Me and my best friend are going travelling for 3 months this summer and we both have boyfriends however we recently started discussing whether we should have a few one night stands whilst we’re away and let ourselves go a bit. I want to do it but feel incredibly bad, my friend insists that everyone does it. So 1. Does everyone do it? And 2. How likely am I to be caught?
To be completely honest, most of the women I see looking for flings are traveling. Having friends that are cheaters is another part of the equation. I'm just speaking from my life experience in dealing with women. The infamous girls night out or girls trip/vacation has become synonymous with them cheating.
With that said I think you'll cheat. I don't think it's a good thing and your dude is going to know, but not be able to prove anything... It's still going to piss him off but he'll keep it to himself with the lack of proof. It will cause it's own form of drama and if you are sloppy enough to get caught red-handed, it will be a shit show.
You need a different friend. She's probably unhappy in her dealings with men and she's dragging you into it... we become the company we keep. You two will start to conflict if she finds a guy she wants to be faithful to. ... and I've never seen that "best friend" status get dropped faster than between two women. I'd place bets her relationship status isn't as good as yours is now and she's just going to make your relationship status resemble hers. That's what chicks do to each other... compliance is their thing.
Onto not getting caught... your change in behavior is the most likely tell. Stories not lining up or making any sense. I'm sure you have the pregnancy stuff figured out, but even with safe sex you can catch herpes, crabs, and everything else if you suck his dick... it will just be in your mouth. Out of all of the cheating women I slept with... the ones that got caught by their men got sloppy with their social media, friends that know, and use of emails. Stay away from your facebook/Instagram stuff. The email stuff is a big one. My email I'm including chat... like messaging on your phone. That's the shit that really got most of them caught red handed. So keep yourself at a distance from the guy you choose to cheat with. If he has your fucking number... you'll get that message or phone call in the middle of a date night with your man months down the line. Trust me on that... It's almost gotten me caught many times. Do what I do and choose a messaging app for what your doing and then get that app off your phone completely when you return to your normal life.
I implore you to have second thoughts about any of this though. It will change you as a person and in that way it's going to fuck with your relationships. <--plural there, because yes... even if you leave your current relationship this learned pattern of behavior will carry on and on and on. You feeling bad or guilty about it is just good part of you trying to speak up.
You should tell your boyfriend you are considering some one night stands.
You sound like a piece of crap and you should be single. You aren't worthy of a relationship because your are a disloyal, lying, cheating harlot.
I've never personally traveled away from my girlfriend/wife. We travel together.
I'd would have broken up with anyone who took a job requiring travel, I would have broken up with any girlfriend who was going to travel for 3 months (I don't do long distance relationships) I would have broken up with anyone who went away to school or joined the military and was deployed (once again I don't do long distance relationships).
Anyway, your guy needs to know how disloyal and unfaithful you are and needs to just get rid of you. You are not worthy of being a girlfriend.
You probably would not get caught but you would have to live with your guilt for cheating, at the same time... it will cause trust issues for you. As cheaters often project their cheating onto their SO's and don't trust themselves or others.
That means you will think, if I cheated so did he. He must have, there is no way I was gone for three months and he did not.
It does not matter if he did or not, a cheater would think that and may or may not start accusations.
Cheating is the first step to losing and destroying trust.
Plus if you get away with it when travelling, more likely to do it at home later.
What if you do cheat and you get back and you never do it again while home, what happens next travelling trip? Going to do it again, because you got away with it?
What if you marry him, in 4 years or so, you going to confess or simply never tell him?
I never cheated when travelling, but if I was going to be gone a long time, I'd end things as I didn't consider it fair to have a relationship when I was going to be gone for the next six months or however long.
If when I got back he was still single, then we could hang out and maybe get back together, usually not though.
I was okay if he found someone better than me, while I was gone. After all, I don't harbor bad feelings and if I'm not the right person, then so be it. I would want him to be happy.
