Is it right that my mom thinks my boyfriend should always be paying for me and sharing everything with me? (Page 4)

[Anonymous]

I definitely think both people in the relationship should contribute but I do think it should be relative to their earnings.

[crossdressingrihno]

In the ideal world a man should be the care giver. That said this economy is far from ideal and in a few years if things continue like this people will just give up dating entirely.

[jshm2]

You're both stupid.

Your mom for not understanding that you're not married, and not a gold digger. You for not understanding that whatever he does for you is reciprocity. He could kick you out tomorrow with little recourse.

[andreasderjuengere]

By feeling: YOUR arrangements with YOUR boyfriend is not your Mom's business :)

[John_Doesnt]

The man should only be the caregiver and provider if the woman is willing to be the homemaker. That would be equal 50/50. But if she just wants to sit around all day spending his money then that's not equal.

[Likes2drive]

That’s old school thinking, like back when she was dating it was affordable for the man to always pay, now it’s nice to help at times

[LittleSally]

50/50 is fair.

Your mom's point of view is outdated, but that is the era she has grown up in...

[ChooChooHaha]

It's between you and him. Who cares what your mom thinks? If you and he agree it's 50/50 and back it up (on both ends), your mom can shut it.

[Daniela1982]

I've said fit a hundred times - everything should be 50/50 when dating. When you get a ring, then you can gouge him. 🤣😂

[StormChaser838]

yes, boys should always pay. As a girl you should always offer to pay and insist till you know him very, very well.

[AimeeKyle]

Relationships are 50/50. (Not in every every activity/chore/etc, but overall). It’s a team…. everyone do what they are good at, share the things you both dislike and spoil each other. The recipe for success.

[AydenHazor]

Your mom sounds very traditional, but relationships tend to be healthier when both parties contribute to them equally. I wouldn't be strict about everything having to be exactly 50/50 but I think both parties contributing is definitely the way to go

[WhitneySnow]

I agree with you. Do what you and your boyfriend mutually agree feels comfortable for you both.

[MikeTheBartender]

I hate when women never pay. Your mom is wrong. Maybe not 50/50 if the guy does well but personally done w broke girls that can't contribute.

[mattc007007]

100% 50/50 or depending on the income of the partners it could differ. It depends though; if a dude makes serious $ they should contribute more, but the women should still contribute.

[DarkLegacy]

The poll results should tell you everything. Your mum is wrong. Relationships like that are a thing of the past, that was when women were expected to stay at home and not work.

[the_sinner]

It’s not entirely right. Sharing and caring for each other is what keeps a relationship alive in these times.

[Razzmatazz101]

Let him take care of you most of the time especially if you guys are having sex. There's nothing wrong with you hopping in and paying from time to time just to show you enjoy the occasional hard penis lol

[Raaj4you]

No, my mom said, spend money only on food and commute. Don't buy expensive things for your girlfriend. First test her if she is a gold digger or not? Buy expensive things only after the wedding.

[krin_m]

I voted 50/50 but in reality it is your and his decision together and none of your mom's or anybody else's business!