If a man is only bringing flowers and gifts after he cheats or is a jerk, isn't that already insincere?

[Anonymous]

I've seen this happening in both movies and in real life:

The relationship is over because either he cheated or was a jerk and all of the sudden, he shows up with flowers or gifts, hoping to win her back. Isn't that already insincere? Gifts are suppose to be during your happy moments (at any random date, not necessarily on her b-day nor Valentine's Day, any day), because it's a gesture of love... not because you're trying to win the girl back.

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Honestly that wouldn't impress me at all. It would be like an insult. He still cheated or was a jerk. Why would I suddenly want his gifts? Why didn't he gave those gifts during happy moments when there was no issue in the relationship, when she trusted him?

[Guy13]

Only if the other is unforgiving. If that is her attitude then get the F on. It’s not healthy for anyone involved. One has to start somewhere. Lots of people could care less…least has some sort of conscience

[Asker]

I'm not a forgiving woman when it comes to cheating. If hypothetically speaking I were to magically forgive, then the actions I would want is him to find out why he cheated and work on that through counseling, not bringing me gifts as a way to erase it all and pretend it didn't happen.
Does what gifts have to do with your cheating or jerky behavior?

[Asker]

It doesn't make sense to me. How does bringing me a couple flowers make me forget about a major infraction he committed? LOL

[Guy13]

You obviously need individual counseling or I can guarantee you this will not work. You’ve got all kids of bottled up pride and anger festering into sleeping in different bedrooms kind of hate.

[Asker]

Why would I need help? I don't cheat nor have anything against others. I'm just sharing what I've seen.

[Guy13]

My apologies. Your response was I am not a forgiving woman…and only hypothetically are you forgiving. I thought this was you…

[Asker]

Yes cheating isn't a mistake. That's not something I can forgive.

[Hydrogen]

For being a jerk sure, seems like a nice make up gesture. For cheating, there is no excuse and nothing can fix that, fuck cheaters.

[Asker]

For being a jerk, I would want him to work on the issues and not repeat the same behavior over and over. Otherwise bringing gifts ever single time he's a jerk, would seem like cheap words right there.

[Hydrogen]

Of course, there must be visible progress.

[Asker]

As for cheating, yeah nothing will make him want to take him back. Bringing gifts after cheating actually feels like an insult.

[Hydrogen]

It basically makes you feel like you are being bought.

[WhitneySnow]

Extremely