It shares the same logic of "my partner isn't aware of it so that means it's okay". Like what? If you want to do that then break up with him, but I doubt he'll want to date you again when you get back and can be bothered to be honest about it.
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Holy. Shit. Are you kidding me? It doesn't matter where you are... cheating is cheating. Your friend is a terrible person. How are you even asking this question? I mean... are you serious? What's wrong with you?
u "Everyone does it" is a common excuse to do something that you know is wrong. If it ISN'T wrong, then ask for your boyfriend's consent to do it.
Don't want to ask him? That's because you know it's wrong.
I used to travel a lot, and I often saw men and women hooking up at the hotel bar. I was tempted a few times, but being married with kids at the time, I never cheated.
If you want to cheat. Break up you piece of shit
What is common is for people to behave that way and then end up single and unwanted when they are older because no good quality person will ever want them after they behave that way since it shows their morals. That is what happened to the majority of women in their 30s and 40s that are single and saying, "where have all the good men gone."
Just remember, YOU are the one that has to deal with the consequences of your decisions in life.
Maybe you should reconsider the kinds of people you have as friends.
1. No, not everyone does it.
2. He doesn't deserve you. Asking this question means you were considering it as long as you don't get caught? Your friend is a bad influence and you tolerate it. 🙄 If you want to live as a single woman then let go of your boyfriend.
No, do what you want. Generally it's not a problem because starting a new relationship isn't a big effort as long you're the one who divides and reigns. However keep in mind this is the trap lot of girls fall in because it's more comfy to think this status quo will last forever.
Nope.
When I was in a relationship I traveled to Bali alone, cause my partner was working and I had to go to Bali to renew my visa.
So, I had the best holidays, met and got asked out by the hottest guys but I told all of them that there’s a hottest man on planet waiting for me at home and they don’t stand a chance with me. I had a great fun, but I didn’t cheat.
You say you want to do it so break up with your boyfriend, in a clear and concise way so there is no confusion, then you could have all the fun you want without the guilt and you spare him being cheated on.
There shouldn't be any problem with that because it's clear you don't love him since you want to have sex with other people behind his back.
If you are single don't have partner. Yes, different cultures have different sizes and shapes 😂😂😂😂😂.
If you have boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged or married. Good luck buddy. Cuz nope I wouldn't done it. No matter that shape and size may be. I wouldn't destroy my relationship that could last forever for some random person only last momentarily.
It shouldn't matter what everyone does. Birds of a feather flock together. Being friends with your travel mate, makes it makes it more likely for her to rub off.
Tbh though, you traveling for 3 months, aren't paying for it yourself so less limitations, and don't know anyone where you going.
If your boyfriend thought y'all two would be little saints, be goofy. He should have broke up with you already
LoL wtf. So later you can meet in the bar and discuss how you fucked up your relationship? Or better yet - discuss behind doctors door which STD someone got.
"Hey Sally you got Gonorrhea? Oh, i see. I just got Chlamydia" Fun times huh?
A lot of people do it. I had a job that had a lot of travelling and I travelled with a guy who was married and he used to get some on the side when he could. I had a girlfriend and I wouldn't cheat on her.
It might be fun to do this but the guilt you will feel afterwards will make you regret it.
1) No not everyone does it. Just cheap people who have little to no morals and will cheat at some point in the relationship anyway.
2) Not likely but if you can live with being cheap and sleazy for your life sure
It might be common, but that doesn't mean you have to do what other people do. You must not have very much self esteem.
You and your best friend are cunts. I hope they find better girlfriends.
It is common but that doesn't mean you should do it. If you want your relationship to last you should respect your partner.
The only people who do this don’t value their relationships and shouldn’t care if they get caught. I can’t believe this is even a question. Cheating is NEVER okay, whether the other finds out or not.
Are you for real considering this? "It's ok if I don't get caught" mentality is freakishly insane! Imagine him cheating on you, your way of thinking would be different no?
P. S - your boyfriend deserves better than this.
Your friends are worthless sluts who will probably end up on an episode of cold-case files. Smh
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