My bfs mom always welcomes me to family gatherings and she pays for my food, so why did she say I couldn’t go on vacation with her and her son?

[Anastacia1989]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now and it’s a serious committed relationship…. overall we hve a happy/ healthy relationship and I’ve met his entire family and his parents are always very welcoming and warm towards me - especially his mom.

His folks got a vacation house in the USA and I asked my bfs mom if I could come along with her son ( I have a valid passport and was going to pay my own air fare). His mom told me “not this time” cuz she’s still busy furnishing the house and she’s also very busy work-wise this time of the year and she’s also not inviting any of her friends either….

why would his mom say “no” to me if I’m always welcome to family gatherings and if she likes me so much and sees how happy I make her son?

Personal reasons - not liking me

Being busy/ wanting alone time with her son

Updates

3 mo

My boyfriend kept asking me to go get a passport form a year ago so that I would be able to come with him, but his mom told me no….

Updates

3 mo

Should I take this personally?

[Saiesh30]

No definitely not. Don't take it personally at all.
It's a tendency amongst us that we get attracted so strongly towards something negative than to a whole of positives.
So, it's understandable you didn't like her response however don't take it personally. Don't let it grow on you.
Like she said she hasn't invited any of her friends and wants some work to be done there. Also, perhaps she's willing to spend time with her son which is totally fine as well.
None of that makes her bad or your boyfriend bad. Don't think too much about it.

[Anastacia1989]

Then why did my boyfriend insist on me getting a passport if I’m not going to go with him?

[Saiesh30]

In my understanding, he didn't expect her mom to say no.

[Anastacia1989]

So why did she say no if she likes me so much? Secondly should I tell her that her son insisted for me to get a passport?

[Saiesh30]

Why did she say no is something only she can answer right?
But like you mentioned how y'all have a great relationship and they're always welcoming, so you can certainly go ahead and have a conversation with her. You can tell her ofc how your boyfriend asked you to get the passport done and you were looking forward to the trip.

[molonski2]

I think in fairness she has personal reasons , but in seriousness and at your age , if this guy of yours had a backbone , and grew a pair , he'd insist " She is coming " , must be a serious Nancy boy.

[Anastacia1989]

What’s a Nancy boy?

[molonski2]

A Pussy. " Grow a pair " man

[Anastacia1989]

What if he doesn’t wanna disrespect his mom? Secondly she covered his air fare for him

[molonski2]

He's a grown man !! Surely you are kidding? He's not 14 ! You dont just accept what she says..
At very least provide an ultimatum " If she can't come , I ain't going " , he shouldn't let this bitch rule his life in his 30s.. Geeezzz , just obvious , what a joke ! Grow a pair , mummies boy , sht !

[molonski2]

You are both not 14 years old or something !
If my mother had of tried that , in my 30s , let me tell you she would have known about it.

[Lara_Croft]

You're not her daughter in law- don't take offense. It is well, also ask yourself why you're dating a man for 2 years. Why aren't you married or considering that path? It is well

[Anastacia1989]

Ya we’ve talked about marriage later on and it is a committed relationship

[IslaTheWitch]

She explained it to uou. What more do you need? Don't be greedy, accept the explanation and move on.

[Anastacia1989]

Why was my boyfriend so pushy for me to get a passport then?

[IslaTheWitch]

Ask him?

[Likes2drive]

It’s probably just family members only that can go, if you were married to him then it would be a real problem not inviting you , so don’t take it personal, there might be more to it

[Wiredone]

It sounds like this might be a "working " vacation. They will probably be busy furnishing the place. You shouldn't take it personally

[Sevenpointfive]

he's fucking his mum. stop trying to make this pornhub

[Jamie05rhs]

Because she's been paying for your food, and you let her.

[Anastacia1989]

She willingly does…. I never expect it or force it…. what does this have to do with anything?

[Jamie05rhs]

She assumes that she is going to have to pay for you if you go on the vacation.

[Anastacia1989]

Nope never I’m not like that…I would’ve paid my own air fare

[Jamie05rhs]

@Anastacia1989 I know! I believe you 100%!!
But it's not about what I think. It's about what SHE thinks.

[Anastacia1989]

Thanks for believing me I appreciate ☺️
Ya possibly might be one thought lol

[Jamie05rhs]

You are welcome! 🧡

[Anastacia1989]

Np! 😘