Do You Think It is Okay for a Man or Woman in a Relationship to Compliment Other People of the Opposite Sex?

[gayesblog]

Does the compliment of your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend to someone else bother you?

[hahahmm]

It depends 100% on what your partner/spouse thinks about it. So if they don't like it, it doesn't actually matter if 5 billion other people don't think it's a big deal.

And there's going to be a problem if you only compliment your own woman once per year, but you happen to be complimenting the neighbor's tits and butt every other day. A problem that people outside of the relationship who get compliments every day/week wouldn't understand so... it depends.

Generally speaking guys learn to say less about other women tho. There's a middle ground. And it's not mentioning other women much.

[Alacazam]

It depends on the compliment, the body language of the person giving the compliment and the relationship terms between the two people. I was in a relationship where that was accepted, we would even point out people who were attractive to each other and somehow that made us feel closer to one another. Sadly, over time it just reinforced in him this desire to be with others, we turned into swingers of sorts, me accepting this "for the relationship" and I did enjoy a bit of it at the time. Regret the whole 8 year relationship now.
It's like giving a dog a treat off the table, you give them one and they beg for more. You give them more and you're reinforcing the bad behavior but it makes the dog happy so you give him more. The behavior gets worse and worse to the point he's jumping on the table and taking for himself.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Absolutely, it's not like they're going home with that person or doing anything inappropriate like touching their ass. Complimenting someone is being a decent human being & shouldn't make anyone jealous.
I'll tell a guy I love his tattoos, or that he has beautiful eyes, but that doesn't mean I'm infatuated with him. He has great artwork on his body or his eyes are amazing.
I don't expect my SO to not comment about how pretty the girl walking down the street looks, I'm probably mentioning her to him too.
Being a jealous person gets you nowhere. Especially if it's just giving someone a compliment.

[Kaneki05]

Obviously and if anyone thinks I cannot call another woman hot while in a relationship they be the absurd ones. Since I didn't go blind so I can still clearly see attractive women as so.
The fact I choose to be with my girlfriend then try anything with them is what been committed is.
If I just found everyone else ugly then I wouldn't be with my girlfriend because I want to be but just cause she's the only I like.

Which then isn't showing I wanted them by choice but more because I had to.

[Pinay_ako]

It’s just a compliment not an indecent proposal… unless it is with malicious intent. But that’s on your partner!

[ronaldo75]

Listen, this is a loaded question. Everyone knows their partner and everyone has made a decision to be with them. So, if you KNOW that complimenting someone will irritate them, why do it? If you know they're a jealous person, why are you with them?

In certain relationships little comments and compliments about other people do nothing to anyone's ego and no one gets mad. If you don't; have this type of relationship, you know what your're doing and you know whether or not you're doing it to get on their nerves.

[Ladybugharp]

Compliments make the world a better place; I would have zero issues if a partner made compliments to others (whatever gender). However, if it's with a malicious intention, i. e. clear intention to have an affair, then I'm with the wrong person.

[JDavid25]

Well, depends on how long in the relationship we are.. And what type of compliments.. If it's just "nice shoes" or something along those lines at the beginning of the rel that's fine of course.. If it's how he looks handsome or has a nice body at the beginning, well that might hit me the wrong way.. Now of that was when we were used to each other after sometime in the relationship, then the later compliments would be fine because at the point she is coming home with me anyways..

[Guy13]

Not in front of their partner. Actually, it is rude, thoughtless, and downright hateful as related to women. The most beautiful women on shoot were remarkably insecure and such a move woukd crush them. All women are this way,”Am I pretty enough”. Who would inflict that upon another they SUPPOSEDLY care about. Sorry for the Rant…

[sphinx23]

Well being in a relationship doesn't really make you blind. I think it's fine for both men and women who are in a relationship to notice and voice out their good opinion on others. There's nothing wrong with that. It only gets wrong when you do it with malice and intention. That's all.

[Anjoomkabir]

It depends on what the compliment is

If he's complimenting her physical appearance, then I would question why my significant other feels it necessary to cater to another women's ego.

If he's complimenting, let's say her work ethic as one example, then i don't think I'd care.

[Daniela1982]

Depends on what they are complimenting them about. Their clothes, their haircut, their car; that kind of stuff is fine. Their sexiness, their boobs, etc. is not okay. Makes you sound like a horndog. I would say save your compliments for your SO. They need them more than anyone else does.

[litty]

Depends on the compliment. I find it super annoying when a partner points out someone is so hot. It's only fair game to also say the same thing about a sex you are attracted to. If the partner gets upset, then maybe they'd understand how it feels then. Some people are just so clueless.

[Slotbot]

Open n honest communication is vital if u want a successful relationship.

u can express ur thoughts freely n still be a loyal partner.
It's when u choose to act on the thoughts it becomes a situation, unless its part of the grand communicated plan lol

[Theo2593]

depends on the compliment, if it was friendly like u look great or nice free or suit it its okay, its when it goes too much like complimenting their figure really getting specific about a detail or staring somewhere specific while giving the compliment.

[Yourservicemam]

Compliments
Without expectations
I was talking to a young lady
Asking her how she liked her New Car
“Well my boyfriend likes it a lot “
Okay Great I said..
“ you have a wonderful day to “
She may have meant her Girlfriend
From the way she was talking..
I only wanted to know about her car..😂

[Yourservicemam]

Complimenting the Car
Only..

