Is it fair to be angry at my husband because he doesn't make any money?

[Anonymous]

It's Belén going on for six years. Im si damn tired of this. Every single expense in the housse Is on me. I wonder what the hell did I do to deserve this. I'm a hard working woman I never expected a husband to be the only breadwinner. But this is really killing me I feel bad every. When I come home he rarely has dinner or helps with the housework. I've tried to encourage him in so many ways but this just doesn't work anymore.

[Jdjfjcjj]

It's in men's nature to want to provide.
It's in womens nature to want providers.

So, yes it's fair, and your husband is not being manly.

With that being said, people treat others the way others allow them. So youve created an environment for him to be this way. It's difficult to change this the longer it's been going on.

I'm going to assume he wasn't always this way, else you would not have married him.

So, rather than try and encourage him, I believe an ultimatum is a valid option, provided you have the backbone to follow through.

[nawtee_me]

This is a bad time of year to divorce, or is it? If he is not working then you probably won't get much in the way of Christmas presents, or even a New Years night on the town. Thanksgiving dinner means you cook all morning and have to sit with him and eat lunch. Maybe it is time for a divorce.

I have always thought divorce should be the last thing to do. Maybe a separation would be a better start? Is there somewhere you can go? Ask him to leave but if he won't then you should and let him pay the bills there himself. If renting and it is in your name then give notice first. You don't want your credit to be compromised.

Talk to him first and let him know it has come to this and see what he has to say about it. There is work out there. What does he do? what has he done in the past? Has he always not worked? Id he used to work what happened?

[Anonymous]

My mother we through the same thing. He never changed. I wish she had left him.

[Summeroflove]

No. Go make your own. You didn’t marry him for money I hope. If he isn’t working. Then this seems one sided if he won’t help with anything.

But my gosh

[OlderAndWiser]

Who selected him to become your husband?

[WindAtMyBack]

If he's lazy and leaching off of you, and it doesn't change after years, then don't expect him to change in the future. Dump him. Or if you don't want to dump him, learn to put up with it. Because he's unlikely to change. You have to ask yourself if this is the man you want to be with the rest of your life.

Don't be in a conditional relationship. Either you accept him as he is or you don't.

[whiskeyontherocks]

On the one hand if a guy complained about the same situation with his wife he would probably get called misogynistic.
On the other male or female I’m not a big supporter of laziness.
Sounds like there’s more to it maybe just take away the hurdles and see what happens.
Stop cleaning see what he does.

[Sparkie460]

If he's home and not taking care of the house and kids or having dinner ready then what does he do all day? Does he have an illness that prevents him from looking for a job or working? How long has it been since he had a job?

[slatyb]

So why are you still married to him if you are so unhappy?

[Anonymous]

Are you asking because it's secretly you who hasn't worked and your husband is getting pissed off? Either way it's fair either way to be mad.

[chicosuave]

time for divorce

[Anonymous]

Time to divorce.