Do you believe in soulmates or the idea of finding "the one"? Why or why not?

[OKrts98]

[Anonymous]

Yes, I more than believe in it. It is obviously that it is true. Most people however are never ready for that person. They believe that person is just suppose to love them as the piece of crap they currently are. That's not how life works.

If they actually found the right person they'd ruin it. We walk/drive pass the right person probably every month. "The one" isn't one person. There is no difference between one person and another other than the mind. Multiple people could have the characteristics and desires you want in a mate. Multiple people could desire you once you've further reached your potential. The problem is you aren't ready. It's way more simpler than people think.

The Weeknd can get beautiful girls, not because they are the one but because they desire him. He has fulfilled enough of his potential that he is desirable. You don't have to be rich or famous. However, the person with the most leverage has the most to give. That is the person that everybody wants. Give kindness. Give physical attraction. Give money. Give love. Give romance. Give freedom. Give hard work. Give kids. Give jokes.

The Weeknd's problem is he doesn't understand that to have a lasting relationship you both have to have certain unwavering traits and if you don't play by the winning formula you lose most of the time. You can hear his problem all in his songs.

The one is absolutely a real thing. The problem is everyone thinks it's magic.

[Phoenix98]

To me my idea of the soulmate is less there is one singular person you can be happy with in the world. And more the idea that "the one" is just the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with because your connection is great and they make you happy and elevate your life.

I don't buy that there is only one single person in the world that your destined to be with and that's it.

If anything there's multiple possible people that you could be fated to cross paths with and be with depending on the path you take in life and those people could all be possible options for the one you'll choose to spend the rest of your life with. I think that's a more pragmatic way of looking at it.

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe God gives you options based on your current and future personality but you have to get your act together to access the chances he is given you. God won't give you an opportunity that is too easy to get because God wants you to grow and learn and work hard, but God won't give you somebody you have to crack skulls or work crazy hard to win over, either because God wants you to focus on him and on loving others and not on your blind work ethic that ignores all human beings beside you.

[Anonymous]

With as many mates and even marriages I have had, Recently split up with the last one, I am wondering why God never made it meant to be for me to stick with one guy. I do have an ex though forever who will always be a friend and my family.

[Opinion Owner]

thanks

[OlderAndWiser]

The idea that there is only one perfect matter for us in the entire world seems to be a a convenient explanation for those who have never had a successful relationship. I’m sure there are many women with whom I could be quite happy. . . but one is plenty!

[Leapfrog00]

Maybe, I mean, if I ever met a girl who accepted me for me, liked to read books, and also learn new things and try new things, that would be amazing. From my experience, intelligent girls are easier to talk to and are responsible people.

::Sighs:: I don't think many girls like that exist.

[OKrts98]

Hope you'll definitely find such a girl one day! 🤩

[Anonymous]

I do, because I did.
I can't convince anyone of it, but when you meet that person, you'll know.

I'll just say that when I met her, we had an instant connection. Not like we got along and had things in common either. We actually had nothing in common. It was just like we had known eachother for years.
We could both be 100% ourselves and we could talk to eachother so easily.

We became best friends literally the first day we met and we never spent more than a day away from eachother after that. And no matter how bad things got between us, it didn't matter. Absolutely nothing could pull us apart.

Unfortunate events took her away from me, but I've never had that connection with anyone and never will again. It's pretty indescribable. Soul mates exist, 100%. Not everyone gets to meet theirs though, but they're out there. You will when you die if you don't here on earth. Hence the term "soul" mate

[Opinion Owner]

And no one could figure out why we were together, it was a very unlikely match with a big age difference lol.
But it wasn't a human connection with your typical things that make a good match. It was a soul connection. That's how I know

[SnowedIn]

I do. I've been lucky enough to have it happen three times for love. Once for soulmates.

Why? Because there are people you can love. And because with all the people in the world, it is possible to have a soulmate. Orders of magnitude more difficult than someone you love, but possible.

[Anpu23]

Bot inly do I not believe in it, but a woman who talks about it on a dating profile is an immediate swipe left.

The sure impossibility that there is ONE person for everyone. Think about it the chances of two individuals finding each other even if they were both in the same large city are astronomical. But we're talking about the whole frigging planet. Then comes language barriers and political issues. Come on... better to understand that we can love and can be loved, that people can work out a relationship and be healthy and happy.

[LiamJHayden]

Not in the sense of "The Only One" on the planet for me. With four billion women there are likely many many who could be the one.

