Can we fall in love with someone because they are good looking?

Question

They say that if you love someone, you will love their defects and personality.
What if I fall in love with someone because of their looks, then I accept their defects and don’t care about their personality, I still want them, is it still true love?
If I accept their defects and not willing to let them go every time o look at them, is it still love?

AaronKrieger · Accepted Answer

No, that's lust and possibly obsession unless you are willing to love them the same if their looks falter. I don't know you and your situation, but maybe it's not just looks?

I have been attracted to a crazy girl despite her issues before and apart of it was her looks, but she also was very predictable, which made it interesting. You can feel like you are with someone just because of their looks if their personality is bad, but in reality it might not be just that.

Again, I don't know your situation and I'm not trying to psychoanalyze you, but just throwing out an example of maybe what it could be instead. Sometimes we don't realize shit about ourselves and it takes someone else telling us to know about it.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

LOL if you talk to anybody that gets into a brand new relationship they will say hey if you see my girlfriend or my boyfriend they are so hot they're so good looking and those are the relationships that never last you don't ever hear a person say hey if you see my new girlfriend she is smart she's confident her heart is beautiful she thinks of others before herself she doesn't judge people she has a heart of gold when you can look deep inside somebody and you know who they are from the inside out that's when relationships work if the heart is beautiful then the outside is just all the extra bonus

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

I think you're confusing desire with love. Everyone loves a pretty face and body, as in enjoys the carnal desire that those two engender. But, a nice face and body have nothing to do with WHO a person is, what kind of mind and heart they have, and how they treat other people.

You can live on a diet of sex for awhile, but not much past that while. Good bodies and faces have little to do with a good personality and personage. Good sex doesn't track with a good anything else either.

And sex and love are two entirely distinct entities. It pays you in droves NOT to confuse the two. Though they can run together, they also, often, run separately.

Anonymous · Answer

Most women think it is. But the truth is most women delude themselves because they need this feeling so bad. But most women today are so toxic they have no real concept of what real love is. This is one of the reason I like this site. Some are trying to figure it out (those you try to help) and the rest have no intention of ever trying but they're still bitter AF and they are entertaining to watch.😆😆😆

DarkLegacy · Answer

Nope, that is just the femnist thinking of women under 40

clampfan101 · Answer

No. We can love their looks without lusting over them, but even that’s not love on its own.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope. That is infatuation, not love. Love is a commitment

sheikalana · Answer

That's more attraction than love.

Tomisworthless · Answer

Think that’s what’s called lust

slatyb · Answer

No, I can't

shades777 · Answer

absolutely

In_Trance · Answer

probably not

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, obviously.

Anonymous · Answer

:) :)

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