Leaving my boyfriend because he doesn't make plans for the future?

[Anonymous]

So I'm getting a house by myself and my boyfriend never talked about the future. I tried to but he always talked about he's ok with now and that he needs to fix his credit and that he can't take his money out of crypto because he'll lose it. He lost over $50k dealing with dogecoin he had $100k. He thinks he'll be a millionaire and keeps saying he's waiting to become "straight" with his money so that we'll be fine. He makes good money as a firefirghter but used most of it in stocks. I'm not waiting around for him to get his act together. I told him I wanted to move in together but he still feels a need to "save" I'm like what? He still lives with his Dad and I'm getting tired of no plans being made.

[SteveSmith1985]

I think you maybe should make it clear JUST how 'serious' it is to you that he get 'straight' with his money... NOW (or lose you). And perhaps you already have made thatt clear.

Everything you say here makes sense. It seems perfectly reasonable that you'd leave him over this.

I just imagine this lonely asshole who really WOULD have done things differently (and kept you) had he understood how serious an issue this was for you.

If you've made that clear. Or if nothing changes after you do make that clear... then... yea... leave him. 🙂

[Asker]

Yeah like it's messed up we both make good money and he just messes his money all up.

[SteveSmith1985]

Yes. I think that the big problem is that he is not managing his money in a way that seem to be PRACTICAL when it comes to a future together IN THE NEAR-TERM. This guy is trying to be a millionaire, and sees himself 'as working on that.'

I have no doubt that in his mind, he wants to be rich in order to provide you with the 'future together' he envisions. A future where he's made a ton of money. The problem is, you're wanting to build a life together NOW (or at least soon), and aren't happy "waiting around" while he takes financial risks on his road to becoming a millionaire. It sounds like you are quite content to start building a life together WITHOUT any of this crypto/stock money.

I would imagine you both ultimately are working towards a future together. This guy just doesn't realize that he's going to lose you while trying to become rich (at least partly FOR you).

You need to make him understand where you're coming from. Maybe write him a letter?

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't see an actual question, just a rant that you are upset that a person (who's job requirement is taking huge risks that mean he could die at any time), isn't interested in safety nets for the future (duh).

Anyone worried about ensuring they have a safe future, isn't running into burning buildings to save people.

If you didn't want a selfless risk taker who lives in the moment and thinks of others before his own future, why did you date a firefighter? You only have yourself to blame here.

[Asker]

Maybe I should've said "should I leave" but taking job risks is one thing but taking money risks is another and blowing off majority of your funds in crypto isn't a smart move. I was with him before he became a fireman

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Lmao, he got got by Husky Musky's Doge pump and dump?

Yeah, cut your losses, girl. Get rid of him. He's never gonna learn to plan for the future, nevermind get out of that massive hole.

What a loser. Good thing he can make his money back firefighting, but it sounds like he's gonna dump it all again into some get rich quick scheme.

[Asker]

Yeah it seems as if he's trying to prove something to his dad in the guise of "us being straight for the future". I wanna build for the future there's no plans he's 27 and still dumping his money in hopes of getting big

[Smoke-n-Growls]

You're very right. He has no plans.

Even if he wanted to hit big with investments, the prudent thing to do would be investing what he can spare and still planning for and working towards an attainable solution.

He's gambling, plain and simple.

[GreatBigCircles]

You don’t need anyones permission to leave him. It’s okay to break up, and it’s okay that he’ll be hurt when you do so. You’ve clearly thought about this, and it’s motivated by your well being rather than malice. So yea, move on and find someone who can respect the future as much as you do.

[Asker]

Yeah it's just a crazy situation, I wanted to move forward he still wants to stay stuck and penny pinch off his dad

[Guy13]

I'm sorry... it is basically gambling the way "BitCon" is set up. It seems like you are making the right move. Apparently, your instincts are working well.

[Asker]

Yeah it's a big gamble and he's not winning. I don't care about his money he has a good job and I do too and I just want to move forward with my life and actually build something for the future

[Guy13]

I think he has a big case of Self-Love complicated by Self-Indulgences

[Sexiestjohnson]

I think you are rushing him. He is also being logical and I value that. If you can't see sense in what he is saying, the best bet is to break up with him.

[Asker]

No rush, I just want to move forward with my life. I'm getting a house I want him to move in but he's worried about his crypto than the future.

[FilmGuy93]

Yeah, that’s probably a good idea. Crypto is a great way to lose all your money.

[macjets007]

Good for you. He sounds like an irrational person who will have other ways to disappoint in the future. If you can't get your $ right, what about other important things?

[Asker]

Yeah it's not a smart move I asked him why would be put majority of his money into doge and he got all mad. So he can do what he wants I'm just trying to move forward with my life.

[spartan55]

Ever stop to think he's just not ready for all that?

[Mafia24]

I made 500k dollars by shorting doge & other shits called crypto...

Move on never bet on trader who continue losing money n living on hope.

[Asker]

Yeah he's living on hopes and dreams

[maximumpower]

YOUR house, YOUR money.
NOT
your house and money and HIM.
Don't do it.
He hasn't proven that he's responsible with his own money.

[KrakenAttackin]

So leave. What kind of answer or validation are you seeking?

[LazerBean]

Good.

[Anonymous]

Not my problem!

[Anonymous]

Makes sense.