Would you sleep with a Friend's Signifigant Other provided they never found out?

[pervertedjester]

No judgements or comments needed. Just interested in the poll.

Porvided they NEVER found out out, Absolutely!

The guilt would be too much, I don't think I could.

[Finchie40]

I wouldn’t now , but I have in the past when I was going through my selfish stage of having my heart shit on by a girl that I gave my heart to , A friend of mine from the past was married to a girl I was very attracted to , her and I had so much in common , to the point I felt she shouldn’t be with my friend and I am not going to lie , I was surprised to see her with him , to be honest , because I knew her before , she was with him and I couldn’t piece together why they were together cuz they were so opposite. So what happened was, I ran into him out of the blue and him and I caught up and reminisced, he told me he was married now and still living in the neighborhood. We talked for a bit and then he invited me over to hang out , so I went over , not realizing he was married to this girl that I knew from my past as well When her and I saw each other that’s pretty much all it took , the way we looked at each other was like a scene from a romantic movie , but I instantly backed off out of respect for my friend and didn’t think to much of it , but she didn’t back off , She was secretly calling me behind his back , and at first I was just taking it as she was just being friendly cuz her and I knew each other from the past , not realizing she really wanted me, and before I knew it , she showed up at my doorstep throwing herself at me , and I didn’t resist , we ended up having amazing sex and after we finished , we talked and I told her we are so wrong to be doing this , but for some reason i can’t resist you and I was always attracted to you and surprised to see you end up with him , she said she was always attracted to me as well and always had the hots for me but at the time I was with my ex , so we started making out again and having more sex , we promised to keep it a secret cuz we both didn’t want to hurt my friends feelings , her and I secretly continued having sex secretly throughout a couple months time , not realizing she was going home to her husband, treating him like shit , he would call me out of the blue to vent and I knew everything that came out of my mouth was a lie , and I felt like a pile of shit by giving him advice knowing I was banging his wife , even though I wanted to be with her , I was stuck in the middle of not knowing what to do I then called her and told her , for me to see her again, she needs to end her marriage with him , I said I can’t live with this guilt that is eating me alive , after that conversation I didn’t hear from her since and I also didn’t hear from my friend as well , Part of me felt like maybe they rekindled their marriage so I just moved on , Later down the road, I found out from another friend of mine that they were divorced , part of me to this day , feels she told him the truth about us , which lead to them divorcing , I kept my distance and realized I could never do that again to a friend , I look at it as a learning experience, cuz I realized how selfish I was , But the connection her and I shared was amazing , and part of me felt like she should be with me , but I let it go , I did search her up to see that she is remarried now to another guy, so I left it as is and moved on with my life

[natedawg0620]

Why? she's remarried, she's ready for the sequel 😂

[Finchie40]

Trust me, it crossed my mind lol

[Anonymous]

I would not. My dick would.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO and thank you 3 guests who like my opinion.

[Rei13]

No I wouldn’t do that with a friend’s boyfriend whether I was single or not. I have found friends partners attractive in the past. The worst I did was sleep with a guy my ‘friend’ liked (didn’t really value the friendship and it was more her using me but unrelated to this). She never found out and they never dated. I think felt more guilty about him wanting to date me where he refused to with her. I am in a relationship now and the thought of hurting my boyfriend like that disgusts me so there is also that

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No.

I had lots of occasions like this, when my friend’s boyfriends or crushes have been too flirty with me.

One of them was a football player in the national league, when three of us went at parties, he spent so much time around me, everyone assumed we were in a relationship.

I always avoided him and told him, my friend is the person he should be spending time with and always emphasized that I look at him like a brother and that for me he is just about as sexual as an air balloon. Zero attraction

[DaveJord]

Honestly, I would never sleep with another person's significant other under any pretense that the other person would not find out. There is honestly no way to ever ensure that they would not find out.

So, would I cheat with someone else's significant other?