The big danger with the concept is, of course, many people seem to think that they have found "The One" after having already promised a lifetime commitment to another.

[hbg84]

I used to. But now not so much. I had a soulmate when i was a kid. We were best friends. Spent the night at each other's house. Then when we were around 7 or 8 her mom met a guy got married and moved to another state. Then a few years later they came back to visit and because of a funeral. We spent all the time we could together. Which wasn't much. We exchanged addresses before she left. We both started bawling like straight up ugly crying because we didn't want to be separated again. I wrote her a letter once and it ended up coming back. Her mom had moved her again and didn't leave a forwarding address. That was the last time we saw each other. I tried looking her up from time to time on Facebook but no luck.

[Daniela1982]

That makes no sense. If there is a soul mate or "The one", they could live anywhere in the world, which would make them pretty much impossible to find/meet. Your chances of meeting them would be like 1 in 7 billion. You would have a better chance of winning 10 Power Ball lotteries in a row.

[Sunssong]

You're advertising your ignorance.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Daniela1982 There are more than one. It's not just one person in the entire world. God creates MANY options of possible matches for everyone. We only need to find ONE of them. THEN they become our soulmate.

[Daniela1982]

@Jamie05rhs What you are really saying is that anyone can be. Just as any woman can be beautiful, and the one, to the man who has fallen in love with her. I agree with that.

[Jamie05rhs]

Nope. False. Not just anyone. It is a very small percentage of the overall population.

If you could match with anyone, then that would mean that everyone is the same. And we all know that's not true.

[Daniela1982]

@Jamie05rhs My opinion is that if God matches me with someone - that would be "the one".

[Jamie05rhs]

@Daniela1982 I agree with that.

[EricSummer]

No, that's just a story invented for young people to give them a bit of consolation. If they cannot find a partner, maybe it's just that "the one" has not crossed their way, yet.

We should choose well, and some people are more compatible than others, but it's still mainly about working it out in a relationship later. The one person who becomes special is still taken out of a great number of suitable mates.

[catiecatie]

So I do believe in it but I feel like mine either died or he’s really far away. I do believe in energies that match each others pretty well and I do believe I have meet that guy but I don't know. My male friend said he’s giving you mixed signals so it’s a 50-50. So I don't know how I’d approach that.

[richardcory]

No - out of billions of people it doesn't make sense that there is only one. But there are a lot of things that are hard to quantify that makes a couple good for each other, and if you find that you have basically found your "soul mate"

[inhua]

"soulmate" sounds great on paper but for many couples, their "soulmate" turned out not be their "soulmate"

humans are still animals controlled by our biological impulses of lust and arousal. we are much closer to chimps than we are to robots or gods

[Anonymous]

There are too many people in the world, it is statistically impossible not to bump into someone who is similar to you. I believe that is what soulmate means, someone who agrees with you on pretty much everything. It can come in many forms; lover, friend, cousin, etc. Soulmates recognize each other almost instantly precisily because it's like looking into a mirror.

[YourExLover69]

I used to be believe in it. That there might be my better half who should be my bestest, closest friend, who loves me unconditionally without any greed of money and physical looks. But now I admit no such thing exists.

Without greed of money, wealth I haven't found any girl 😔

[Anonymous]

I strongly believe and i will wait for it to happen. And sometimes I felt a very strong connection, but that person turned out to be a player. But I believe in soulmates. I have prayed to God for a soulmate. In life, there should be a person with whom you have a soul-to-soul relationship. One who isn't with you because of how you look but he should be life long companion.

[Minahh]

Yeah I do. I had a relationship, been on few dates and none of them was the one. You just know it and feel it when you meet that person. They are your perfect match. The one your heart has been yearning for this whole time but you've been always distracting yourself with useless people.

[Genie23]

I do and I met mine.

[shades777]

Its a cutr concept to give people false hope but the truth is you have to be a likeable person for anyone to like you and you have to be attractive physically to be approached in a dateable fashion, andddddddddddddd you have to take initiative. So I think its a lot less wishful thinking and more action oriented

[JustMeL120]

I don't think there is such thing as a soul mate as we all have free will and love is a choice. People who believe in soul mate are vulnerable to narsisstic love bombing an sosiopath mirroring and abuse.

[sawno]

Yes, I already found (one of) mine before. I just hope its meant to be this lifetime and that I once again can enjoy a relationship on that level after the circumstances blocked us from continuing the last one.