What can I do if my husband hurts me so much?

[Anonymous]

I can't stop crying.. my husband hurt my feelings so much these past few days. For a while we were okay and looked like we improved the things but today he rejected me twice when I tried to initiate sex and pushed me when I tried to kiss him. I'm so heart broken. He also said many hurtful things and I feel so alone now.

How can someone do this.. before I met him a lot of guys wanted me, I never imagined I would be with someone who doesn't appreciate to have me.

[Anonymous]

Communicate your feelings to him if you haven’t already. Unless he was always this way, then he could be having some stress or troubles and may not even realize he’s being mean to you as a result. It could even be something you’ve done that he’s being hostile over rather than communicating the issue.

[Asker]

He says I don't understand his needs either.. half I can say that I agree. But he has a really flexible work schedule that is paid quite well, my parents helping us with raising our son, and I can't understand from where is coming all that tired. Believe me or not most of the time I see him laying down and using mobile. He is doing many things for me and he says thats the biggest source of his tiredness.

I'm not perfect either , I know , I may criticise his behaviour a bit too much but I am trying to work on this issue. It's just very frustrating to live such a limited life especially when young. I wanna explore my sexuality much more , and do more adventurous things. I don't know what else can be done.

[Opinion Owner]

Even with him being tired, it shouldn’t have anything to do with sex. He needs to understand that the rejection is hurtful and he’s doing a bad job at reassuring you if there really isn’t anything wrong. As a young couple, maybe marriage wasn’t the best idea, because who you were and what you liked in your late teens-early 20s maybe be a lot different than where your tastes are now. Same can be said for him. Who knows if you two are even compatible anymore, I watched this happen with my friend who got married at 19 and divorced at 23. It’s life, and you deserve to be happy.

[Anonymous]

Tru sitting down and having a deep conversation with him and maybe he will understand and things may change

If else, you clearly deserve better , someone who would make you feel loved and wanted and reciprocate your sweet gestures

[OlderAndWiser]

Why did you get married? How long have you been married? Do you have any children together?

[LiamSawyer]

Communication is the key to success in any kind of a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I know it is not easy, but you need to move on. You deserve better than this.

[Asker]

Yes, I agree. I'm stuck for financial reason too. I'm currently unemployed and I depend on his salary mostly. Trying to change that now by looking for a job.

[TonyMetal___86]

You have to sit and a have a chat together to see what's wrong!

[Asker]

That's right. It's just that the communication is not going well between us.. I don't know , I guess we will try again.

[TonyMetal___86]

Yep try again!

[BigDog1989]

Are you happy, otherwise?

[Asker]

No, I'm not. I already cry a lot for a few days in a row. So much emotional pain he put in me that it literally hurts my heart physically.

[BigDog1989]

Then why stay?

[Asker]

I guess I can't let him go. I still have feelings for him and I miss our good memories. Another reason is the financial part. I wish I can leave somewhere where I'm not surrounded by painful memories but I can't afford.

[BigDog1989]

My cousin married his ex wife, because he thought he couldn't get any better. She cheated. They divorced

[Anonymous]

so why are you still with him for

[Anonymous]

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