Is it fair that my boyfriend expects me to pay half for all bills, mortgage etc when he earns almost double what I do?

[Anonymous]

For context boyfriend earns almost 2x my salary, has 10x the amount of savings I do. He still expects me to go halves on everything, mortgage and bills and even expects me to pay when we go out for food/cafes.
- We have been together almost 6 years - lived together 2 and shared a mortgage for 1. We also have a cat (which I paid the adoption fee for).

Just think it’s unfair, I work hard and am struggling to save with the cost of living etc. am I being unreasonable?

[BlackBeauty90]

Yes it is fair.

A relationship is a partnership. And many partnerships are 50/50 all around the world and in thousands of industries, demographics, etc. If you can't contribute to a partnership - in business, life or relationships - then you shouldn't be bothering.

The alternative is you sign a prenup and a letter acknowledging that everything he purchases, contributes, etc. is his and his ONLY and if you two were to separate you can keep your cat and whatever other things you may have done. And he can keep the majority - the house, cars, etc., - without any protest from you.

Sorry.

I went from dirt poor family life to making $250,000 / year as a medical consultant through extremely hard work in university & then doing the work of 4-5 people throughout all of COVID in extremely short staffed medical centered.

I have no sympathy for people who expect others to pay for them. Particularly when there is an avenue - such as your boyfriend helping pay for education so you can get a better job - for you to better yourself.

Either shape up or ship out.

[Asker]

I have a degree and a masters degree I don’t need anymore education thank you.

[BlackBeauty90]

You need an attitude adjustment. If you're barely making any money with such then you quite obviously got the wrong degrees and/or your personality keeps you from getting anywhere.

[BlackBeauty90]

And by the way there's no harm in future education. If your career is a dub then actually intelligent people look elsewhere as a potential career option. They don't sit there, getting nowhere, and whining about it.

[Asker]

You’re awfully naive for a 33 year old hag. Not everyone has the ability to hop out of Uni and make 250k. And FYI the company I work for has paid for courses for me. I’m a qualified accountant. It’s just that my boyfriend makes wayyy more in his job but makes me pay for half of everything which is unfair.

[BlackBeauty90]

And you're not that intelligent I just said that you could get your boyfriend to help pay for you. Obviously you have a low IQ.

And again it is not unfair if you are actually an accountant you would know this but I guess that's a make believe claim of yours

[Asker]

And you're a femcel who pretends to earn 250k on girlsaskguysdotcom

[RoseySarah]

Nope not fair if it was maybe like a year or two yes it's fair your both growing together!

6 years living together now that is so unfair.

He clearly won't marry you and is showing that his money is more important then your relationship.

He is getting you for pretty much free! In his eyes. So why not keep using you for it?

I'd make him put a ring on me or leave! Nothing is tieing you two together and if he cheats owell you will probably never know.

See this happen way to much with marriage going out of style. One just uses the others things till they get bored and move on.

[Lliam]

If you are living together, it's totally unfair of him.
He sounds like the kind of punk who has a grudge against all women because of "feminism" and is proving a point by treating you with disrespect.
He is just using you for as long as you will let him and thinks you are dumb for sticking around.
He's a misogynist and probably a narcissist who will gas light you into thinking that you are the greedy, selfish one.

I'd say you've wasted enough of your life on this dick wad.

[Billlewis]

No, and even if you both earned the same amount of money, it still wouldn't be right, in my opinion.

[HelpfulWoman]

it's fair. if you can't afford it, then you need to not be in that house. its you and your boyfriend, that's 50/50.

[LazerBean]

Yeah, it's a sucky situation but it's totally fair. That's just the price for shacking up.

[jahaims]

What is unfair about splitting responsibilities 50/50