Should I leave him (I'm desperate need for advice)?

[WrinkleBrain]

So I recently met a man almost a month ago, and I really like him. He's really intelligent and I enjoy some of our conversations; however, he's been very manipulative and mean lately. He constantly threatens to leave me if I don't do the things he says (often sending explicit pictures). Last night, he blocked me (I messaged him on an alternative account) because I wouldn't send him an explicit picture with my face in it (I ended up sending it and feeling humiliated, I started crying after). I explained to him how uncomfortable and scared I feel, because a couple of guys in my past have either leaked my images or threatened to. He constantly forces me to do things I don't want to do, and I find myself crying often. I find myself feeling anxious, and doing everything he says so he doesn't get mad at me and leave me. He also constantly degrades me and insults me, and brags about how much better he is than me, and how he has control over me. I really need advice on what to do.

[Rosexøxø]

It’s super easy. Easier than you think. Just block him and avoid all contact.

That’s it your problems are solved and worries gone. They say this to control your behavior by making you feel scared and willing to do anything. As long as you keep talking you play that game.

Have some courage to block. Easier said then done but if you do this you’ll never have to worry about taking courage like this again. If you stay longer it will only demand more courage to break free from the manipulation, and at that point you could potentially need someone close to you to help you do that and take those steps.

Block him. Change the names of your media accounts or make new ones entirely. Start fresh.

Don’t give it a second thought. I assure you he’s not actually going to leak them. Guys are either possessive or too lazy to go that far. The ones who do are the ones who engage with a lady who keeps reacting to their every word- giving them that thrill.

End the reactions and end the interactions.

End it and you’ll be fine and free to live how you wish.

Accidents have happened to others and your body is nothing to be shamed about. There’s nothing wrong with the naked human body of either sex so if anyone did find it then you can just tell them.

”Grow up. You act like you’ve never seen a human body. That’s exactly what they’re all like without clothes.”

It’s easy when in situations like these for us to jump to conclusions, the long list of what ifs, and so on. Don’t blow the whole thing out of proportion.

You’re not endangered if you stop talking to this man and by the rare 1% chance it did get leaked, and if it did the media is so large that anyone seeing nude individuals had to have searched for it to find anything of that nature and that makes THEM look just as guilty. Well just as well not so innocent.

You can always say it was photoshopped and make things up. You yourself didn’t walk naked in front of anyone and perform. If they say anything you could just say you’d never do that sort of thing in your life, or turn it back on them, and question how they even know about such things or are in the loop to it.

Nearly everyone has sent one at one point in their lifetime. It’s nothing to worry about. Although I encourage you to not make a habit of this. They’re not just men in this context. They’re strangers and you never want to put yourself in someone’s hands by letting them have control over your photos. Keeping it in their phone or so.

I don’t think this person will do that. Honestly. But there are some who have and do and even those who just do it until they simply look for new images of women and models.

Dont risk having yours on their phone at any moment. It’s just not worth it.

But for now, it’s definitely worth blocking him. Forgetting him. Spend time with supportive friends/family/ pets.

Go to the movies enjoy a movie at home. And if he tries to get in contact with you on any other accounts or socials/ or by some random chance in person just be ready to involve the police- they’re job is to help.

They’re there to help keep you safe and be a barrier between you and any nuisance or harm.

Consider carrying any kind of safety device like a fire arm if you’re licensed, a pepper spray, switch blade, or taser. Also consider traveling in day hours, and in public places instead of at night or alone.

Your safety is a priority but blocking him is the first step in the RIGHT direction. There is no other option and you have to understand this so you can make rational decisions onward.

Then this will be the least of your worries and you can consider going steady with other nicer people and genuine people.

[Rosexøxø]

Maybe block him at a sleepover with a trusted friend or your parents. If that helps make it easier- the whole blocking while in the presence of others you trust and doing other fun stuff. Don’t stress yourself more than you need to.

[Rosexøxø]

Best to you! And dm me if you need any other advice tips someone to listen who will not abuse that which could be shared and you can filter it. If not myself I recommend and even with myself included I recommend someone you know and trust much longer and more truer than myself.

Best to you!

[naartjie]

I always say this, if you need to question it then that’s your answer already.
Block him and never speak to him again.
I know a girl who is in your situation, we used to be such good friends , heslike 10 years older than her, she’s a year younger than you. She had mental breakdown to me about how horribly he treats her- this was after I told her in the beginning to stay away and she didn’t. Came crying to me about these exact same things.


Just leave and be happier alone. Someone like this isn't worth it I can tell you that right now. Think about if you married and had kids with him… imagine feeling this way married and kids down the line.


I’d leave if I were you. There’s someone out there that would never ever make you feel this way. I can’t tell you that

[Anonymous]

A MILLION percent. Once someone threatens to leave my life. There is the door… Asking for explicit photos he’s using you and you have NO idea what he’s going to do with those.