Well, if I had a significant other of my own, I would never cheat on mine. But yes, I would cheat with someone else's Significant other. I mean if I didn't someone else would, so it would only be a matter a time. But I do not see that as me cheating, because I would be single. She would be the cheater, not me. And yes, I would do it, honestly as long as I didn't care if the other person found out.

Can say this becomes I have been with a person who was cheating. I did not know it at the time, but I found out pretty quick. But honestly it changed nothing for me, I would have done it all over again even if I knew. Because in the end given what I got out of it, it didn't really matter to me. We know it was a sex thing.

[OlderAndWiser]

No, it's absolutely wring, regardless of the state of their relationship, and even if they had already broken up. No excuses ever. Practice the Golden Rule!

[Paris13]

And----OTHER: He is Not Mine to begin with. xxoo

[Avicenna]

No way. That's just plain wrong.

[coachTanthony]

No because I would know and that is worse.

[humanearth]

Nope, I couldn't

I been with my wife so long. That we're known as a team.

Besides the love I have for my wife is so strong. That I can't even fathom the idea of being with another women.

Give you an example:

A few years ago another female gag member needed some help with their plumbing and I was going to be in their area visiting my family. So since I made the 4hr drive and she was close enough. That I offered to fix her plumbing problems.

But I wouldn't go unless my wife was present for the repair. My wife kept saying I trust you, I don't need to go with you.

Even with my wife saying that. I didn't want to take a chance and break that trust. Even though nothing would have happen between me and the female GAG user.

Say if there was one bit of doubt in the back of my wife mind and accused me of doing something. That really effects that trust bond we built up over the years.

So female GAG user (you know who you are) this is why I never came over to fix your plumbing problems a few years ago.

[cuteangelprincess]

You sound like a sweet and honest man, I wish you and your wife the best of luck forever!

[humanearth]

@cuteangelprincess Awe That's so sweet of you to say such kind words

[molonski2]

Look ( honestly ) I've done this , kind of , a few times , but I need to explain , and each they sort of were/weren't together.

1. She turned up on my doorstep in tears , broken up. Put her in with a female friend of mine , but somehow we ended up together for 6 months , I was in my 20s.

2 . I had met her in a night club , well she initially came up to me , my friend ( same bloke as above ) came back with a full sales routine , couldn't be bothered , left her to him. She then rang up and asked me over , I didn't think they were together , but my friend thought they were , he ended up marrying her , they are both nut jobs and it ended in divorce.

3 . My mates wife ( tidy ) , he was screwing everything and drinking heavily , to say he was unfaithful was an understaement , she knew what he was doing ( Not from me ) we had great sex , at various times over 2 years , highly passionate.

So there are always various circumstances to consider , its never black / white as in , would or wouldn't , if I knew their marriage / relationship was great , of course the answer would be no , never easy.

The 1 and 2 guy , eventually found out , and we never spoke again , and I couldn't care less , he was an idiot.

[mstbooblover]

This is a good question. Honestly, although I strictly spoken don't have problems accepting intimacy with any woman I like, I will never touch a friend's significant other. None of the two reasons you mention really apply to me. It's not the feeling of guilt, but rather plain common sense. I don't want to loose good friends just for some fun, and neither do I want them to start fights with other because of some silly suspicions.

The situation would still be different provided they were separated or agreed, or even asked for such intimacy. Yes, the latter happens with some people for different reasons, like some particular fantasy, or because of some medical condition the guy can't have sex anymore, and asked of wished me to do something intimate with his wife.

In case of doubt, my advice is still to stay away from any friend's significant other.

[BadApple69]

It’s my opinion that the act of sex itself isn’t the big issue. Sex is sex… we all have slept with several other people, some people have slept with hundreds of people.
The issue with cheating is the bond that sometimes forms when people are intimate. Falling in love with your friends significant other would be bad. So for that reason I wouldn’t do it, not because of guilt. If it was certain that neither of us fell in love then I wouldn’t have a problem with it. It would have to be safe sex too. No pregnancies from this affair.

