Is it normal to never experience a first crush?

Question

Here I am, 22 years old and I never even witnessed my first crush. I don't know what a crush feels like and don't know if I'll ever find someone I love in the extent of having a boyfriend. I guess you can say I know how to define someone by my personal perception of "attractive" but what does it feel like to be in love with someone? I don't necessarily have an interest in these kind of notions; however, I don't want to be alone all my life either. I witnessed so many girls talking about who they like... then there's me 🤣. Just chilling. Hey, how's it going, weather is nice today. Any thoughts? Are there more people experiencing the same thing or do I lack normality? Either way, I'm open to any opinions.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Hmm you probably just haven’t found a guy who impressed you, or a guy who tried to flirt with you, and it made you all hot and flustered.

I mean, you can’t just crush on a guy who is just walking around lol

BUT

may the same time maybe you haven’t taken the time to or noticed any guys who visually look attractive to you.

You never crushed on a boy band before? 😄🤣

Justin Bieber? One Direction? Jonas Brothers? Jaden Smith? Usher? Bruno Mars? Michael Bublè? Jason Derulo? Maroon 5? Bazzi? Shawn Mendes or Mendez? Lol

🤷‍♀️

Maybe you’ve been focused on other things, like hobbies and friends and you never had a guy friend.

Focusing or interacting with Guys, could seriously up those chances.

If not, I guess you’d have to wait until one approached you.

Guys won’t always approach you unless it’s normal in the area- like in Miami, or New York.

If it’s not typical for guys to approach in your state, or other, and they DO approach you, it could be a high chance you really sold out to them, and left an impression on them. If they’re a nice guy and they impress you, I would say things were looking pretty good.

Just get out there- living your life, and if you would like a guy companion later on, don’t be closed off to guy friendships and such.

Probably later, at you give it more thought, it will come naturally. 🤷‍♀️
Hope for the best.

Best to you sis! 🤝

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

You sound aromantic. I'm the same way, I don't really get crushes on people and it took me a while to come to terms that I probably wouldn't know what romantic love was or what the difference was between platonic forms of love. You can still love, very strongly, but the idea that experiencing that romantic love makes you "normal" isn't really the best idea to hold onto. Being aromantic is completely normal and not anything to panic about, and if you feel that this isn't really something that matches you then I understand but that's what it sounds like to me.

Qdbrown · Accepted Answer

Becareful with the ideas of maybe being asexual and aromantic. Maybe, but she has not been in a scenrio where someone flirts and tries to impress her, and she doesn't notice.

A lot of of times, especially these days, as with so many guys sexually immature and or scared of women, because radical feminism has really put the fear into so many guys. A lot of guys move really slow, so many women take it all as mild interest, where the guy is scared he will get busted if he approaches too aggressively. Which makes sense, because in some countries like the UK, you can get arrested harassing. You can go to jail staring too long.

America is not that far gone, but there are so many horror stories. Many guys get warned to be careful, and many just never develop.

AMS700CX4u2 · Accepted Answer

I have said this before. You need to not define yourself by being an extension of someone else. Jimmy's girl/ Ricky's wife. Go be you, It is OK to go it alone for a short period of time. It is in the process of finding yourself, that someone will find admiration for you and the infatuation will begin. CRUSH Hope you enjoy it. Just remember someone may have a crush on you and the feelings may not be mutual. Be Gentle

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I understand compassion and care and delighting in somebody and being devoted to them. I do not think I fully understand sexual love. I think passion can be dangerous and I don't factor it in when deciding whether to date somebody. My only rule is, he can't be very very unattractive.

kylee2437 · Answer

So having a crush is a form of lust, it’s not necessarily being in love with someone lol

Anonymous · Answer

Are you an asexual cell LOL 😂.

Like those amoeba 🦠 that replicate themselves…

Don’t you feel sexual attraction? Don’t you want someone to clap the cheeks? Just saying… isn’t there a desire to have a male’s body over you, overpowering you, giving you unbelievable pleasures with his member? Specially if he’s BIG, cause let’s be real most Americans ARE NOT 😑.

isn't there a want to kiss and hold a beefy male. Or have him hold you , or caress you.

Look at this guy with thick black eyebrows. You can tell he’s fertile.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Yk6tvc6Bmsc

Random_g · Answer

Same for me I find people attractive but I don't get attached.. For me, Love and affection is more skin ship oriented so I can't get attached to someone from a distance (like a crush) .. on another hand I'm a virgin and I want my all to be for the man I get married to, so that minimize my chances to fall in love even more (ofc according to my approach to love) but who knows..

Paulalove98 · Answer

I think it can be for some people. Maybe you just haven’t found a guy who’s really been drawn to you yet or felt romantically interested in, unless you’re asexual but you’re still young and have time to figure things out and find yourself:)

DavidRaul · Answer

Yes its normal. I had a crush in high school and it just faded away when i went to university. And after that i haven't found any woman that i had a crush on or just blew my mind.

petitedollbabee · Answer

You could be aromantic and asexual. There’s nothing wrong with that. You can find companionship through platonic love & relationships, such as the relationships you have with your family, friends and pets.

Akam93 · Answer

I never had a crush myself and I'm almost 30 so dont feel bad.

xoxosilentgirl · Answer

you might be asexual aromantic. It is not common to never feel in love at your age, but thats normal for asexual or aromantic people.

AydenHazor · Answer

Sounds like you may be asexual, which is perfectly normal. If you build a community of good strong friendships you will never be alone in this life even if you don't get romantically entangled with anyone

Berethor · Answer

Girls tend to be more emotional than guys, so it pretty strange, you might be aromantic.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Some people just are asexual. They are attracted to nobody. Still, those people are quite rare. Some infamous people might be Sir Isaac or Nikola Tesla (peace and blessings upon Them).

OddBeMe · Answer

1) a crush isn’t love. By definition. It’s immediate infatuation. Love means you know the person. 2) if you’ve never been attracted to someone…yeah I think that’s a big issue.

supercutebutt · Answer

Maybe you are only attracted to the penis and balls of a gentleman? And because exposed genitalia flopping around at work and school is mostly prohibited, you don't get butterflies in your tummy when guys are around you?

Byrne · Answer

It just means you are very mature. Having crushes is childish and indicative of low intellect.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

That's not normal. You're probably an asexual

Vinnygraphix · Answer

Hurry up before u end up like me 36 no kids no friends and no girlfriend and zero family members to talk to

Guy13 · Answer

Yes it is normal.

Iron_Man · Answer

I think most humans have had a crush at one point

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

Kind of. My first crush was at 11. I've heard people say they had a crush at 5. You could have your first crush at 30.

panerabricks · Answer

My first crush was in college so I think it just depends. just let it happen people.

Anonymous · Answer

Talk to @vivant you sound similar to her.  You might just be asexual.

es20490446e · Answer

Do you have sexual desire?

AsaKyo · Answer

Yeah, cause' I never really did either

Anonymous · Answer

Crushes are for school kids.

Fryday_Knight · Answer

Maybe it still needs to happen

Lynn2001 · Answer

Maybe you’re an asexual? Which is normal

Anonymous · Answer

I never really had a crush

Anonymous · Answer

Probably not all that normal.

bayoubob · Answer

Asexual much?

Anonymous · Answer

maybe you're aro/ace

Dav1dTh0ma389 · Answer

Nope

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