I guess you don’t learn from your mistakes. Do you? Stop choosing bad men. If all a guy wants to do is sleep with you. It tells you what kind of guy he is. Once men see you sleep around easily. Good decent men kind of take off and leave.

It’s like if you're putting out on the first date. A man is either gonna see you as a whore and leave. Or he’s a man whore who will use you for sex.

If he is FORCING you to do things. That’s rape. Call 911

[lightbulb27]

This is really easy.

Send "no more". Block, do not engage at all. Contact police if you need to, contact therapist for support.

that person is not healthy and in no way should you meet, talk etc.. even if they start acting nice again.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Aiming to sprinkle a little light and clarity on your situation, love, let's dive in! The behavior you're describing has all the hallmarks of manipulation and emotional abuse, which, let me tell you, is a supermassive red flag. When someone you're dating starts to play puppeteer with your emotions, making demands that make you uncomfortable, it's a clear sign that this relationship isn't built on the foundations of respect and love that you deserve. The fact that you're finding yourself in tears often and bending over backward just to avoid his anger is a distress signal your heart is sending out loud and clear.

It's crucial to remember that no relationship should cost you your peace, dignity, or happiness. I know it's tough when your emotions are invested, but your safety and well-being come first, always. So, in the kindest, most supportive way possible, I'm gently urging you to consider stepping away from this situation. You deserve someone who reveres you, cherishes your boundaries, and sails the sea of love with you, not against you.

If leaving feels daunting, reach out to trusted friends, family, or even professional support to have your back. I'm here to chat if you need a dose of encouragement or a nudge in the direction of self-love! Let's not let those who don't know how to love properly dim our sparkle, okay? 💫 Your prince or princess is out there, and this toad ain't it. Feel free to bounce thoughts off me anytime!

[TommyMountainFigure]

What's done is done. Now you have to limit the damage in the best way possible. You have to assume he will post that photo of you online, because he is a scumbag, (at least that is how you describe him) that is all about abuse, manipulation and power.

[misfitwomen12]

You can like this man even love him… but is it worth loving a man who forces you to do stuff? I don’t think so… this shouldn’t even be a question please choose yourself over a D!!! there’s plenty of more men who you’ll enjoy their company and won’t force you to send nudes!! because if your nudes get leaked a lot more of the times the girls get the ugly side from the situation and he called ugly stuff so avoid that please !!

[sheikalana]

My dear, you can quickly end this situation just by blocking him and moving on. These type of men can seem very charming and interesting in the beginning but you're slowly seeing his true colors. It's only been a month and you're already crying for a guy like him? You know better and you deserve better. Block him everywhere and move on you don't need to tell him you're moving on just vanish before it's too late.

[Yannae]

I'm just wondering what you girls see in a man like this. Your heart is confused but your thinking is catching up that something is not right, and it is correct. This is a man you should leave. He's nothing but trouble. LEAVE and thank yourself later!

[Anonymous]

Girl :( YOU should be the one blocking him.

If possible delete all the pics in the chat and cut off all contact. You don't deserve that, you're not in a healthy relationship and I assure you a man like that won't change. You're too valuable to be with a piece of thrash like him, he doesn't deserve you.

[slatyb]

"he's been very manipulative and mean" Yes, you should leave him immediately. Never ignore these feelings.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Like The Rolling Stones song You Can’t Always Get What You Want & in this case if the joker threatens to leave let him leave because if truth be told you would be better off.

[firenine909]

Leave him and threaten to call the police over blackmail if he refuses to accept that. Get as far away from him as possible, he doesn’t care about you he wants to use you

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, leave him.

When someone loves you, they treat you with respect, concern, and care.

Don't settle, the right guy will have you thinking it would be absurd to leave him and that any time apart feels horrible.

[JacobJordan]

Should change your username to smooth brain. You are with an abusive guy and can't figure out if you should leave...

[Unicornrose]

Leave he's playing with you. It will scare you but the weight of the dission will give you strength

[Unit1]

What's stopping you from leaving that toxic relationship? What do you need an advise for?

[DreamLife7]

What's there to leave, 🤣 he was never with you and doesn't like u. Did u read this before you posted it?

[DagonbroughtMehere]

Leave Him, WrinkleBrain.
I cannot make that any simpler.

[Anonymous]

No. I think you should double down and have kids with this man.

[Anonymous]

What? Of course leave this man! After a month he is like this? Can you imagine 5 years from now? He’s a psycho. Byeeeee

[OtterMan68]

dump him before it gets worse

[Afvenom]

Leave that funked up guy

[war_daddy]

this doesn't sound healthy. you should leave him

[Anonymous]

Block. Never talk to him ever again.