Hey everyone, I could really use some advice on a situation. Around three years ago, I met someone online, and we've been texting and talking ever since.
When I first met them, I was in a relationship, and I told them this. I said that we can be friends but nothing more. I was in was a physically and mentally abusive relationship at the time so he was someone I could confide in. They portrayed themselves as successful and having everything together, even lying about where they lived. I've always been honest and open with them, sharing all about myself without holding back.
They made me feel as if I had to be a certain kind of woman to be with them, they laid out the role I was expected to play in their life if I am to be their wife and mother of their child. This was the first straw. I expressed to them that I would like to continue to be friends with them but not be in a relationship with them. I did this because I wanted see who they truly were.
Over the past year, we have grown close as they have shown a side of them that is soft hearted, charming and kind. However, things took a turn recently, when they confessed that they had lied about their success and where they lived. Even though I've never met them in person or seen them on camera, this revelation has left me feeling uneasy and unsure about trusting them.
They claimed to love me, talked about marriage and having a family but it's hard for me to overlook the deception. I told them that I needed my space because it was quite overwhelming to find out I have been lied to all this time. That paired with the fact that I have never met them in person left me very confused and gave me mixed feelings. They said I was being dramatic with my response, but can't help but feel paranoid about their intentions and wonder if I should continue investing in this relationship. Any advice or insights would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance for your help!
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They are an online friend. Don’t invest energy into a romantic relationship with them. When will yo meet them irl?
Not sure when, we have been talking about meeting irl, but the extra effort has been made to meet recently when I brought it up on a serious note. They said they can meet next year in January because they have to go meet their sister in another state and their parents in another town so with all of the travel they're not able to meet sooner.
This is further proof they are not serious about having a committed romantic relationship with you. Not setting you as a priority and pushing off a time to meet until an undefined date in the future which he could always change
Yes, I am also concerned about this