Why do some people want open relationships? (Page 2)

[Astarlessnightsky]

They just want. Just the way other people don't want it.

[KrakenAttackin]

You are not a prude. I would never, ever, tolerate an "open" relationship.

[Billlewis]

You wouldn't have to tolerate an open relationship, because you're more likely to be the guy who's enjoying sex with another guy's wife or girlfriend, etc, in my opinion.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Billlewis No, I don't want a woman who's a cheater. These women are damaged AF.

[Billlewis]

I see. I hadn't really thought about that.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Billlewis Plus you run the chance of a dangerous confrontation with the other guy. Who needs that over a damaged woman.

[Billlewis]

Yes, Sir, but I'm referring to the women who are in openly acknowledged arrangements of this type. But you're right, a situation like that can go bad real fast.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Billlewis Plus, I am not a "share bear", I don't share a woman I care about with others.

[Billlewis]

Right.

[madewithingredients]

If you really loved a woman, and then one day she tells you she wants an open relationship, would you still love her?
If no, did you ever really love her?

[Juxtapose]

@madewithingredients did she really love you?

[madewithingredients]

@Juxtapose i see what you're saying, but if you love someone only because they love you, i personally think that's not really love, is my point. it's dumb to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't love you, but being in a relationship and loving someone are obviously different things.

[Juxtapose]

@madewithingredients I lead with my head, not with my emotions. Love is much more than the honeymoon phase, it is a conscious choice to be committed even when things get hard.

[Juxtapose]

If love was all about the emotions, people would always separate after the honeymoon phase.

[KrakenAttackin]

@madewithingredients "Did you really love her"? Yes, absolutely, and now she is fundamentally changing the relationship dynamic. If she wants to fuck other people I'm out. I don't cheat and I expect faithfulness.

[Juxtapose]

@madewithingredients I should be enough for her. If I am and she just wants some extra kinky fun, I don't mind frankly upon further reflection.

My answer before wasn't good.

[madewithingredients]

seems like you just wanted her for selfish reasons. i think if you really love someone, you just want what's best for them, to be safe, and to be happy.
like, if i love my kid, i don't expect them to love me back. i just what's best for them, to be safe, and to be happy. if they hate me, well, that sucks but it doesn't change the fact that i just want what's best for them, to be safe, and to be happy.
i think it's the same with a spouse. if they stop loving you, or they want to change the relationship dynamic or whatever, well, i don't see why that's a reason to stop loving them. if they want to break up with you then well you should be okay with that because you ought to want them to do what's best for them. if they want to break up it's because the relationship is probably no good for them, and you want what's best for them right? so let them go. maybe they fell in love with someone else who makes them happy. if you really love them then you would want them to be happy, right?
maybe they want an open relationship but you can't handle that. that's fine. don't do the open relationship thing then. if you guys really love each other, you'd just want to make sure the other person is happy or whatever.

[Juxtapose]

@madewithingredients that would be loving them as a friend. I'm not going to love someone romantically if they are not interested in me, that's stupid.

[Jerre]

They probably do not love each other. They just want lots of sex.

[Anonymous]

i am also in Berlin lol i wouldn't know, i dont date

[Asker]

why don't you date?

[Opinion Owner]

for these exact damn reasons. im 30 years old so i cannot be a sex toy to sb

[laly520]

playing around with no restrictions

[jahaims]

Immaturity, broken cultural and societal values

[Overandunder89]

Variety. Some people need it. Some don't.

[Anonymous]

They are cheap people