’t because it does.
Love is real, it’s just not everlasting.
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There's a 3rd and 4th wall within serious relationships. After the honeymoon period is over and you're able to navigate disagreements and compromise without growing bitter or resentful, once you reach this stage you've passed through the 2nd wall.
Through the 3rd wall you understand why they behave and percieve the world as they do. You can connect cause to effect rationalizing today's events, your actions and her backstory. Then there is the 4th wall where you are able to have these deep discussions about how she sees you and how you see her. In these moments you see her entirety beyond the surface and you even see yourself as through her eyes.
I believe love can be forever because there still many walls to go
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There is no “true” love. There is love, and compatibility, in varying intensities, and love as a choice, and perseverance, and patience, etc. There is no one magic love that will surpass all else, if only one can find it, like a magic pill or elixir or fate.
Love that is good and healthy is more than a noun, something that befalls a person/persons. It’s an action, and decision, to stay in it, to not give up on the person, with every new thing which is revealed, and every negative word and experience that settles between you.
I don’t believe in “true love,” but I do believe in love. It’s not actually something to believe, or not believe, in. No one can deny its existence, just because they can’t measure it, don’t feel it, or haven’t felt it, or no longer feel it, or think they won’t feel it again. It’s not for them to say what others experience or how they feel. It’s chemical, biological, social; it’s beneficial to the propagation of a species. It’s painful af, but it’s also vital to all social creatures. But we all decide, we all choose, when we’ve had enough (or they’ve had enough), and when we think it’s worth continuing on. Fate didn’t decide this. We do.
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Yes if you and your partner has a solid foundation and a healthy emotional entimacy :)
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I'm not sure about "forever", that seems a bit hyperbolic, but I think there is true and lasting love.
And it can certainly last for one of the partner's entire lives.
I'd just rather whoever I loved have the strength to love again if I die before them. -
I believe there is, all you need is pray for the Almighty God to give you the right man or woman. what happen most at times is, we always want a particular person whereas the right once Come but we look down on them or say they are not our type. for me I believe there is always that right person for you. I Know of relationship that took for years and they end up getting married, all we need is to love for free and not for a particular reason. am single and I Know that where there is love there is happiness and even distance is not a barrier, love is sacrifice in itself 🥰🥰
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Yes there is. I believe in love. My parents are together for 15 years now even after so many arguments. They still kept up. Even though they had arranged marriage. I have been loving my sister since she took birth. My elder cousins adore me since I took birth. I have never seen a true and pure love getting apart. It won't also.
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Not really, people have a hard time remaining loyal. There's already high divorce and infidelity rates to prove it. Women are more likely to divorce/break up than men and men are more likely to cheat on women then women on men. That's why stories of couples who've remained monogamous for decades are celebrated, because they're not the norm that everyone wish it was.
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Yes I do. Not a love that either side can neglect and it still be strong but with love of two people great things come about. I do miss that so much a friend a lover and best friend my ride or die my mate. Love is real and and its made real by those who are real about their love.
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I think it must be possible.
Most of us will know an elderly couple that have been married for ever.
When one dies the other often follows shortly later which says something of the bond between them. It might not have been perfect but they stuck with each other and are clearly happy with each other in their declining years. I think we can call that as true and lasting love.
Just hasn't worked that way for me. -
I think there could be more long lasting relationships if the culture changed in that way. The current culture is rather promoting a culture of gaining as much experience as possible in your life that way cheating and break-ups are a not preferable outcome but all in all not that much of a big deal because many people do it.
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Yes I do. My parents were married for 41 years before my father died. My older cousins were married for 68 years before the wife died, and my marriage lasted 20+ years before we amicably divorced; after divorce we still occasionally see each other in family events.
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Yes, but you must have impulse control and drive. Most guys throw in the towel and live a life of meaningless sex that ultimately is the equivolent to being a junkie.
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@Pinay_ako I do believe in true and lasting love, I think it's out there for everyone. As far as forever, I don't believe in forever, it seems like a fairy tale.
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Yeah. I mean my grandparents died living together without issues.
According to my mum, they have their ups and downs - but grandpa did his best to put food on the table, make sure the house is livable and grandma did her best to make sure all her child were well mannered, educated and has a generally good upbringing. - 355 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
No.
The idea of "The One" is preposterous and is also a new concept in Western history that is only a few hundred years old. For most of human history was very common for people to have multiple partners. Most people (including women) cheat sooner or later. - 1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Like a forever romantic love? No.
I think the closest thing to eternal love is the love coming from a father and a mother.
"Father", "mother"; they're not words I take lightly. I believe is something earning, not by blood, but by heart. -
Materialism does not exist in a female beavers mind. She isn't always looking for a bigger house and a luxury car.
Marriage is an institution directly connected to Real Estate, They are conjoined twins. If you have corruption in Real Estate, you have corrupt marriages. One does not exist without the other. We have very corrupt Real Estate/Banks and that's an open window to how corrupt marriages and relationships are. -
No it doesn't. People are so hungry for variety, novelty and spiced up things these days.
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Not really, Nobody will ever love me, Also those two animals are not beavers, They are capybara.
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YES ABSOLUTELY FREAKIN YES! Because I have had my true love and if he were alive today I still would have him. He was my soul mate it was love at first sight for both of us. I never believed in any thing like that until him. We were married for 14 years when he died if he were alive still on June 7, 2022 it would be 21years together. Actually alive or not it's been 21 years because he is waiting for me in heaven and I'm still single and married lol if that even makes any sense
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Wait, wait, wait, now it's supposed to be forever?
I can't make it past 2.5 years, how am I supposed to figure out forever?
That's a lot of pressure. - 1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
That awkward moment when those are capybara, not beavers. Wooooops
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well... my parents have been together for 40 years or so and they still enjoy a laugh the vast majority of the days, share their coffee as well
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