Look, sometimes it is nothing but platonic friends. Sometimes it is more. But that doesn’t preclude you from putting limits on who his friends can be. You chose him. You love him. You have to trust that he has a mind of his own, and he will make his own decisions.
By giving him an ultimatum out of fear of losing him, you may lose him. Preventing him from having females in his life is not the only way to keep him. In fact, insecurity pushes away people just as often, if not more often.
Even if there is something between him, you do not own him. You need to let hm be the person he is going to be. If he truly loves you, she is no threat to you.
The word "platonic" is easy to understand. But the consequence of a man getting closer to a woman can be a lot more complicated, emotionally speaking.
It's of course fine for us to have friends of the opposite gender. But to test it out, would he mind bringing you when meeting her? Really, if it's strictly platonic, what harm is there when you go with him to meet her as a friend?
And would he mind you having a "platonic" friend of the opposite gender?
All these said, would you both still be OK or filled with jealousy?
It's something you both have to discuss, agree on boundaries and then respect each other for it. Otherwise, this relationship is probably shaky on emotional issues that cannot be easily resolved.
Why would you want to? He's already using this relationship to polarize you. What possible reason would you want to stick around someone like that?
I had that. He was in love with ms. A for 10 years. While she dated other guys.
he broke up with a girlfriend Ms. B because of her.
I came in the picture… Ms. a told him… I would take him away from her… so sick…
I did…. He broke up with me… he went back to Ms. A.
I got him back… we fought like crazy… he finally woke up… “left” Ms. a.
we are now married.
you? Leave him. I will not allow to be treated #2…or disrespected.
so 15 years. of them… now he is with me… not her.
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u You either trust him, or you don't.
If she's truly a best friend, she will make it a point to become friends with you too.
If she avoids you, there is something more there.
Invite her to dinner or lunch, the 3 of you, and see for yourself how they interact, and her intentions.
I’ve been there. Ask him why and what is it about her? This one idiot told me, “well she always wanted to be the one to take my virginity and i mean, thats a really good friend. Its like our pact for if things dont workout between me and someone else”. Lmao i do not trust MOST mfs with friends of the opposite sex. You have to question what their friendship is like early on because what that dude had with that girl was not friendship
So is it because she is female and you view her as a threat, or because you don't want him to have friends.
If something were to happen it would have happened a long time ago.
I have a couple females that are close friends, but that is all.
I see them more as a sister and I live way north of Mason Dixon line.
I don't really do platonic so with that in mind it's a question of what and when.
It's called controlling and jealousy grow up they are just friends you keep this up he will be gone
Don't
Simple you tell him to stick his platonic best friend girl in his ass and leave , sorry to say but it doesn't work like that will never work your guy is just full of bullshit
you should be his best friend as well tho 🤔
Never trust them
dont do it
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