Those in a long distance relationship, do you ever get depressed?

[Anonymous]

I feel so depressed not being able to see him. Every time I talk to him I think it will make things easier but it infact makes it harder. How do I get out of this funk? How can I get through this hangup?

[DizzyDesii]

I actually liked LDR’s because i enjoyed my physical space. But because it wasn't in person, i put extra pressure on how much we communicated verbally and some dudes didn't like that 🤷‍♀️ And then once you see each other in person and then go back home, the shit just gets worse cause you have fallen more into eachother and reeeally expect a boost in communication. Either way LDR becomes depressing if both dont put in the same amount of effort. But also LDR are not meant to go on for more than a year. Like both folks need to be putting in effort to live in the same city within that time

[Asker]

I mean I do sometimes enjoy having my physical space but it gets lonely sometimes too not seeing the other person. LDRs definitely has its pros and cons. And yeah I expect more communication everytime after we meet up and I feel he feels pressured too. We so far are putting in the same amount of effort but it's just the loneliness is getting to me. I am trying to get us to be closer but he has to want that too and I'm not sure if he does right now. Maybe because it's early days he feels we shouldn't be thinking about it too much but I really am willing to move to be closer to him which I have told him but he doesn't want me to make that sacrifice if things don't work out which sucks because I feel like he's not taking it seriously as I am.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea you have to get on the same page or it won't work.

[exitseven]

yes, it sucks if you are the only one putting in the effort.

[exitseven]

I had a long distance relationship for 3 years. I was depressed the whole time. Even when we got to see each other it would be depressing because I knew it was only for a week or so.

[Asker]

Oh wow I'm sorry. That's how it's feeling so far. I don't want to feel like this. I want things to work because I really love him.

[exitseven]

If you both put in the effort it might eventually work. If you are the only one doing all the work then it will fail.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Saamee]

Yes everything just remains on camera