
Would you spend Valentines Day with an ex if you were both single and lonely?


Absolutely NOT! I have had three serious, or well one semi serious and two serious relationships. One was fun, and lasted six months, but it was only semi. The other two were very serious. Mike? I never want to see his face again, he cheated on me, he’s dead to me, and I'm afraid if we were together for dinner, I’d spent the night in jail for punching him right in that smug little face of his. But it’d totally be worth it.
Lee? No, I broke his heart, and mine when I ended that relationship. We were supposed to go to the same college and we were both accepted to several, so we had our choice. But then he was wait listed to Cal Tech, and that was his dream college. I told him he had to go, knowing that it would be the end of us. But he thought we would LDR for 8 years. That was too much and it just wasn’t fair to him, or me. So I ended it after he accepted the seat. When i did that i broke two hearts, and I still love him, I couldn’t be with him on Valentine’s, it would be torture to not just reach out and hold him again. So this one’s a big no for me. But what a great question. Thanks 🙏🏼
Hey. I just wanted to say that i hope you find someone. I do mean it.
Only if it was an ex that we parted on great terms, stayed friends and had no hard feelings. I've actually done that before, we both had no dates so we just hung out together, watched a movie, nothing special but we didn't have to sit home and dwell about it.
I would not do that with a cheating ex at all or someone that we parted on bad terms with, I'd rather be lonely and happy than miserable seeing him for even one second.
I agree. It’s weird how some people still give cheating, abusive pos exes connection and “second chance” bs. It’s self destructive low self esteem crap.
Then other people treat an ex like the plague even though nothing fundamentally wrong (cheating, abuse, etc) ever happened. That’s cruel ego.
Why people struggle to discern the difference shows how much people let their emotions rule their actions.
@blueonblack22 Right, the cheating abusive ones get, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, chances and more.
And why is that? It’s all based on twisted emotion.
I have one ex particular who treated me as less than human after she broke up with me. I definitely had my faults and I understood why she broke up with me. I accepted it. But I never cheated or did anything abusive. Yet the way she handled it was one deepest insults I have ever taken from a woman in my life.
Meanwhile I see cheating and abusive exes getting several more chances. Now why is that? It’s because people are ruled by their emotions which makes them act really stupid and unfairly destructive themselves and others.
IF I were single, I would rather jump off a bridge than re-invite toxic individuals back in my life. Especially the ex with a personality disorder. I didn't come this far to go back to a past & people who have caused me nothing but pain. Not only that, I've surpassed them greatly, so they are nothing but a liability. So I'll choose 'loneliness' any day.
I as a man have no issues being alone. You'll always find me doing something productive even on Valentine's days where I was single. And the upcoming Valentine's day I'll be busy during the day and I'll spend the evening with my girlfriend.
There is a Ukrainian lady who I dated intermittently between 2007 and 2020. We were long distance so I would make an effort to see her but she wouldn't travel to see me so I would quickly lose interest, I would start datng someone local, but in between other gfs, I would go back to see Oksana. So she was "sort of" an ex, and I did spend a few VDs with her.
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Hell no! If y'all hear me say I'm even so much as talking to any of my exes, please check on me: I am NOT okay! It's either an imposter or I need a psych evaluation.
But no, I'm not that desperate, lonely, or pathetic enough to go back to an ex. Trust me when I say there was a reason we broke up... good reasons.
Even when I was in past relationships, my exes didn't make me feel like vday was a special occasion.
And they sure as hell didn't give me anything else worth missing them over- yeah, I went there.
What if they brought Cheez it's? lol
No, no... gonna need a Klondike bar or better 🤣
I feel similarly - certainly not with any of my 3 exes, not in a Valentine's setting.
One of could be a friend but not a lover, the other two - one's abusive (and, having nothing better to do, still hates or envies me (she's 7 years older)), the other lives in some own world of hers, surrounded by people none of whom I find acceptable (petty crooks).
Whether it be a male or female Ex, who would be so desperate as to spend intimate time with one you told to get out of your life at one time. Talk about people at the water cooler 😂 and the bar 🤣 🤣🤣🤣🤣…. This is the one that makes the top of fraternizing list.
I would absolutely not spend Valentine’s Day with my ex.
I always say it: “they’re an ex for a reason” even if things ended on good terms.
Valentine’s Day is meant to celebrate those who need an extra push to get their relationships rolling. Some get engaged, others married, some enjoy the one day they get to dress up and go on a date without children, and some enjoy the day as an extra chance to do a little something something for their someone special.
Exes are not special. They are exes.
I’ve got no issues with any of my exes but I’d say lonely and single with hot sauce in my eyes before I consider myself desperate enough to spend a typical day with an ex.
I would love to say no but he broke up with his girl, gave me her gift and it was one of our greatest makeup sex fcks 😭💀 We were idiot kids. I wouldn't do it again
No.
It would have to be a very rare circumstance where both of you truly want to remain split up and yet still respected each other for that to happen. But that’s extremely rare. Like 1 out 10,000 rare.
Exes can remain friendly and respectful (depending on what cause the break up) but not real “friends”. There is a difference.
No. Considering the fact my last ex literally ended it on Valentine's Day and I had spent it planning a weekend for us to snowboard/ski in the mountains.
Silver lining was I was able to get fully refunded for my bookings.
Yikes. Yeah that wouldn't be a good move eh lol
I actually get along pretty well with one of my ex's. We didn't speak for a year or so after the break up but we ended up getting back in touch and since the romance isn't there for either of us anymore the friendship still was. We don't speak regularly but hanging out wouldn't be a big thing
HELL.. NO! 🤡
Theyre an EX for a reason. To never hear of them again. 🖕
They can spend their Valentines (Ridiculous Holiday by the way) on their own. LMAO with their dog, with their cat.
LMAO
I use to use my exs, like that all the time. If I wanted to go out to dinner, a concern, or whatever, I would just call them up and see which ones were available.
My exes and I did not part on good terms. There was cheating, lying, issues with jealousy on their end. No.
Would I date a girl I had gone out with a few times? Probably. At the very least, it might be fun to catch up.
Probably not unless I wanted to get back together with them and I was sure they felt the same way. Otherwise it’s a really bad idea.
No. There is a reason why they are an ex. If we go back to the old ways, making mistakes and not moving on from them then that would be problematic.
No on v-day. We went on vacation to New Orleans spring break.
I sometimes think he might be gay, otherwise I don’t understand how he is my EX.
I wanna say yes but I’m gonna say no and here’s why.
I have had more than a few relationships but most weren’t that serious but that said I’ve dealt with rekindled love interests in that past and know from first hand experience that it could totally work out. But the problem is that being single is more tolerable.
No, our break up wasn't friendly at all, I'd rather spend that day with a single friend and have a fun time together
No, because he always broke up with me on Valentine's Day
because exes cannot get back together on Valentine's day. it will make them feel weird and confusing.
If we didn’t end in bad terms and we are both single then yes. But I never stay in touch with my exes that chapter just doesn’t feels right. Nor is there any ex I would want back. I’m speaking from a hypothetical POV
Absolutely not , for my own mental health would be more beneficial to spend it with an absolute stranger than an ex. There are so many great options better than an ex.
Technically on Valentine's Day people celebrate love with their loved one, and an ex it's an EX for a reason.
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