[provokeesmokee]

No, but not because of guilt.

Because that sort of dishonesty is absolutely cowardly and disgusting, and I'll be gathering proof of the SO's advances to show to my friend to save them from pain.

I think cheaters are sexually repulsive. They're about as attractive as a syphillis ridden goat.

Dishonesty and cowardice are not attractive traits.

[cuteangelprincess]

Absolutely agreed.

[Sirenboobzilla]

Absolutely not. I wouldn't want it done to me, I'm certainly not going to put someone else through that.

That said, some years ago a girl friend of mine and her boyfriend gave eachother free passes. Her boyfriend had approached me for it. I had initially agreed, but I agreed on the condition that she be informed on it. She consented. 5 years later we're still friends and nothing weird.

[abc3643]

This sort of happened to me (but not as bad) around March 1988. I've felt guilty ever since and my guilt caused me to withdraw from my best friend. He never knew, but we stopped being close friends after that. It's all my fault because of my weakness.

[b_lova]

The potential of it ruining 2 great relationships is too much so I would create boundaries to make sure that doesn't happen. FYI, I wasn't this smart when I was young and apparently all the girls in my friend circle wanted me.

Now if I dislike the guy, I would totally dick her down then celebrate in front of him, with pictures / video if possible.

[marrk]

I don’t sleep around and I would NEVER sleep with someone else’s s/o regardless if I knew them or not. It’s ethically and morally wrong. It’s not about avoiding the guilt. It’s about integrity of self and this world/the idea of relationships/love.

[dynamicyandere]

No. First off, that’s wrong.


Second, I value my peace of mind very much.


For me to have peace of mind, I need to genuinely believe that I’m doing the right thing, and that I’m living my life in a way that I can feel proud of.


I would NOT feel proud of sleeping with my friend’s significant other.


That would make me feel like a horrible friend.


That would weigh on me and rob me of my peace of mind.

[lilyanony1]

No, I dated someone for 10 years, it ended 3 years ago. His friend liked me on this dating app. He clearly forgot me. We got to talking and even after I said who I was, he still tried to keep flirting.
So I basically just told him. His friend wouldn't be happy and he's far too close for anything like that to happen.
He then said maybe of things were different.

But deep down even then it wouldn't have worked out. He's not for me

[Lost42]

In BOLD, so it is very clear.

If you would do this to a friend you are and absolutely deserve to end up alone in everyway. I can't even imagine hurting a friend in this way. Is there not billions of other people on the planet? Why would you need this?

People that do these kinds of things are most likely jealous of their friend for their success, looks or whatever. You really should stay away from people, sounds like a recipe to get your face rearranged.

And, look out too because if she or he would go after the friend for this type of encounter he/she is A) likely upset with the partner and wants to hurt them using you as the tool that you are or B) digging for money and you probably have some to share you dumb ass. Who would even want that gutter rat?

Gross!

[Hot_Mess_Express]

I've had the opportunity in the past. A good friend's boyfriend was all over me at a party. I was pretty drunk so it probably went a little farther thanks should have, but I eventually shut it down and let me friend know.

Ironically though I DID wind up marrying you sister's ex so who knows? 🤣

[PizzaDaddyo]

I have a know a guy that starting hooking up with a coworker of his for months. He even brought her around the crew when we were all out for drinks. Oh yeah… Did I mention she was living with a boyfriend? He even brought the boyfriend around to hang with us. This guy caused them to spilt and didn’t even fancy her like that in the first place. What a fucking ahole right?

[EmyyWolf]

A “FRIENDS” significant other? Ew I don’t think so. I don’t like to share with people I personally know.

I've slept with married men. Given that I don’t personally know that woman. And I can’t be faulted. I can just say “”oh he didn’t say he was married!! “MM NOT HE DIDNT” 👀