I have a boyfriend. We've been together for 5 months now and I like him very much. Before him i had a long time romantic interest woth someone from my school. I had liked this other guy for about 2 years, but didn't actually acknowledge my feelings until about a year ago. I did confess to him, and although he and i had shared plenty of moments prior my confession, i heard no response from him after. He is an extremely shy and awkward person so i honestly expected that but i was hoping to get some type of reaction.
After my confession, i found him staring at me a lot but also avoiding me. I was sad seeing him so often after that, so i took a break from my martial arts school for about 2 months.
During those 2 months, my current boyfriend and I began to befriend each other at work and instantly connected. It happened all so fast, but we wound up dating 2 weeks after talking then being together a few more weeks after that. We spend time together frequently and i am comfortable with him and can see a possible future with him, however, this other guy sometimes crosses my mind. I felt that this other guy was someone i could be with forever at the time and I truly believe i loved him. I feel like even now, i still somewhat love him.. but, i'm also happy and in love with my current boyfriend.
Do i maybe have unresolved feelings because he never gave me a proper answer when I confessed? Or maybe i'm feeling nostalgic? Maybe i got with my current boyfriend too soon? I don't know.. i need opinions, just something.. please.
P. s my current boyfriend knows about my past with this guy. I tell him everything, but i don't want him to know that i'm having these thoughts..
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forget this other guy, you are just fixating on him cause yes he never did shit and he never would! You just need to know that he is this type of person that could never give you what you have with your current boyfriend! If he wanted to he would. Dating him would be constant worry and wondering how you stand, same as now. Also you never properly got to know him so you imagine ideal version of him youd most like. If you are happy and content with your current boyfriend good for you, hold onto that. We people sometimes love rush of uncertanity and couldves but that is toxic adrenalin. Be happy in stability and safety and someone showing you contstant effort and affection.
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