[petitedollbabee]

If it’s a friendly compliment like “I like your outfit” or “your hair looks nice today” then that’s fine. If it’s obvious flirtatious compliments, like “your ass looks good in those jeans” then no.

[rtj1211]

Nothing wrong with it if it isn't aiming at having sex with them. Everyone enjoys compliments, after all.

You can't be a stud in the family home and a monk in the big bad world after all.

[Chazmatazz269]

Yes. EVERYONE should be generally kinder to more people. If your significant other has a problem with kindness to others, they’re a jealous freak and/or a sociopath. Put distance between yourself and them forthwith.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Totally fine. I'm secure in myself and my relationships, and compliments are very positive to the recipient.

As long as our relationship boundaries (which would be talked about) are respected, my partner can compliment away.

[BlueScorpio]

It's okay, I given male coworkers compliments before. I told one of them I like his glasses lol

[FlowerChild94]

No it’s totally fine to me as long as it’s innocent and not sexual. Like if my guy complimented a girls outfit or vice versa.

[Agape93]

Yeah absolutely. Giving compliments is not cheating. If I want to tell someone they look great, that they smell amazing or what have you, I'm not doing anything wrong but making their day. I don't care if my SO does the same thing.

[genericname85]

complimenting is fine. as soon as it's not sexual in nature with the aim of having sex with that person.

[melanieeeB]

Sure why not, a normal ass compliment doesn't have to mean anything

[Ehjoh1]

Complementing is perfectly fine as long as it doesn't become sexual or anything unfaithful-like.

[44of69years]

It all depends on the way the other person feels. Is they do not like you to, you need to respect their feelings. As being in a relationship with someone is all about respect and trust

[Kylal412]

Depends on context. Physical features not cool but other things not an issue for me.

[CallmeTheKnight]

If it bothers your spouse/significant other, then don't do it.

A compliment is a compliment, but someone people don't know how to leave as it is, a compliment.

[katiesmuff]

Yes I think it is perfectly fine to do that!

[LazerBean]

Of course. That's assuming that it's not some sort of weird compliment.

[sheikalana]

I personally don't do it but I think is okay as long as you respect both your partner and the other person.

[Ryan1979]

Yes just because you compliment other doesn't mean you a. Have any attraction to them b. Any sexual interests in them

[slatyb]

Of course. If a woman was bothered by that, it's over.

[Anonymous]

It's perfectly okay. There's a difference between paying someone a compliment and hitting on someone

[WhitneySnow]

Sure as long as the compliments are polite and nonsexual and not too simpy

[Anonymous]

Depends who they are complimenting. I would only have a reason to worry if I thought my significant other may have an attraction to or somehow screw. Turns out I basically have to worry about everyone because she was a hoe.

[snackthatsmilesback]

Yes? We do it all the time. It's nice right, compliments are the nice things?

[Anonymous]

uh yeah it bothers me and always will. you don't compliment others when you have someone already, especially in front of them. it's rude.

[Ms_Facesitter]

That's okay, if it's meant to flirt it's not. Don't flirt, but just a compliment is okay.

[Anonymous]

It’s funny to me when I hit on other girls and my girlfriend says stop hitting on other girls in front of the girl I hit on I’ve had the girl I hit on laugh 😆 at when my girlfriend does that.

[Lisa1991]

it is OK to compliment other people even though you are married, it shouldn’t bother anyone l.

I have always complimented other men and my husband too when I was married, he did the same thing and it never bothered me.

[Blueeyes81]

I see nothing wrong with them being decent human beings and making someones day by paying them a compliment.

[worldscolide]

Depends on the compliment and context. But yeah I see no issues with it.

[rabbitzzz]

It's ok for a man to do that but woman no. :p

[annabananna]

Yea, I’d much prefer him compliment than insult people.

[User772name]

I love your bo oo bs

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on the type and energy of the compliments.

[Iron_Man]

That’s not a good idea at all it stirs up controversy and there will be a problem from that

[TroyDT]

It is fine, but then I'm not an insecure snowflake.

[collie22]

if there is any jealousy better keep it to your self

[Sarahshahy]

Why not if I trust him. But there’s a bottom line: if that compliment is sexual, it’s not acceptable

[HaveNoName]

Only the complimenting person him/herself and his conscience can tell if it is ok or not.

[maximumpower]

It's OK.
If it bothers other person in the relationship, then there's a problem with them.

[slytherinalumni2008]

No it doesn’t bother me. There is a fine line between “that’s a nice haircut, Susie Q” and cheating.

[Michaela99]

If it bothers that person, no I don’t think it’s right

[JosyJosy]

Yep. Complimenting someone isn't flirting.

[Marshymallow]

A compliment doesn’t hurt

[Marshymallow]

Unless there are other intensions behind the compliments

[mandyfire98]

It's never bothered me honestly

[LostGirl9]

As long as it’s not sexual it’s fine for me

[Glenn_lawrence]

yes in a very tasteful way

[Nikki1989]

I see no problem with it.

[panda2712]

Depending on the compliment but most no

[Goth_cat]

Depends on the compliment

[MountAverage]

Yeah, why not?